Plz help me

[Kritzee]

I am in a long distance relationship.My bf n i had planned to make love when we meet this time.He says he'd leave me if i do not bleed while having sex.I am a virgin but am really scared as i have read many times that many girls don't bleed.This makes me cry everytime he tells me that he'd leave me.I suggested that we'd go for a virginity test but am quite apprehensive whether that will work if my hymen is already broken.Plz help me.i am really very scared.

[margypops]

Anyone that puts this kind of an agenda out to you for the first time is a useless person not anyone you would want to be with, plenty of kind decent men out there without these kind of demands .

[allmymarbles]

Having a very contrary nature and liking to be told what to do, in your place I would run out and have an affair. I might even bring back the blood to show him.

[allmymarbles]

There is an error in one of my posts above. I said, "It is obvious he does not trust you when you say you are not a virgin."  I meant to say, "It is obvious he does not trust you when you say are a virgin."  

[margypops]

this is one sick dude time to ditch him

[narla]

I'd like to know how is he going to prove he's a virgin,are you going to make him bleed?You can not trust this man,He will be controlling and he will hurt you,as everyone has said run and don't look back,do not meet him.

Denise

[perch101]

Please take Rockroses post seriously.

Also - this guy sounds AWFUL - I don't even know  where to start with how much is wrong with his demand that you bleed.....

So WHY would you want a guy like this in your life?

There are plenty of nice guys out there.

If I were you I'd run, not walk from this situation.

[allmymarbles]

Apropos of nothing, doctors do a big business sin the Middle East repairing torn hymens. So much for the blood proof.

[allmymarbles]

Let me add to RockRose's post because she is on the right track. It is obvious he does not trust you when you say you are not a virgin. That means he won't trust you later (for instance when you smile at a male friend). You are on the route to abuse.

[RockRose]

I'll say it to you here,  Kritzee,  although I posted in the Relationships forum also.  I don't know where you'll see this.

This is how women get killed.  They go missing,  and then in a forensic search of their phones and computers it becomes clear they've gone to meet some strange controlling weirdo for sex.  

And then their bodies are found dumped in some field.

This is a REALLY,  really bad plan to meet this guy.

[kenneltech]

You can go to a doctor and see if your hymen is still intact, but I have one question?  Is HE a virgin???  How absurd this is, I would tell him to stay where he is and leave me alone.  When you love someone, you don't put conditions on that love or it's NOT REALLY LOVE!!!

[Kritzee]

Thats because he wants me to be loyal to him n its completely ok .i just wanted to know whether the test would work if the hymen is already broken but not because of sexual intercourse?

[allmymarbles]

In this day and age why should he care if you are a virgin, and why should you care that he cares? Are you both super-religious?