Is my niece being molested my her dad.

[worriedone2011]

Is my niece being molested by her dad. I always keep my niece who is about to be 4 years old every other weekend. i noticed on her last visit she was saying things like(shake your naked booty) and she would shake her butt. i havfe a 3 year old daughter that she play with and they thought it was funny. at first i did too. then, later I  was watching tv in my living room and my bedroom is off of that room. i could her the kids playing in my room. i all of a sudden her my niece jumping on my bed saying( shake my naked butt, look at my naked booty) then my 3 year old yelled ill thats nasty. so i got up to see what was goin on and she was jumping up on the bed bending over pulling her panties down showing her butt to my 3 year old makeing the above comments.i told her to stop that that was in apporperiate behavior. I informed her parents they could believe it and said they would talk to her. i also talked to my 3 year old. so the next time i was to keep her i couldn't do to me having to go out o town. that sunday my nieca nd her dad camre over for dinner. after a while my niece and my daughter were back in my room playing while us adults watch a movie. i over heard my niece tellmy daughter to clos the door. at first i didn't think much of it. then i thought  let me open this door . they could be messing in my things. as i went to the door i hear me niece say (touch it right there, put your finger there.) I pushed the door open to find my niece had took all her clothes off and was laying on the bed with her legs cocked wide open and my daughter standing there as if she was about to touch her. i immediatley took action. her father came in the room and said what happened. i told him and he stood in the doorway for like 10min in a daze. i asked him whats wrong with you he said. i don't even know what to say. he never said anything to his daughter like that not good what you did or anything. i was very upset. i took both girls to the side and talked to them. explain the best way i could to a 3 and 4 year old that . that behavior is inapporperiate and i began to ask them about good touches and bad touches. something that i have practice with them since they were two years old. my daughter said no to all my question. but my niece shooked me  when she stated my dad touches me all the time. i didn't know what to think . i have know her father for yearss, but that didn't stop me from contiuing my question. at first she didn,t want to tell me. she dropped her head and began shaking it back and forth as if she couldn't tell me. when i explain she could trust me andi would protect her. she went on to tell me that he touches her with his finger and stating i don't like it when daddy touches me andshe compared it to him touching her mom. say he touches mommy too. he uses his mouth on mommy booty. she also stated that he makes her touch him and i asked where and she pointed to her cooty area. after i had a more intense talk with her explaining it not right for daddy to do that and i gonna help you. i didn't know what to do my emotion wre everywhere. what i did was tell her dad that i talk to ther girl about good touches and bad touches and ex[lain that she said she see him touching her mom. he just thanked me. this situation worried me so the next day i decided that my nieces mother and father come over so we can talk about what happened and i felt the need to inform them of what i knew and that its a problem that needs to be delt with. so i called my nieces mom and after two days i got her. i asked if my nieces father had told her what happened on sunday and she said no , he didn't tell me anything. i thought that was strange he didnt tell her someting so important and he never said anything to his daughter about her action being wrong or inapporperitate. so im wonder if my niece is being molested by her dad.

[neonmilk]

i cant belive that it's horrible. I belive that your niece is being molested by her dad.
It is just weird that he would know and never tell any other soul and if he is an honest person it must be true. I would talk to your niece more and really see if it's the truth and if so then tell someone it is weird that a 4-year-old would do that i have a little sister that is 6 and a neice that is 4 and i have never seen that inapporperiate behavior in someone so young

[margypops]

My opinion is the same I dont think small children tell lies about this kind of thing, I also dont think parents should allow children to be alone in rooms, too many times we hear this ,children need supervision not packing off into rooms to their own devices.This man from the sound of it did molest his child, for her protection it would be best to take it further .

[narla]

I would say yes she is,this behaviour shows all the red flags of child abuse,plus she stated her dad touches her there and she touches him,this child is 3 she would not lie,you need to report this to child services,
I don't like the way he reacted either,and why didn't he tell his wife what happened?
Don't let this carry on

[grannienannie]

thats awful...I have a motto since child hood  TRUST NO ONE!!! he shpuld have reacted better than that maybe he was afraid that she would say thats what you do to me daddy...that is a big problem...if she is ashamed while telling you something is wrong...he should have been asking her at the moment it happen where she learned that from??But it seems like guilt to me...if its a gut feeling it must be true...womans intution...your thoughts of her when she is not there must drive you crazy  wondering if she is alright...She is a baby and she cant defend herself...if her mother cant protect her or confront this matter you will have to step in..That is not right whats going on with her..this has to be stopped before another child besides your own gets involved...you make sure you tell her if her father do that to her again...too run and scream loudly so someone will hear and to never keep secrets from you or mommy... only MONSTERS do things like that and if he do it again you will get the monster police to take him away...Im a mother and before a man can even think about that I will make sure his hands are in a jar with his penis...