Does it ever get better..

[Mesvelez2010]

I have bee n w my fiancé for almost three years and we had ups and downs but  when its bad it's bad I love him but at first was more physical then any thing but now.... It's the verbal and emotional that's killing me inside I have always been happy pick up and go out had friends now I have now friend unless I am sleeping with them cause he's pressured me into another woman in our bedroom because of my past acts before his time!! He has beat down my spirit then tells me the love he has for me and how I mean the world to him then next screaming what a sloppy pig of a ***** I am no one will want me with my past I am dirty and will never amount to **** how when he looks at me I make him sick to his stomach how he uses me and lost love a long time ago talks about my taxes this year I spent on me and my son ( not common child ) I worked for when he hardly worked and they took his lil cash for child support . Tells me how he hate me and my kid that my son will never respect a ***** pig of a mother like me then after wants to hug and kiss me tell me how sorry he is and want to make love it's hard cause I don't want to leave I still have love but I have a five year old who sees me balling and breaking me down don't want him to think that's okay.then I don't wanna leave and see him with someone else and better thinking it was me. I have had issues getting pregnant and it's even harder he's younger then me and not mature or educated on fertility issues!!! But I need some advice and help and some kind of direction in this relationship!!!!

[colorclan]

Dont thik about yourself think about your child. If you love your child as much as i think you do than leave ur abusive bf. Your only going to ruin your child's life as well as yours by sticking around. like oprah said LOVE DONT HURT. eventually once u leave ull get over him. its not love if he beats the crap outta you and verbally abuses you.

[margypops]

you said in your post he tells you how he hates you and your kid' your words ..these are not words any child should hear , forget how you feel think of the child ...

[Mesvelez2010]

Thanks to u all I am looking into my options n I have no idea how there's still love there I never had a real relationship to kno what healthy should be like I guess n it's sad cause unfortantly my son loves him no matter what but he's a kid that dnt kno n I def want him to grow to be a good man n love woman treat them like gold u kno!!!!!it hard after so long n feeling how I do I have to build me back up

[allmymarbles]

It takes two to tango. He abuses you and you allow him to abuse you. Yes, you should walk out the door, but what you need more is a good therapist. Leaving him, without addressing your problems, leaves you vulnerable for yet another abuser.

[margypops]

This is no relationship you are being abused and it will never change you will eventually hate him ..Leave ...nothing else to say .Lots of kind decent men out there looking for a good woman .This is horrible for your child who will always remember it ..leave for the childs sake at least .

[cheshchesh819]

the only direction you should be going is through the door,why and how could you love somebody who treats you like this,i just dont get it,he has ruined your life,beat you humiliated you made you feel worthless,and made you do things that you dont want to do,and you say you still loves him,this is not love this is a man who has made you think that this is what a relationship should be like,well it isnt,get out if not fo your sake for the sake of your child.

[melipops]

Hi, You need to get out now don't wait for things to get better (they won't). Don't let your child see this daily. This becomes their reality and the cycle continues. Pack your things and go! He isn't worht it. Don't think twice about it there are shelters for people like you in your situation. Good luck let everyone know how you went.

[AnnieBrooke]

Get out.  You're in a classic abusive relationship.  Abusers get a kick out of hurting their partner and then trying to be lovey dovey to con her into thinking it was all right, then doing the whole thing over again.  This is TERRIBLE for your child to see.  If you can't get out for you, get out for your child, who should be your FIRST priority in your life, not the jerk who is abusing you.  Go for counseling, find a women's center or shelter, and LEAVE.