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Repeated hittings on the head
Hi Doc! I'm 22 Male. During 1st n 2nd weeks of May'09, I was a victim of repeated hitting on the head(when am asleep) by my roommate who has lot of psycho qualities. The guy sits on my belly area facing my head and pushes his knee forcibly enough in to my ribs, directly above my heart and applies lot of pressure until I scream with heavy pain and shock. He puts the knee at that pressure and with his left hand, he presses hard on my throat until I suffocate and cough and scream(he doesn't completely block respiration though). then with his right fist, he keeps hitting me on the head for about 3-5 mins until I go unconscious. This conscious, unconscious cycles repeat for 4-5 times in every episode. In a span of 4-5 days, 7-8 episodes have passed like this. it's unbelievable for me how I'm unaware of his hittings, though I see his face and urge him not to do it when he's doing it.I just wake up the next time and feel a little confused, dizzy and half-minded type when I wake up. I could recall the incident only after 4-5 weeks, during which I lived in a different city away from him and his tortures. There were very different changes in my behavior.
first 10 days--5-6 hrs per day head aches. 10 days to 1 month-- NO head-aches but some confusion, short term memory loss and 10 episodes a day in which I shout or talk to people not realizing with my conscious mind that I had been doing that(15-20 secs each) Sometimes I walk alone and keep walking even if the destination arrived(can I call these black-outs ?).2nd month--no symptoms except a li'l short term memory loss .since last month---occipetal head aches for 10-15 days and short term memory loss.On 7th aug I had an MRI of Brain with Gd contrast and everything is shown normal except for a mild sphenoid sinusitis. The EEG is also normal. I researched on google about these symptoms and found the following as very close to my condition Cerebral hypoxia and Brain fog (mostly during the first month). Please help me
first 10 days--5-6 hrs per day head aches. 10 days to 1 month-- NO head-aches but some confusion, short term memory loss and 10 episodes a day in which I shout or talk to people not realizing with my conscious mind that I had been doing that(15-20 secs each) Sometimes I walk alone and keep walking even if the destination arrived(can I call these black-outs ?).2nd month--no symptoms except a li'l short term memory loss .since last month---occipetal head aches for 10-15 days and short term memory loss.On 7th aug I had an MRI of Brain with Gd contrast and everything is shown normal except for a mild sphenoid sinusitis. The EEG is also normal. I researched on google about these symptoms and found the following as very close to my condition Cerebral hypoxia and Brain fog (mostly during the first month). Please help me
That's good news to me. I have recovered from a visual and communicative point of view. But internally I should say my pains(left cheek, ribage, occipetal head) have increased and have become more intense. I'm looking to have a chest-CT to confirm if my ribcage is ok. Because 75 kgs on top of my ribcage is not something that I can easily bear. It was a terrible torture with all the organs--heart, neck, head, face attacked at the same time. He even made me suffocate during that time.
My family, friends are giving me support. But the direction in which I want support is not being provided. Because I make friends with good people, I have only innocent faces around me as my supporters and this sort of *****. I need to meet a lawyer real soon. Will keep you posted about any updates. Thanks you everyone.
My family, friends are giving me support. But the direction in which I want support is not being provided. Because I make friends with good people, I have only innocent faces around me as my supporters and this sort of *****. I need to meet a lawyer real soon. Will keep you posted about any updates. Thanks you everyone.
You are sounding more confident today than in the past. This is good news.
As long as you are able to get him convicted of this crime, he can not claim you harrassed him. You are only excercising your legal rights to get the proper judgement made against him regarding his abuse against you. Even if you lose, although I don't think you would lose, he cannot succeed in a harrassment case when it is your lawyer who is putting together a case against him. You don't have to be in contact with this joker. Only law enforcement and the legal system. If you were constantly calling him when he has told you not to, then this would be harrassment. Let your lawyer clarify this for you so you understand your position. Remember this, there is no more a powerful individual than one who has the knowledge behind him to guide him in life. So learn everything you can regarding this guy, through reading etc., the medical reports and tests, the legal system; everything. The better you understand things you are planning to deal with in life, the better you will always land on your feet.
As for getting a visa to travel abroad, I see no problems unless you have warrants out for your arrest for something you did illegal. Also I don't think that your credit can be affected by a court case against this guy, unless you two had in the past had a combined account that went sour. You will need only talk to your lawyer to learn answers to these questions.
1987, Have you told your parents about what happened to you? Are they giving you their support? I know that as a parent myself, I would definitely want to know if somebody harmed my child. I would be a hornet about protecting my child, eventhough they are adults today. Parents care about their children and they need to know when you need help. They need to be there for you. K
As long as you are able to get him convicted of this crime, he can not claim you harrassed him. You are only excercising your legal rights to get the proper judgement made against him regarding his abuse against you. Even if you lose, although I don't think you would lose, he cannot succeed in a harrassment case when it is your lawyer who is putting together a case against him. You don't have to be in contact with this joker. Only law enforcement and the legal system. If you were constantly calling him when he has told you not to, then this would be harrassment. Let your lawyer clarify this for you so you understand your position. Remember this, there is no more a powerful individual than one who has the knowledge behind him to guide him in life. So learn everything you can regarding this guy, through reading etc., the medical reports and tests, the legal system; everything. The better you understand things you are planning to deal with in life, the better you will always land on your feet.
As for getting a visa to travel abroad, I see no problems unless you have warrants out for your arrest for something you did illegal. Also I don't think that your credit can be affected by a court case against this guy, unless you two had in the past had a combined account that went sour. You will need only talk to your lawyer to learn answers to these questions.
1987, Have you told your parents about what happened to you? Are they giving you their support? I know that as a parent myself, I would definitely want to know if somebody harmed my child. I would be a hornet about protecting my child, eventhough they are adults today. Parents care about their children and they need to know when you need help. They need to be there for you. K
Thanks a lot kathy for such a long and wonderful post. yeah I'm gonna see a lawyer real soon, pro'lly tomorrow and explain him the stuff. Even though, I can barely prove it, I atleast want that F****** guy to tell a lie in front of the court of law, the ppl, including his mom n dad. So my point is that, He will either lie or go to prison, both of them according to me, offends his self a lot. And that's enough for me. The only thing I'm worried abt is what if, he files a counter case against me, saying that, I'm mentally harassing him. And plz lemme know if this happens will thr be a problem in me going abroad or getting a visa....Once this is clear(which I'll anyways clarify from my lawyer omnce I meet him), I can go ahead with clarity..
Thanks agn N HAV NICE DAY
Thanks agn N HAV NICE DAY
Regarding pain rating:
It has been very hard for doctors and nurses to understand the level of pain a person is actually experiencing, as many people experience it in different ways, and at different levels. Some people are very resistant to the feelings of pain until it reaches an unbearable point, while others cannot tolerate even a pin ***** on the finger, or heat or cold without feeling aching or pain. It was tried to gather some idea of patient pain levels using the scale 1 to 10. One being no pain at all. Ten being the most unbearable pain imagineable. While this has given some information to what a patient feels, it doesn't totally describe the real pain they are feeling. So a new pain scale is either still in the making, or has been implemented that factors in a lot of information that the patient fills out (easily), so that the doctors and nurses can actually see the type of pain thresholds their patients posess to begin with, and then in what ways they are experiencing their pain. This is helping medical personnel grasp a better indicator as to how they can "see" this pain level and best treat it right away. So you can talk to your doctors about this pain level information and get it on your records and be treated better for that particular pain you have. (Sorry about the blurb on the last post. Didn't know I had it there until the post was already sent.) K
It has been very hard for doctors and nurses to understand the level of pain a person is actually experiencing, as many people experience it in different ways, and at different levels. Some people are very resistant to the feelings of pain until it reaches an unbearable point, while others cannot tolerate even a pin ***** on the finger, or heat or cold without feeling aching or pain. It was tried to gather some idea of patient pain levels using the scale 1 to 10. One being no pain at all. Ten being the most unbearable pain imagineable. While this has given some information to what a patient feels, it doesn't totally describe the real pain they are feeling. So a new pain scale is either still in the making, or has been implemented that factors in a lot of information that the patient fills out (easily), so that the doctors and nurses can actually see the type of pain thresholds their patients posess to begin with, and then in what ways they are experiencing their pain. This is helping medical personnel grasp a better indicator as to how they can "see" this pain level and best treat it right away. So you can talk to your doctors about this pain level information and get it on your records and be treated better for that particular pain you have. (Sorry about the blurb on the last post. Didn't know I had it there until the post was already sent.) K
Hi,
It is me again. How are you doing right now? Have any tests shown any problems that answer some of your questions about what happened to you?
Has this perpetrator threatened you harm should you go to the authorities about this incident you spoke about above? Do you fear that he will look you up or does he know where you live or your family lives? I ask this because I sense your reluctance to notify the authorities, and you have little confidence that you can press charges against this person, or even win your case against him. This is your lawyer's job, not just you alone. The lawyer knows all the right things to search out about this guy, all the right questions to ask, all the right information to present the court. It is his job to totally represent YOU. Getting this guy off the streets is very important. What he has done to you and others, he will continue to do to others and one day somebody won't live through his beatings. But if he is stopped as soon as possible, then you may save the life of that person on down the road.
Being that this perpetrator has inflicted his beatings on others as well as you is a symptom of sociopathic mentality. He fails to "feel" the pain and injuries that he is inflicting on his victims. He is only meeting his most immediate gratifications. to heck with the suffering he is causing others, even close relatives can be his victims too. He has poor impulse control, cannot stand having to wait to have his gratifications met in a more appropriate manner later, has feelings that he is superior to others, and is entitled to whatever he wants when he wants and however he wants or has to get it. They don't learn from the past, or see much in the future. They feel no remorse for what they have done to others. They are good liers, cheaters, steal, kill, maime animals and people without even looking back. They exploite others, even close to them like their families and "best friends". They cannot understand why others don't agree with them, nor do they care. It is hard on them to face rejection by others. But their memories of events past are poor and they minimize anything that isn't to their liking. Our prisons are filled with sociopaths. That is where they belong when they harm society. They are not mentally ill. They do have the ability to choose their behavior. They don't like authority figures to tell them what to do or change their behavior. They are poor candidates for therapy. Therapist are authority figures to them. They hate jail because the authority figures tell them what to do, when, why, how, and NOW. They don't like being told what to do by others in authority. It is they who wants to be head of the food chain.
Well , I sort of went on a explaination rampage. sorry. I hope this gives you some more insight into this perpetrator you may be dealing with. So talk to your lawyer, and let him do the fighting in your behalf. That perpetrator needs to be off the streets before he maimes or kills someone. This is why I feel it is so important for you to report this and [press charges, and if it goes to trial then so be it. That guy needs to be responsible to pay your bills. He may never do it, but at least it will be on his record. He will eventually end up in prison one day.
I am glad you are getting the medical help you need to get better. If they think you need to see a Psychologist or Psychiatrist, don't feel offended. They are covering all the bases needed for helping you. All of this can be used in court in the future, should you choose to include it. You are the one in control of your life. This is a chance for you to grow, mentally, physically, emotionally. You are a good person and you deserve to be healthy and treated with dignity and respect.
Good luck and God Bless, K.
I note that you are aware that this perpetrator has a history of this abusing others in this way. This is all the more reason that you need to report this to the police, and see a lawyer. The sooner the better.
It is me again. How are you doing right now? Have any tests shown any problems that answer some of your questions about what happened to you?
Has this perpetrator threatened you harm should you go to the authorities about this incident you spoke about above? Do you fear that he will look you up or does he know where you live or your family lives? I ask this because I sense your reluctance to notify the authorities, and you have little confidence that you can press charges against this person, or even win your case against him. This is your lawyer's job, not just you alone. The lawyer knows all the right things to search out about this guy, all the right questions to ask, all the right information to present the court. It is his job to totally represent YOU. Getting this guy off the streets is very important. What he has done to you and others, he will continue to do to others and one day somebody won't live through his beatings. But if he is stopped as soon as possible, then you may save the life of that person on down the road.
Being that this perpetrator has inflicted his beatings on others as well as you is a symptom of sociopathic mentality. He fails to "feel" the pain and injuries that he is inflicting on his victims. He is only meeting his most immediate gratifications. to heck with the suffering he is causing others, even close relatives can be his victims too. He has poor impulse control, cannot stand having to wait to have his gratifications met in a more appropriate manner later, has feelings that he is superior to others, and is entitled to whatever he wants when he wants and however he wants or has to get it. They don't learn from the past, or see much in the future. They feel no remorse for what they have done to others. They are good liers, cheaters, steal, kill, maime animals and people without even looking back. They exploite others, even close to them like their families and "best friends". They cannot understand why others don't agree with them, nor do they care. It is hard on them to face rejection by others. But their memories of events past are poor and they minimize anything that isn't to their liking. Our prisons are filled with sociopaths. That is where they belong when they harm society. They are not mentally ill. They do have the ability to choose their behavior. They don't like authority figures to tell them what to do or change their behavior. They are poor candidates for therapy. Therapist are authority figures to them. They hate jail because the authority figures tell them what to do, when, why, how, and NOW. They don't like being told what to do by others in authority. It is they who wants to be head of the food chain.
Well , I sort of went on a explaination rampage. sorry. I hope this gives you some more insight into this perpetrator you may be dealing with. So talk to your lawyer, and let him do the fighting in your behalf. That perpetrator needs to be off the streets before he maimes or kills someone. This is why I feel it is so important for you to report this and [press charges, and if it goes to trial then so be it. That guy needs to be responsible to pay your bills. He may never do it, but at least it will be on his record. He will eventually end up in prison one day.
I am glad you are getting the medical help you need to get better. If they think you need to see a Psychologist or Psychiatrist, don't feel offended. They are covering all the bases needed for helping you. All of this can be used in court in the future, should you choose to include it. You are the one in control of your life. This is a chance for you to grow, mentally, physically, emotionally. You are a good person and you deserve to be healthy and treated with dignity and respect.
Good luck and God Bless, K.
I note that you are aware that this perpetrator has a history of this abusing others in this way. This is all the more reason that you need to report this to the police, and see a lawyer. The sooner the better.
Hi there feelgood ( I am sorry, it appears i called you Mam) I Read over again and see that you are a young male; nevertheless, abuse is a very serious offense. Especailly in what you are describing here with head trauma. Indeed, I will post my story here: ONLY in hopes that ONE person will read it....and perhaps it will HELP them or save THEIR life. I am actually working on a book about my story. YES, the offender can be very adept at lying.......at times the offender can even be charming!! How abusurd huh? However, IF he is a REPEAT offender, such as you are describing, surely some of this has to be on file SOMEWHERE?? check with campus or the local authorities---SEE what the RECORD of this person may be----the local police may be able to help you more than u realize. The ONLY RIGHT answer (if there is one to ANY abusive relationship) IS TO GET OUT IMMEDIATLEY!! I can NOT say that too quickly or enough times. YOUR VERY LIFE IS AT STAKE. I look back on "my" story, and I see and HAD i ONLY listened to my gut.....I would NOT be in this position NOW. Perhaps things are harder and more difficult to just up and leave, but in the long run i promise you it is well worth it. I am now advocating for victims rights. I write letters and am jumping through the hoops of the social security here. I wish you well my friened. Please do get some assistance-----BUT please GET OUT-----do NOT spend one more day or night with this cunning abuser.
with much peace and sincerity
lexxie
I promise to post very soon----thank you for your support as well
with much peace and sincerity
lexxie
I promise to post very soon----thank you for your support as well
Hey ! Thanks for ur advise. am eager to read ya post...post it soon..! I hav contacted the dean too. the guy's a real crimninal with very gud instincts at lying. HE is very wise and can easily wipe any accusations on him. He seems to hav practised it since ling tiome. He can so easily convince all the hostel mates and the dean and the campus authorities. And magivcally I dun av any bruises or any other marks on the body. But parts ood my body(left cheek, occiprtal head, chest ribs etc) still ache. I dunno how to prove hat I hav pain and aches . I'm not sure of any medical test that shows pain. I'm planning to see a lawyer real soon and explain him stiff , then see what he has to say. Plz send the link for ur post as soon as u post ur problem. Luck!!
Mam, I perused over your posts and the others that followed. I have already needed to post my story here, but have not done so yet, but soon i will. WHAT you have described are very serious offenses. Criminal charges should be pressed against this person. Your local police need to be called as soon as the event has occured. I apologize for not remembering some of the deatils of all of the posts. (I myself have suffered severe head trauma) my memory now it wreck. I was repeadedly hit in the head, all of the lobes of my brain damaged. Time is of the essence tho. OK....YOUR injuries need to be documented by photographs (since they have digital photos now, they are very clear). ANY pressure must leave a mark, red mark, or blue bruise. THIS can be documentd by your local police. Please tell your parents, tell the campus, and get a restraining order on this vicious person. I am only alive right now becuase, i ran naked out the back door when he went to go get a knife to "finish me off". I urge you with the most sincerity i can, to please contact the proper authorities----documentation is key here. AND this WILL be admissible in court. All photos and doctor reports can be used. Please GET AWAY from this person before you are killed. I am very lucky to be alive, and i promise to post my story here soon. I fear for you............and i **DO** understand what you are going through.......my memory is now wrecked. (i bled from my ears for over a month). Please i do urge you to GET OUT, CONTACT PROPER AUTHORITIES, CAMPUS, AND ESPECAILLY YOUR PARENTS.....I would at this point even contact the DEAN of the university. THESE incidents need to be brought to light. Please be safe. I will pray for you, i worry for your safety.
peace and sincerity,
lexxie1018
peace and sincerity,
lexxie1018
I read your contact with the Neurologist. I am very happy that you are taking action to help yourself heal. You must be number one in your life. Get your health back. You deserve it. K
Have you made any doctor visits? What tests have they done and what are the results? Have you contacted your parents about this matter? If your answers are "No", then I would like to know what made you decide to not take care of yourself. You have medical problems and they are problems that need to be looked into further, regardless of the abuse issues. You must take care of yourself. Get healthy. K434
ya u r very right. But I think it wud be almost impossible to legally ask him to pay. bcoz he says he didn't do it. As there are no bruises and 4 months have already passes, the cops are gona ask me abt the reason and I think I wud need a medical certificate to prove it all ..that I have pain that I'm mentally disturbed bcoz of that...I dun av any video of him doin that and also I have complained after 21/2 months of the incident. So hope I wud be able to teach him a lesson by working ahrd on this case...
It is possible that you didn't leave that room after the first attack, if you were left in such a daze that you weren't sure what, if anything happened to you.
Abusers are very cunning and can attack others in just the way you discribed so that you have no bruising on the surface, or at least exposed to view by others.
You need to know that you didn't deserve these attacks. Now that you are starting to put together some memories, and starting to make some sense of what happened to you, you are able to take action. You are not to blame for this abuse. It was not your fault. Nobody has a right to lay a finger on another person. Much less while you are asleep.
Don't give up. You need and deserve the right answers to your physical pain and mental status and head traumas. And if you did experience broken ribs, bruised heart, lack of oxygen to your brain from his attacks, you need to take action and get this perpetrator off the streets and to pay for the injuries he caused, and never sign off on anything. Your injuries may plague you in your future and this guy needs to pay for as long as you have the related problems. K
Abusers are very cunning and can attack others in just the way you discribed so that you have no bruising on the surface, or at least exposed to view by others.
You need to know that you didn't deserve these attacks. Now that you are starting to put together some memories, and starting to make some sense of what happened to you, you are able to take action. You are not to blame for this abuse. It was not your fault. Nobody has a right to lay a finger on another person. Much less while you are asleep.
Don't give up. You need and deserve the right answers to your physical pain and mental status and head traumas. And if you did experience broken ribs, bruised heart, lack of oxygen to your brain from his attacks, you need to take action and get this perpetrator off the streets and to pay for the injuries he caused, and never sign off on anything. Your injuries may plague you in your future and this guy needs to pay for as long as you have the related problems. K
you should have moved rooms and got a new room mate after the first time. he sounds like a total psycho. u need to have told the police and not security officers. now it would depend on whether the security officers u told kept a record of it and whether this guy admits it i guess.
If I remember correctly, the MRI takes images of "soft tissues" , looking for blood flow abnormalities, strokes, tumors, and the like. This can be done not only on the head, but throughout the body.
XRAYS: These show up bones, deformities, cracks, breaks, tumors, infections, and other diseases. Can be done throughout the body.
EEG: Electroencealogramph. This records the electrical activity of the brain. It is used to evaluate epilepsy, meningitis, eccephalitis, head injuries, strokes, brain abscesses, brain tumors, and to distinguish between psychological disorders and mental retardation.
You may have sinusitus, which can give pain in the forhead, eye orbits, upper jaw, and nose. If your doctor's diagnosis is an infection, he would treat you for it and if you feel pain in all the areas I mentioned, you difinitely need to see a doctor. You may need to see an ear, nose, and throat doctor, called an ENT, MD. This doctor can make a determinitation if you have nasal obstructions or polyps or whether you have allergies, causing your head pain. You mentioned hearing difficulties. This doctor will also test your hearing and determine the cause behind your difficulty.
Your breathing problems could psooibly be the result of cracked or broken ribs from the assult. You could also have a lining of the lungs infection. So you need to have this checked out.
Your doctor, one who does not work for the college, needs to view the results of the EEG and MRI. These records belong to you and you may take them with you to whomever you choose. You will need to sign them out from where they are kept now. You will also need to show proper identification in signing them out as well.
Since you are suffering internal pain, you need to have more testing done on your body, both soft tissues, and bone tissue. This should be done at a hospital and not through the university. You need objective information by personnel who have no ties to the university.
The Police need to be informed. Not just campus police. If you have not been assaulted, which I believe you have, you can drop charges. But you need to get this on record, and get to a doctor as I have stated above. You need more testing than what you got. You must explain to the doctor what happened to you, and explain to the people who are giving you the tests as to what happened to you so they write it in their records for the Radiologist to be extra aware of. You need also to keep a journal daily of your pain, 1-10, 10 being unbearable, 1 being nothing, and where you feel your pain. Take the journal with you to the doctors. You need to communicate with them much better. They cannot mind read. You must tell them everything.
The results of the tests take a few days to get back to your doctors, who will be the ones to tell you the results. Technicians are not allowed to say anything. So spare them.
Have you contacted your parents about this matter? They may also be a great help to you support wise and helping you to find the right lawyer, if you decide to take this roommate to court. Learn about your medical results first before seeing a lawyer. The lawyer can advise you on all the legalities of your case. Keep this all seperate from the University so there is no conflict of interest involved.
I hope this was of some help. Good Luck.
XRAYS: These show up bones, deformities, cracks, breaks, tumors, infections, and other diseases. Can be done throughout the body.
EEG: Electroencealogramph. This records the electrical activity of the brain. It is used to evaluate epilepsy, meningitis, eccephalitis, head injuries, strokes, brain abscesses, brain tumors, and to distinguish between psychological disorders and mental retardation.
You may have sinusitus, which can give pain in the forhead, eye orbits, upper jaw, and nose. If your doctor's diagnosis is an infection, he would treat you for it and if you feel pain in all the areas I mentioned, you difinitely need to see a doctor. You may need to see an ear, nose, and throat doctor, called an ENT, MD. This doctor can make a determinitation if you have nasal obstructions or polyps or whether you have allergies, causing your head pain. You mentioned hearing difficulties. This doctor will also test your hearing and determine the cause behind your difficulty.
Your breathing problems could psooibly be the result of cracked or broken ribs from the assult. You could also have a lining of the lungs infection. So you need to have this checked out.
Your doctor, one who does not work for the college, needs to view the results of the EEG and MRI. These records belong to you and you may take them with you to whomever you choose. You will need to sign them out from where they are kept now. You will also need to show proper identification in signing them out as well.
Since you are suffering internal pain, you need to have more testing done on your body, both soft tissues, and bone tissue. This should be done at a hospital and not through the university. You need objective information by personnel who have no ties to the university.
The Police need to be informed. Not just campus police. If you have not been assaulted, which I believe you have, you can drop charges. But you need to get this on record, and get to a doctor as I have stated above. You need more testing than what you got. You must explain to the doctor what happened to you, and explain to the people who are giving you the tests as to what happened to you so they write it in their records for the Radiologist to be extra aware of. You need also to keep a journal daily of your pain, 1-10, 10 being unbearable, 1 being nothing, and where you feel your pain. Take the journal with you to the doctors. You need to communicate with them much better. They cannot mind read. You must tell them everything.
The results of the tests take a few days to get back to your doctors, who will be the ones to tell you the results. Technicians are not allowed to say anything. So spare them.
Have you contacted your parents about this matter? They may also be a great help to you support wise and helping you to find the right lawyer, if you decide to take this roommate to court. Learn about your medical results first before seeing a lawyer. The lawyer can advise you on all the legalities of your case. Keep this all seperate from the University so there is no conflict of interest involved.
I hope this was of some help. Good Luck.
Thanks jo and kathy for ur support.
I wanted to clarify certain things which I probably misd out in ma earlier posts.
I have had no bruises on the body(only terrific pain and internal achings, the reason for whom I was not aware then. This is bcoz he didn't gimme the time to think, he keeps on hitting until I go unconscious etc..), and almost all the symptoms point to head concussions as nicely pointed out by kathy. Even now, I cudn fully recall the whole set of things that hapnd then (how and what all did he attack etc). as a gud symptom of concussion. I recall he hitting me and I'm in pain for which he tortured me and basically made me to forget the pain temporarily so that it wudn be aprob to him later. i dun understand how he didn manage this.may be it's juz his luck..but am happy that I atleast recalled this and made xcertain official complaints.
so coming to the court thing, how wud I prove in a court of law that i have this pain coz even now my left cheek is aching terribly (as if got slapped juz now by an hard iron scale) and my rib bone are still frightening me by aching and causing breathing probs and discomfort in the area about the hear. the headaches are recurrent.They vanished 1-0 days back fuly and now they r showing up. yesterday night it was deadly.
So is there any test that proves that I have pain(no bruises-he used hand and fist)
is the x-ray thing correct abt head concussions? coz I alraedy had an MRI and an EEG which showed up normal. Though the MRI showed mild sphenoid sinusitis, the neuo ruled it out. My physician gave me medicine for bone pain and acidity. It's been almost 4 months now and still am not well, infact i appear to deteriorate or the symptoms are recurrent and slow.
what are the odds against me or him. can he sue me saying that he didn do anything and that I'm mentally harassing him by false-accusing him. He already raised this in front ogf the dean and SO.
I wanted to clarify certain things which I probably misd out in ma earlier posts.
I have had no bruises on the body(only terrific pain and internal achings, the reason for whom I was not aware then. This is bcoz he didn't gimme the time to think, he keeps on hitting until I go unconscious etc..), and almost all the symptoms point to head concussions as nicely pointed out by kathy. Even now, I cudn fully recall the whole set of things that hapnd then (how and what all did he attack etc). as a gud symptom of concussion. I recall he hitting me and I'm in pain for which he tortured me and basically made me to forget the pain temporarily so that it wudn be aprob to him later. i dun understand how he didn manage this.may be it's juz his luck..but am happy that I atleast recalled this and made xcertain official complaints.
so coming to the court thing, how wud I prove in a court of law that i have this pain coz even now my left cheek is aching terribly (as if got slapped juz now by an hard iron scale) and my rib bone are still frightening me by aching and causing breathing probs and discomfort in the area about the hear. the headaches are recurrent.They vanished 1-0 days back fuly and now they r showing up. yesterday night it was deadly.
So is there any test that proves that I have pain(no bruises-he used hand and fist)
is the x-ray thing correct abt head concussions? coz I alraedy had an MRI and an EEG which showed up normal. Though the MRI showed mild sphenoid sinusitis, the neuo ruled it out. My physician gave me medicine for bone pain and acidity. It's been almost 4 months now and still am not well, infact i appear to deteriorate or the symptoms are recurrent and slow.
what are the odds against me or him. can he sue me saying that he didn do anything and that I'm mentally harassing him by false-accusing him. He already raised this in front ogf the dean and SO.
First off. I hope you no longer have anything to do with this roommate. It will not be long before you are dead, if he is going at you like this. Your heart. Your airway. Your head. Your mental status.
Is this a college roommate? Next. You need to go to the police and get these beatings on their records. He may have done this to others. He may need to be taken into custody for a psychiatric evaluation. Abusers are excellent at convincing authorities that they are innocent of anything. Did you take any pictures of bruises on your body and face or head? If he was attacking you like you discribed, you surely would have seen bruises within the next couple days, if not before. Your body would have hurt like ever too. Do you remember any of these?
Your roommate could have been experiencing a seizure at the moments of attacks, and not have any memory of the attacks. While I doubt this, it is a possibility, he might try using in his defense. Your lawyer could rule that defense out if it is not true that he has seizures.
Being that you are experiencing the mental conditions you have noted, I recommend that you see a neurologist, or a psychoneurologist, who would dig much deeper into your head problems than the current doctor.
It sounds to me that you have suffered some concussions to the head. This should show up on x-rays. Your changes in mental status definitely need to be researched by a knowledgeable physician.
Maintain all your bills for testing, hospitalizations, doctor's diagnosis, school records and assault report, police report record; have all of this should you need to use this information for court. If this roommate assulted you, you can sue him.
Whatever you do from here on out, don't bang your head on anything. It could possibly kill you.
Get to one of these doctors right away, and thoroughly explain what you believe happened to you and when, and all the mental, maybe physical too, issues you have and are experiencing as a result.
If it is in your imagination, this doctor can find out why and treat you properly. If he determines that you actually suffered from assults, he can be your best ally. Not only for treatment that you may need now, but for court too.
I realize you are age 22. But you can and should do this to protect yourself, and possibly protect others from that roommate. Do not let him talk you out of pressing charges against him, should you find that you suffered from his assults. He needs to face the music. Good luck and God Bless.
Is this a college roommate? Next. You need to go to the police and get these beatings on their records. He may have done this to others. He may need to be taken into custody for a psychiatric evaluation. Abusers are excellent at convincing authorities that they are innocent of anything. Did you take any pictures of bruises on your body and face or head? If he was attacking you like you discribed, you surely would have seen bruises within the next couple days, if not before. Your body would have hurt like ever too. Do you remember any of these?
Your roommate could have been experiencing a seizure at the moments of attacks, and not have any memory of the attacks. While I doubt this, it is a possibility, he might try using in his defense. Your lawyer could rule that defense out if it is not true that he has seizures.
Being that you are experiencing the mental conditions you have noted, I recommend that you see a neurologist, or a psychoneurologist, who would dig much deeper into your head problems than the current doctor.
It sounds to me that you have suffered some concussions to the head. This should show up on x-rays. Your changes in mental status definitely need to be researched by a knowledgeable physician.
Maintain all your bills for testing, hospitalizations, doctor's diagnosis, school records and assault report, police report record; have all of this should you need to use this information for court. If this roommate assulted you, you can sue him.
Whatever you do from here on out, don't bang your head on anything. It could possibly kill you.
Get to one of these doctors right away, and thoroughly explain what you believe happened to you and when, and all the mental, maybe physical too, issues you have and are experiencing as a result.
If it is in your imagination, this doctor can find out why and treat you properly. If he determines that you actually suffered from assults, he can be your best ally. Not only for treatment that you may need now, but for court too.
I realize you are age 22. But you can and should do this to protect yourself, and possibly protect others from that roommate. Do not let him talk you out of pressing charges against him, should you find that you suffered from his assults. He needs to face the music. Good luck and God Bless.
have the Dr run some tests to see if there is any damage to the head or anywhere else there are lots ot tests that can be run now,but i am not sure about hypnosis for him, but the dr mught try it on you, but as to it being put in court, i am not sure, also i do not think a lie detector would help, i think all in all you will have to go along with thr Dr and hope that he or she can help you i do hope that you do not still live with him luck jo
ya I have said to the do and our security officer..they talked to him but he says he dun rem anything like that and tried to convince them that I'm his gud frn and roommmate , so even the doc and SO are in confusion as to who is right. there are only 2 outcomes out of this :1) He has done it 2) I'm imagining sth like that hapnd i.e.., hallucination
I'm mentally disturbed after tjhe incident, but the pain is real and all the symprtoms point to him..and my explanation.
Infact, I av talked to him when he was doing that burt cudn stop him frm doing this and eventually bcoz the hittings were on head, there's a possibilty of a concussion kind of thing that hapnd and I didn remember anything abt the incident. But I'm ble to graduyally recall wat all hapnd.
can u plz help me with this: Is it possible to prove in a court of law that he had done this. I'
m sure he is lying.Just we need a lie-detector to get the truth outta him but the lie-detector diesn't seem to be valid in courts of law. But there has to be some way, I'll get justice and he gets punished for what he has done. or we can hypnotise him and get the truth outta him, I'm not sure if that is accepted in the court of law..
plz give ya comments
I'm mentally disturbed after tjhe incident, but the pain is real and all the symprtoms point to him..and my explanation.
Infact, I av talked to him when he was doing that burt cudn stop him frm doing this and eventually bcoz the hittings were on head, there's a possibilty of a concussion kind of thing that hapnd and I didn remember anything abt the incident. But I'm ble to graduyally recall wat all hapnd.
can u plz help me with this: Is it possible to prove in a court of law that he had done this. I'
m sure he is lying.Just we need a lie-detector to get the truth outta him but the lie-detector diesn't seem to be valid in courts of law. But there has to be some way, I'll get justice and he gets punished for what he has done. or we can hypnotise him and get the truth outta him, I'm not sure if that is accepted in the court of law..
plz give ya comments
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