emotional abuse by mother

[itsasizar]

Hi, my mother is excessively verbally abusive, I´ve a Masters in Psychology and I can´t do anything to stop her, the only thing that works in distance as I live in a different country but the minute I see her in 5 minutes she´s able to make me feel very unhappy as her insults and abusive behaviour are horrendous. 2 years ago I decided to cut all contact with her but I was unable to do so. I´m thinking in doing this again. I´m 32 years old and I don´t think I deserve to be treated like this, I don´t consider her my mother, to me, she´s a monster. What can I do with her?

[allmymarbles]

Why nurse these destructive feelings (destructive to you)? Just walk away from her. She is infectious.

[TinyTash]

I can answer that. These unfit mothers are all the same. They groom their brainwashed children into believing no matter what I am your mother and you only get 1 mother. I am hip to all their manipulation tactics which is why from here on out that lady is not my mother nor is she a lady.. she's is a racist, ugly, rotten to the core, false prophet who uses God to get money out of her children since she could never get her own church(THANK GOD) and last but not least an abusive unfit person who's unfit to walk around in society. I don't wish her any evil but if evil happens to her I won't feel a thing because atleast I will know justice has been served to her cold.

[TinyTash]

I don't want to call this lady my mother because she isn't my mother. She is evil and if I were you I would cut off your mother once and for all and let her suffer alone. These people are users and hypocrites and had it not been for God I would be strung out on drugs somewhere because of the neglect and physical abuse and sexual abuse I went thru as a child because of my mom whom to this day has never apologized or felt and remorse. She claims to be some prophet of God and she loves to call you a demon if you all her out on her evil! I know that God wants us to forgive but that's only if the person ask for forgiveness and trully wants it in their heart. So with that being said I don't have mom and when she dies which hopefully won't be long from now I will not care and I will not attend that witches funeral, because only when she dies will I receive true justice for all the evil this ***** has put me thru and still pus me thru till this day. I know I shouldn't talk like this but it is what it is.. and  can't wait to get my self made over so i won't have to look like her ugly burnt up ***. I can't believe my deceased father laid with her! Out of all the women he could've chosen he picked a ugly gorrilla to sleep with and bear a girl she could mentally abuse.

[allmymarbles]

You say your mother is abusive but give no insight as to why. What provokes her, for instance? And why do you put up with it? Is there an unexpressed need on your part? As a psychologist these are questions you should be asking yourself.

[smilingtiger]

My mother has been very verbally (and somewhat physically) abusive towards me ever since I've been 15 years old.  I am now 56 years old.  She has assaulted me three times this year.  The assaults weren't painful, they were more an emotional assault.  She's 78 years old, and I want so hard to help her in her old age.  I've been cutting her lawn, and shoveling her snow. For years.  But I put a stop to it this past Saturday.  Here's an example of her physical assaults on me:
This summer, after I was leaving, having just cut her grass, I had my back turned to her, we were on the front porch.  She then gave me a shove from behind, and then took both of her hands and raked them down my back as hard as she could.  When I confronted her about it, she turned the whole thing around and made it seemed that I didn't want to be touched.  That it was my fault, that I was too sensitive etc.  I know fully well when someone puts their hands on me friendly like, or in a false, monstrous way.  I too feel that my mother is a monster.  She can do her own snow from now on.  This past Saturday, I let her have it.  I became myself so abusive, that she will no longer want anything to do with me.  Good riddance.  btw, my Brother found out how I talked to her, he accused me of 'elder abuse.'  Oh well.  Too bad.  He was always her boy.  And they did some sick **** together.  No screwing, but some weird ****.  The fambly *****.

[mussonia]

@baby249:
your mother has on you the power you give to her. She says what she says as she really well know how you react. You are for her really predictable. well, try to consider how you could choose how to react. For istance: have you ever use irony, instead to take seriously her sentences? how she would react?