Is Me And My Child In Danger???

Well im 23weeks preg. and i live with my boyfriend (baby daddy) we also work together. He talks about killing me (explicit detail) he will put a knife to me and pretend to shoot me. we will get into an argument and i try to walk away cause ive had enough an he will bind me an make me stay there get in my face and choke me until i complay to everything he says...he is very verbally abusive i am schizo and well it dose not help..but that is not my concern...im worried about the reality of what he is cabable of...he is very controling he says its cause he loves me to much to let me walk away but i know thats a bunch of bs. he broke the handle on our door so i cant just open it i half to take a butter knife to the door to open it. he wont let me have a phone and he wont let me go anywhere or do anything alone hince why we work together. he puched me once. if i leave i feel he will kill me. and i also think that he will fight me for the baby...so what do i do?...i dont really have any family and he has ran off all my friends...i do not think he will hurt the baby when we do fight he tells the baby he is sorry he dose not want to hurt you only your momma...but will he hurt me to the point of hurting his child without relizing is what i fear...

[shelly448]

Oh my goodness. You need to get out of there! For you and for your baby!! Maybe you could find a women's shelter to stay at until you get back on your feet. they can help you. You should also seek out a support group locally to help you with things. None of what he does to you is OK!! Don't wait until it is too late, please!

[Abby_916]

You need to get out as fast as possible! Not only are you putting yourself in danger but your baby as well. Google a women's shelter in your area and get help. What he is doing is not right! This man has serious mental issues and he will hurt you. Get a restraining order. Do anything to get away from him. A women's shelter will be able to help you get on your feet and support yourself.  Please don't wait till its too late!

[margypops]

I am so sorry ...you dont deserve this abuse , as the others have said you have to remove your self from him, your child will also suffer ..there are places to go to , people will help you .The fact you have come here is a cry for help ..do look up womens shelters for your area and make a new life for yourself and your child .He wont change and it will get worse ...it always does .Good luck let us know how you are doing ...

[Nighthawk61]

Everything that this man is doing to you, he's doing to your baby, already. The sooner you leave, the sooner you'll be independent and happy. Every day you waste you are taking away from the good life that you will shortly have, without him. It's 2012, and women have come a long way. He's acting like you're living in the 50's right now, not the 21st century. He's acting like a barbarian. You need to talk to a therapist about the harm that he's already done to you, by staying as long as you have. The whole world knows this isn't right, and the whole world supports your decision to have a good life, regardless of this bad start. You can overcome the damage, with help. You don't need to think your alone. Shelters for women who say no to abuse are quite nice. You'll be very comfortable, you'll meet other women in the same boat, and make friends, maybe move in to a house with another, so that you're not alone. You can put your energy into doing things that will ensure a fine future for you and the baby. You will be supported to go to college or university, and get a degree or a diploma that will ensure a great financial forecast for you and your child. Everything will be okay, if only you leave this A hole. He's a **** head and you and your baby can do so much better. I had to leave my first husband for the same reason as you. It was THE best decision i ever made in my life. My son is loved by his step father, and has turned into a fine young man. He's proud that i left my first husband. He's learned all about women that stay in abusive relationships. IF you stay, your child will despise you for staying, unfortunately. Your child will not understand your reasoning for staying in a relationship to be abused. In this day and age, nor will anyone else. Please do the right thing and contact a women's shelter. There are many people standing beside you. Please take advantage of the love and support that is available to you. God Bless You and Your Child. God Speed.

[ScarletSorrows]

thank you for all your support i have looked into shelters but there is a waiting list...and the other ones wont take me till baby is born...i seem to need proof of his abuse cause i am diagnosed as schyzo...dose anyone have any ideas of how i should build a case? i keep a journal now and write it all down dates and everything but its not enough for a restraining order...i need atleaset one month of logs...dose anyone know of anything else proof wise?

[Nighthawk61]

Call them everyday, twice a day. Do it while your baby is in your belly, and you've got them with you. The chances are that the baby will stay with his mother. Many people have Schizophrenia (like my husband) and are properly medicated allowing them a normal life. Look outside of your town, for more shelters. You've said you "don't have any family, really" what does that mean.? Do you or don't you have any family members that will take you in under this life and death circumstance?? Once you have the baby you'll be on benefits and will be able to get your own place.


Glory House    918-584-1808
Tulsa, OK 74104
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Youth Services     918-582-0061
Tulsa, OK 74120
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The Salvation Army - Emergency Shelter    918-582-7201
Tulsa, OK 74103
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Day Center for the Homeless    918-583-5588
Tulsa, OK 74103
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John 3:16 Mission    918-587-1186
Tulsa, OK 74103
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Tulsa County Emergency Shelter    918-596-5591
Tulsa, OK 74127
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[Nighthawk61]

Here's a list of other cities in OK that all have shelters for you.

http://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/oklahoma.html
Ada Erick Poteau
Afton Frederick Pryor
Altus Glenpool Purcell
Alva Grove Roland
Anadarko Guthrie Salina
Ardmore Guymon Sallisaw
Atoka Henryetta Sand Springs
Bartlesville Hinton Sapulpa
Blackwell Idabel Savanna
Broken Arrow Lawton Shawnee
Broken Bow Locust Grove Stillwater
Catoosa Lone Wolf Stilwell
Chandler Mcalester Stroud
Checotah Miami Sulphur
Chickasha Midwest City Tahlequah
Claremore Moore Tulsa
Clinton Muskogee Vinita
Del City Norman Wagoner
Duncan Oklahoma City Weatherford
Durant Okmulgee Webbers Falls
Edmond Owasso Woodward
El Reno Pauls Valley Yukon
Elk City Perry
Enid Ponca City

[JRBabymommy]

Omg! Leave and get out of there, i lived with a a**hole like him,my ex chased me while i was pregnant(9mths) and tried to stab me and his unborn child. Dnt risk it go to a hospital,a councillor shelter, but get out!

[LonelyPrincess555]

I'm so sorry to hear all this, but yes you need to get out of these cause you never know when this "pretend" might become reality and his words the actually scene. So Please for the sake of that lil life inside your belly find yourself a way out and be strong. I'm sure since you are working you have plenty of choices in your hand. Please make the right choice and think about your child. And I think your boyfriend need's medicial help ! And if he's mentally alright I don't ever think he can change so its best you find your own path to walk on. Yes you might want to consider having a "serious" talk with him before you take a firm decision. But my advise is please don't even think of staying with someone who even thinks about hurting you. You deserve the best
Takecare please xx and keep us updated

[Godisfaithful]

I'm sorry you are going through this and pray you get out. You are in a dangerous situation and you and your baby's life is at stake. I pray someone take you in. It's sad at how the laws won't help you or anyone in that situation. Please get out.
Veronica

[alissa12345]

wow seriously? why are u asking if u are in danger? go back and read ur post, i think u kno the answer to that..and if he is hurting u while pregnant then he is also hurting the baby..he can injure the baby by hurting u! he can go to jail for a very long time for abusing a pregnant woman! why dont u go to the police and tell them what is happening? they will help u..find a shelter to go for mothers, they have them everywhere!! and how could he fight u for the baby? for what he is doing they wouldnt let that insane man even get visitation! what makes me so upset that woman put up with this crap and think that there is no way out! well there is u have to open ur eyes and look! it will only get worse he will eventually abuse the baby as he/she gets older...u can be putting u and ur baby's lives in danger! he is a piece of ****! who needs to go to jail! he doesnt love u cuz if he did he wouldnt abuse u period especially when u are carrying a baby! what if u had a daughter who was older and was pregnant and in the same situation? what would u tell her to do? im sure u wouldnt let that fly! use common sense my dear and help yourself and that precious baby! so u really want ur child witness the abuse that daddy is causing mommy and potentially abuse to the child? cuz if he does u could get ur child taken away for staying with him cuz u kno how he is!! no joke i kno ppl that this has happened to!! best bet is to leave and do whatever u can to help urself and the baby! plz!

[Momof3kidscb]

You could look into a maternity home. They give you a place stay while pregnant and up to 2yr after depending on program.