fed up

I don't know what to do anymore??  I have realized I actually married a psycho and worse off i have a baby with him.  I wish I could leave with my baby but i'm scared that he will end up with him cause be makes more money (even though that doesn't really matter) and he and his psycho family will fight me and my family until our dying last breath.  I know so many women leave and get through it but these people are CRAZY. I really screwed up and have been living this nightmare for almost a year now and i say that we have to make it work for the baby but it's toooo hard.  He doesn't let me enjoy our baby meaning I want to be able to go out with the baby ALONE and not him having to come also. I am dying to stay a couple nights at my mom's place with the baby cause that's what normal people/family and it's soo tiring taking care of baby's especially with what's going on i'm soo tired and frustrated and i don't know how i'm going on but the psycho will not allow that because he says my parents house is full and he said that they already have 5 grandchildren and his parents only have our child. WHAT ARE U KIDDING ME?? That's crazy !!  It breaks my heart that my parents don't see the baby as often and in a year we only go there only couple times a month. He says they can come over to our place ...well they do but i wanna go how often i want!!!

[RockRose]

whyme,  I can't really tell what you're saying,  but I don't think "normal" women want to go back to their family's house with their baby alone without their husband.   I don't think that's "normal",  but I may be misunderstanding you.  

Maybe I'm not understanding your post/  

[AnnieBrooke]

Invite your mom to come for a week or even two, and ask her to take care of the baby while you catch up on your rest and run errands.  Take a lot of naps so you are strong and not strung out, and then go see a therapist and a lawyer.  If you think it is dangerous for the baby to be with his family, talk to the lawyer, and if you just think they are all crazy, see the therapist.

[Nighthawk61]

Absolutely you need to open up and have proof that you've sought help for your husband and his family's craziness.  I understand what Rock Rose was saying about it being "normal" for a husband to go with you to your mom's house..... but it is too bad that your baby is not more involved with the cousins, i understand why that would be a healthy situations for your baby, moreso than being the only baby at the paternal grandparents home only.  

If your husband is harming you in any way, you need to document this with a doctor. Is he agressive? Is he verbally abusing you? Is he psychologically abusing you? You are more likely to keep the baby in your custody, if you have the specifics elaborated upon with a doctor, family and friends.

When you say crazy, can you elaborate a bit so that we can be more supportive of you?

[whyme789]

My husb forced me to live with his parent unti august .and i'm sitting back have to watch in-laws freak out when baby cries meaning they feel sorry for baby but now baby is spoiled. Also fath in law is mean and always talks about me thinking i don't understand or can't hear. There's soooo much more.
I was forced to pack up my baby and leave after i snapped when my husb threatened to kill me and called the police. He begged and beged that he would change and ould take anger managemnt counselling. Well this happened in august and after deciding to come back cause i want to be a family especially for baby's sake. My husb never went to couselling and had rescheduled sessions few times already and now scheduled for january. He changed..only in the beginning but soon changed back and i said i leave again leave if he screws up but finding it really hard. I'm scared that i will also lose the baby cause Children's Aid got involved and I've heard of horror stories that they took babies away and OMG...this is just a nightmare and if it doesn't go in that direction I am worried all the trouble this will cause and how my husb and his family will go mental like they did the first time but that wasn't until police got involved but still they will fight and end up winning custody of our baby.  

[Nighthawk61]

Okay honey, now i understand a little bit more about your frustration. You need to know that when you say something, make a demand, that you need to have a plan to back up that demand with a consequence, or he will not adhere to any plan, if he doesn't have to. It sounds pretty hopeless if he's telling you that he's going to kill you, that's "threatening death" you said you called the police, did they come? what happened when they came? You say you left, and went back.. Did you go to your parent's home when that happened? Are you able to stay with your parent's with the baby? I wouldn't be worrying too much about keeping your family together until your husband gets clear of his family and works on his anger management issues. You mentioned that Children's Aid were involved. Can you tell me how they're involved?

[dopesickalice]

File a restraining order on him cuz you fear for your life and the baby. Move in with your family. He is a danger to u if he threatens death. Dear Jesus get out of there fast.