What do you think i should do?

[tenderheart22]

Hello Im 22 yrs of age and i live on my own and very distant towards my parents for all the years of physical, mental, and emotional abuse! Im a sister of 6. My 3 youngest sisters still live at home. The 19 year old is mentally challenged, there is also a 16 and 14 yr. old. My Father is a alcoholic, drug abuser, woman beater,felon and has been in and out of jail every since before i was born,he not suppose to be living there with them but when I told the police that they didnt do nothing about it, should i say he is a good talker when he thinks he is in trouble. Never  been their for none of us. My mother is the type that she would do for her men before she do for her kids any day. Between me and the 2 oldest we no longer talk with the parents but still try to keep in touch with the younger ones to make sure everything is alright. My mother has full custody of the 19 yr. old cause of her disability but all she reallly wanted is to get her check. They are not allowed to leave the house. The kids get physically, mentally, emotionally abused everyday by the father the mother is never really home cause she stays at her boyfriend house most nights. Between me and the 2nd oldest sister, we really want to have them. I actually have two extra bedrooms in my house. But i do not know about how I would actually go thru with it. I dont want the kids have to go thru what the rest of us experience cause we are very scarred. I wish i could go a day without remembering my past and being so ANGRY at them. All I want to know is sum opinions on what i should do. Anon. Report abuse, foster. i just really need some ideas cause im very torn on what i should really do cause from my experience before i have already went to court about this when i was a kid and the system failed me. So please I just need opinions on what you think i should do I would greatly appreciate it.

[jo929]

try going to the dhs or somwhere they have to investigate a complaint, have your sisters tell the truth and have them talk to the school there must be something the law can do  lot of luck you are a nice person   jo

[concern293]

this is a sad thing when you don't know what to do. i believe that you should go to every place that has to do with lawyers, social services, cops, courts, and any other programs to see who will listen to you and want to help you. because your siblings need to get rescued one way or another. i don't recommend you to go to their home because you may get scared and things could go bad. ( i tell you because when i get near my abuser i stay frozen) just let your siblings that no matter what your still with them and your going to help them don't let them give up hope. i hope nothing but luck for you and hope you do find some one that will help u. and your fiance wants to marry you because your a great women and have survived a hard life. and most importantly he loves you for who you are. i know that my husband is the best gave he brought love to my life and i feel safe with him. good luck once again

[margypops]

Then perhaps they have to say this to a counselor or someone more in authority, you should be able to get help from child services if the abuse is on going their word would be listened to if they are being abused, go and see a child welfare service or try to get some legal advice for them,the oldest one can speak to you when shes going to school  she will be able to leave when she is 18 anyway, but that will leave the younger one there, seek help from someone ,

[tenderheart22]

My sisters would love to come live with me! I have heard their input in all of this. And this as of yesterday. Between me i left the house when i was 17 and put myself into the foster system which i think that was a bad choice but better than being in that house. The 2nd oldest left when she was 17 and the oldest of us all left when she was 15. Even though we dont really talk about our pass with each other you can  tell by the way we handle situations today. My oldest sister has now 5 kids and 5 different baby daddy's. The 2nd one married someone who resembles our father, and i'm in a very successful relationship and will be getting married this year but I just feel like most the time that he is so good  that i cant believe it, like why in the h*** would this guy want to marry me. Like i'm constently trying to pick out his flaws like he is to good to be true and i think it has to do something with the abuse i took at home cause i was told all the time that i would never be enough and i will never mount to nothing. So we have all taken something from our past and brought it to the future. So my sisters would want nothing more but to be out of that house. They begged me yesterday to come get them and it tares me up inside that i could not do nothing. I try to talk with them when they can call but they are not allowed to talk to us.

[margypops]

This is a dilemma you have I feel you need to get some help to be able to do anything, if the authorities know about your father and have done nothing, perhaps some legal advice would be a good idea, do you get to talk to the 16year old and the 14year old ,,do want to leave their home what is their input as I feel if they spoke up to the Authorities and made a report they would have to be taken seriously. I think you care a lot and it is definatly a good idea to make a visit to a social worker /child care worker to get advice.Good luck others may have more ideas here.