dad still sleeping with child

[TamarW]

I have a 15 year old son that still sleeps with his step dad. I went to there house 2 years ago and they were still sleeping in the same bed. I questioned it as to why they need to sleep with each other but then i was the bad guy.. Then two years had past and they were still sleeping with each other.. His step dad has been trying to get me into trouble for anything and everything since i questioned it ..Is it just me or is this kind of behavior wrong cause i dont think they should be sleeping in the same bed.

[Nighthawk61]

Were you living with this child since what age? and when did you leave? and have you had visitation? many questions here..Have you talked to your son and asked him why he still sleeps with his step dad, and that you're pretty sure that his school friends would also think this to be a very strange situation?

[AnnieBrooke]

Are you the mother or the father?  If you're the father, does this mean your son lives with his mother and stepfather?

[RockRose]

I completely agree with AnnieBrooke.  I honestly can't understand what all is going on here,  but it seems,  as his mother,  you would have a legal right to the paperwork.  Was the "step dad" at one time your husband?  And he married you,  and then took your son in the divorce process?  

Sorry to be a little clueless on your exact situation.  

[AnnieBrooke]

If you feel you surrendered your parental rights (i.e., your son was adopted by someone else) without you understanding that was what the papers were for, and if they will not produce copies of the papers that supposedly did that, in your shoes I would talk to an attorney and explain that this adoption seems fradulent and you think it is.  Your attorney can at least get the papers and see if they are legitimate, and also can make a case in court that you didn't know what the papers were for, if they do indeed sign over your rights to your son.  I would not wait around on this, I would do it tomorrow.

[TamarW]

Thank you for the advice ...He has a room set up incase that ever happens so he can say i was lying hes smart ill give him that.

[clement4now]

Hi,
You might want to do a search about info. on co-sleeping and laws in your  particular state ~ there are laws about sleeping arrangements for children.
I would think that CPS ( Child Protective Services) or Social Services investigators would frown upon a teen sleeping with an adult or several reasons.
Good Luck

[TamarW]

He is my son but it was the step dads lawyer that did the adoption and it was only suppose to be for a name change. He never let me have a copy of the adoption. I just think this behavior is a little strange.

[AnnieBrooke]

This is your son, and you don't have custody, but the stepdad does?  Do you have a lawyer who drew up the child custody arrangements?  I would talk to the lawyer.