Now i am confused as you are did both husbands abuse you or only your first one if it was your first one i stand with mt first answer luck jo still i would not let my kids control my life luck jo
I was wrong reread the post she has been abused by both of them.sosharp53 you do not have to continually live in abusive relationships leave he's not worth it if he can't treat you with respect.
The abuse was from her first husband not the second one.
Your daughters are grown women, and extremely selfish ones. If you give up the man you are with they will not become less selfish or less abusive. They will be the same, or worse, because they got you to toe the line. Take your happiness where you find it - with your partner.
I did not notice the part where he was physically abusive to you if so then do not put up with him jo
Because this man saved your life back then does not put you in any obligation to repay him, and especially when there is physical, verbal and emotional abuse taking place. This is unhealthy behavior and I can understand that your daughters were greatly affected by their exposure to this home life and they don't want anymore of it in their lives. You are making some bad choices with men in your life.
Your daughters see this man as abusive, and maybe they see it bring out abusiveness in you. They don't like it and they should not be subjected to this. They have set boundaries for themselves and their families and you will have to respect this. The bottom line is that you have to make some hard choices here. Keep the guy and have a strained relationship with your kids, or break it off entirely and build a healthy relationship with your daughters and families. Either way the choice is yours to make and yours to live with. So think long and hard about it. PS: Get counseling to learn why you pick abusers, and how to break this cycle, before you find another man.
i to had open heart surgery but it was due to all 4 arteries blocked not anything ellse will cause youi to have this operation not even a broken heart when you cant breathe you have no option, but about this husband if you love him and he is good to you and he loves you tell your kids they are grown, and that you do not pick their spouses so do your own picking and to heck with the kids you will be alone someday i also would tell my daughters to behave and treat him with respect or not come back none of my 3 girls would dare criticise the man i married as they know it is my business and not theirs tell them you love them, but no bad talk about the man you married llive your own life some kids have the idea that they can run their parents life and rhey do but not mine i am my own boss luck jo
If he is abusive towrads you and you do not see your family I think it would be better for you to leave , being indebted isnt a reason for staying with someone who abuses you, if he hasnt changed he never will and it will get worse as you get older, you need to think it through keep in touch with your family do not be intimidated by him not to speak to them .Good Luck it isnt easy and I cansee your dilemma ,be strong ...
How old are your daughters I'm assuming they're adults as you have grandchildren,If you love this man and enjoy being with him I would tell your daughters to grow up,Did you ever tell them who they could or couldn't be with,they need to learn to except your choice in a partner.The only thing that concerns me is that you said you feel indebted to him and not once have you said you love him,you need also to think about why your with him. Good Luck