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I'm a female 26 .I grew up in south america with my father ,before i was born my mother had my brother from another man .
my brother is 5 years older than me .
my mother left me with my father after she received many times physical abuse from him and took off with my brother to the united states.
when i was 7 years old i started receiving physical abuse from my father for not doing homework ,eating all my food, or not getting along with other children.
my father was never home he was usually always at work and when ever i would see him he would beat me and mentally abuse me. as the years went by the physical abuse escalated to a great gravity. my mother used to visit me every other year for 2 to 3 weeks in south america .
i used to beg her to take me with her but she always replied she couldn't . she started visiting me when i was 5 she got married to a man that was more than wealthy in the united states when i was about 6 years old . they have been married now for 21 years. when i was 14 my father lost everything and the abuse got dangerous to the point i thought he was going to kill me.i thought that life with my mother would be full of love and that she would make up for all the time i had spent abused and lonely 14 years.
i thought that with her i would have a family and that if i moved in with her that i would be her all and that she would take away the pain in the memory of the life i had lived in. she figured out a way to bring me on a vacation visit through lawyers and i decided to stay . she told me that i couldn't stay with her and that the government would come after us and arrest her and take me back ,i told her that if she tried putting me on that plane that i was going to go crazy and tell the workers in the plane that I'm having a heart attack and that they would not be able to take of with the flight .
i would cry and scream and beg every year every week every month for help.i went through great loneliness and sorrow . my mother had all the money in the world and her houses have always been beautiful until this day!
when i moved in with her she was never home and always gone ,how ever when i came on vacation she would take me to disneyland etc how ever i only came to visit for a month.
now I'm 26 years old she still neglects me . the only great thing she did is motivate me to take singing lessons and pay for them she told me i should become a singer.
(my father also was a singer) . when i was 18 her and my stepfather got sick of me not working and making it as a singer so they threw me out of the house.i've been bouncing back and forward since then . I barely ever see my mother and when she is around she doesn't acknowledge my feeling or needs .I'm older now but I'm much to confused sad and angry to get on with my life. she always tells me that i look just like my grandmother and my father with a negative vibe and when i was younger 15 ,16 i remember her telling me my father was ugly and that he looked like my grandmother. so = now I'm ugly .i tried doing modeling but that got me in some trouble since im not to tall and the photographers where quite rude and some abusive .i made some money but my mother didn't support me at all with the idea of modeling. i just wanted to be happy i just wanted her approval i just wanted to be beautiful and loved.
where did i go wrong.
my mother threw me out of the house again when i was 20 for no reason she was just sick of me i tried getting in the house in a peaceful manner just to get my things but my brother knock me out and i blacked out i don't know for how long .
i now suffer from depression and anxiety .I'm unable to hold a job since i have a hard time getting along with other people .i feel different and strange among other people and is hard for me to get higher by just anyone .I'm very sensitive and any little bad vibe can cause me to loose my job and make me quit .
i don''t feel love in the world towards me . i feel bad and i want to die .
I'm 26 years old and i can't blame anyone but my self all do i have to look back to see why i might be such a looser and what might be the reasons to my failures today .
can anyone help me?
do i have mental problems was i born with them where they caused?
my stepfather always advised my mother that I'm just lazy and to ignore my bull **** throw me out the house etc . when ever i tried talking to my brother he tells me that he wont talk bad about mom. that I'm a adult that i should get over it .(my mother never left my brother in another country far away alone and he never got physically or mentally abused by anyone . my mothers family thinks i bring great distress and they feel sorry for her no one ever cares for me. they just think i'm a a big problem. i just signed up for college i want to make it but i carry great sadness inside a frown face : (
.i don't feel sorry for me its just my body is in pain it feels tired.
my older brother is married and has his own family my mother is always there and still wont want to spend time with me.
she says i made wrong choices and i have made wrong choices is true but I'VE SPENT MOST OF MY LIFE ALONE NEGLECTED BY MY OTHER AND ABUSED BY MY FATHER . I CAN'T COME TO THINK WHAT KIND OF PEOPLE MY MOTHERS FAMILY IS!! THEY DONT EVEN HAVE A HEART. WHAT IF THEY WHERE ME ..NO THEY CANT EVEN COME TO WALK IN MY SHOES.
i have a question .... how can people in this world my own family want a better world a better family when they support and love people like my parents that caused so much harm to someone as my self ? i carry my family's same blood but they wouldn't care if i was starving or sad or missed treated no they ignored it . no wonder everyones life is gotten worse with the years . i think my family is ****** up and very unsivilized . no one protected me as a child and no one cares about me as an adult i hate everyone
I'm a female 26 .I grew up in south america with my father ,before i was born my mother had my brother from another man .
my brother is 5 years older than me .
my mother left me with my father after she received many times physical abuse from him and took off with my brother to the united states.
when i was 7 years old i started receiving physical abuse from my father for not doing homework ,eating all my food, or not getting along with other children.
my father was never home he was usually always at work and when ever i would see him he would beat me and mentally abuse me. as the years went by the physical abuse escalated to a great gravity. my mother used to visit me every other year for 2 to 3 weeks in south america .
i used to beg her to take me with her but she always replied she couldn't . she started visiting me when i was 5 she got married to a man that was more than wealthy in the united states when i was about 6 years old . they have been married now for 21 years. when i was 14 my father lost everything and the abuse got dangerous to the point i thought he was going to kill me.i thought that life with my mother would be full of love and that she would make up for all the time i had spent abused and lonely 14 years.
i thought that with her i would have a family and that if i moved in with her that i would be her all and that she would take away the pain in the memory of the life i had lived in. she figured out a way to bring me on a vacation visit through lawyers and i decided to stay . she told me that i couldn't stay with her and that the government would come after us and arrest her and take me back ,i told her that if she tried putting me on that plane that i was going to go crazy and tell the workers in the plane that I'm having a heart attack and that they would not be able to take of with the flight .
i would cry and scream and beg every year every week every month for help.i went through great loneliness and sorrow . my mother had all the money in the world and her houses have always been beautiful until this day!
when i moved in with her she was never home and always gone ,how ever when i came on vacation she would take me to disneyland etc how ever i only came to visit for a month.
now I'm 26 years old she still neglects me . the only great thing she did is motivate me to take singing lessons and pay for them she told me i should become a singer.
(my father also was a singer) . when i was 18 her and my stepfather got sick of me not working and making it as a singer so they threw me out of the house.i've been bouncing back and forward since then . I barely ever see my mother and when she is around she doesn't acknowledge my feeling or needs .I'm older now but I'm much to confused sad and angry to get on with my life. she always tells me that i look just like my grandmother and my father with a negative vibe and when i was younger 15 ,16 i remember her telling me my father was ugly and that he looked like my grandmother. so = now I'm ugly .i tried doing modeling but that got me in some trouble since im not to tall and the photographers where quite rude and some abusive .i made some money but my mother didn't support me at all with the idea of modeling. i just wanted to be happy i just wanted her approval i just wanted to be beautiful and loved.
where did i go wrong.
my mother threw me out of the house again when i was 20 for no reason she was just sick of me i tried getting in the house in a peaceful manner just to get my things but my brother knock me out and i blacked out i don't know for how long .
i now suffer from depression and anxiety .I'm unable to hold a job since i have a hard time getting along with other people .i feel different and strange among other people and is hard for me to get higher by just anyone .I'm very sensitive and any little bad vibe can cause me to loose my job and make me quit .
i don''t feel love in the world towards me . i feel bad and i want to die .
I'm 26 years old and i can't blame anyone but my self all do i have to look back to see why i might be such a looser and what might be the reasons to my failures today .
can anyone help me?
do i have mental problems was i born with them where they caused?
my stepfather always advised my mother that I'm just lazy and to ignore my bull **** throw me out the house etc . when ever i tried talking to my brother he tells me that he wont talk bad about mom. that I'm a adult that i should get over it .(my mother never left my brother in another country far away alone and he never got physically or mentally abused by anyone . my mothers family thinks i bring great distress and they feel sorry for her no one ever cares for me. they just think i'm a a big problem. i just signed up for college i want to make it but i carry great sadness inside a frown face : (
.i don't feel sorry for me its just my body is in pain it feels tired.
my older brother is married and has his own family my mother is always there and still wont want to spend time with me.
she says i made wrong choices and i have made wrong choices is true but I'VE SPENT MOST OF MY LIFE ALONE NEGLECTED BY MY OTHER AND ABUSED BY MY FATHER . I CAN'T COME TO THINK WHAT KIND OF PEOPLE MY MOTHERS FAMILY IS!! THEY DONT EVEN HAVE A HEART. WHAT IF THEY WHERE ME ..NO THEY CANT EVEN COME TO WALK IN MY SHOES.
i have a question .... how can people in this world my own family want a better world a better family when they support and love people like my parents that caused so much harm to someone as my self ? i carry my family's same blood but they wouldn't care if i was starving or sad or missed treated no they ignored it . no wonder everyones life is gotten worse with the years . i think my family is ****** up and very unsivilized . no one protected me as a child and no one cares about me as an adult i hate everyone
thank u so much for your advice you are right only problem is that I feel very very sad.
i will try to fallow your advice it sounds easy maybe it is : )
i will try to fallow your advice it sounds easy maybe it is : )
nicolita, what happened to you as a child is horrible, and you didn't cause any of it and were helpless to stop the abuse.
Now, what you are living with - you are doing to yourself. You have all the power - to make your life valuable, and rich and full and you are sticking yourself right back in the abuse as if they have physical chains on you. They don't.
Read Bad Childhood Good Life by Dr. Laura Schlessinger - you can get it at any bookstore.
God bless and best wishes. They do not have a hold on you anymore, but you are allowing them keep controlling your life.
Now, what you are living with - you are doing to yourself. You have all the power - to make your life valuable, and rich and full and you are sticking yourself right back in the abuse as if they have physical chains on you. They don't.
Read Bad Childhood Good Life by Dr. Laura Schlessinger - you can get it at any bookstore.
God bless and best wishes. They do not have a hold on you anymore, but you are allowing them keep controlling your life.
I am sorry you wre so neglected when you were young it is hard to understand how any parent could do that , but I have to tell you honestly , thats all past, doner with you are an adult you look after yourself, you find your own house, your own job, you rely on you.Put the other stuff away ,it happened it shouldnt have ,but it did, you need to get to a place where you can accept that .We can all live with regrets , wishing things had been differant but we cannot change whats past. Its now time to stop over thinking get some work going, make friends When you do find your self thinking about what happened to you, let it go distract your self, switch off the thoughts, many people have faced challenges and become successful, this is your time ... Good Luck .
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