Right, you have gotten a lot of support, and you will continue to do so, and I know I will be hated on for saying this.. but I have to stay true to myself.
I don't believe a word coming out of your mouth. Your posts are contradicting each other. Sorry, but that is just how I feel.
HOWEVER... despite not believing all of what you have said, I do think you have some deep issues that you need to work through. I really think you need professional help, is there any way you can be referred to a mental health team?
As for the rest of this comment, I am going to comment as if everything you said is true. Mostly because I think there is truth in there, I just don't know what bits. It may just be that you have slightly exaggerated certain things I don't know.
So, going on everything you said, there are a few things you need to do. Firstly, you need to move. Secondly, you need to change your mobile number. You need to get away from anyone that can give you a hit. Don't let your father know where you are at any cost. If he finds you, move. Go to Women's Shelters if you have to. It sounds like you get along with your mother, so ask her for support. I know she is at the end of her rope but she will want to help you, she is your mum. Are there any charities near you that can help you out to get you far away?
Things wont be easy. I know you say turning the drugs down is impossible, and trust me I know how that feels. But in actual fact it is really easy. Just. Say. No That is it. Just say no. And yes, I know that sounds a lot easier than it is. The truth is the only way you will beat this is with sheer will power. I do think you need to see a doctor and get some counselling and therapy. Are you eligible for Medicaid? (Presuming you live in the states), they may be able to help.
But I do think you need to remove yourself from the situation completely to recover... and perhaps join a support group where you move to so you can make some friends? Your partner may have to wait a little while to join you but I hope you being clean is worth that?
Perhaps when you are stronger you will be able to go back home.. but if you go too early you could be right back to square one, so it is something to think carefully about.
I do understand, you know. I was abused for 7 years from the age of 6 and my daughter is the result of a rape when I was 15. And my mum just told me I should have fought harder. I had an abusive boyfriend and I even turned to the sex industry when I had nothing. I have PTSD, GAD, DID, MDD, and BPD. All stemming from my childhood. I have also struggled with addiction to morphine. So, presuming everything you said is true, we have been in a somewhat similar boat, even if there are big differences.
The best piece of advice I can give you is this: No one will ever be able to love you enough until you learn to love yourself. Or, as RuPaul would say "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else".
This is a journey that YOU have to make. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all better but I can't. This is something you are going to have to work at hard. If you do decide to stay, then things will be even harder so you will have to be even stronger. But you can do it if you really want to. Get a support buddy and call them every time you are feeling the urge. I would offer you my number but it would cost you a fortune calling another country lol. There are plenty of people around that are ready and willing to help, you just need to find them.
I know you wont like what I said, particularly at the beginning. And if it offends you or upsets you, I am sorry. But I want you to know that we will support you regardless of your back story. IF (and I know it is a big if) you are embellishing the story a little, I just want you to know you don't have to. We will be here anyway. And if everything you said happened exactly as you said it did, then I apologise.
Agrr sorry hun I thought that was someone else posting on the thread! I am in the middle of writing a reply to you so bear with me.
I am sorry for your situation but I think you need to start your own post if you want support, this answer isn't very helpful to the OP. If I see you post I will comment on that for you hun. xxx
Rape is a factor why you are using, yes? In treatment you can talk about what happened to you. In recovery you will be able to deal with what's happened in the past. Your fiance is not capable of making this better for you, you need professionals to help you move on and create a good life for yourself AND you have to want it, badly.
The first thing you need to do, is to get a new number, and give it to no one that knows him. or only to people you can trust won't give him the number.
Have you tried that yet?
Secondly, you can tell him that he can do this two ways. He can never contact you or you can go to the police and get a restraining order (so that he can't come within a certain distance of you).
Your boyfriend/fiance seems not to believe that you are trying to get away from your step father ? Is that so ?
You need to detox, and get a program of recovery like AA or NA or CA. Just like any addict, it takes courage and resolve to get a stay in recovery.
But first you have to answer the question. Step One. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol (meth) and our lives had become unmanageable. Is that you?
Is there nowhere you can go that he can't find you? It sounds like you're so predictable to him and your phone is known to him and all. I'd try to take steps to find a shelter house where they help people detox. No social services at all where you live?
Dang.. after scrolling this thing is VERY long. I'm a 22 year old female who in two weeks due to over use has lost fifty pounds and I'm extremely sick.I live with my fiancé who doesn't use anything besides some weed here and there.