Abuse Support Community
is my bf guilting me to.do.sexual things abuse?????
About This Community:

This community is for discussions relating to emotional, physical, sexual, social, spiritual, spousal, and verbal abuse. Please note, this community is not monitored by professionals, rather questions will be answered by other members of the community.

Font Size:
A
A
A
Background:
Blank
Blank
Blank
Blank Blank

is my bf guilting me to.do.sexual things abuse?????

when i was 16 i was dating this 18 year old and he would always guilt me into having sex with him everyday and do sexual things is that bad?????
7 Comments Post a Comment
Blank
Avatar_f_tn
It at the very least shows he is/was not respectful or considerate of you and your feelings.  It shows he thought you were something to manipulate and dominate, something that he could simply bend to his will.  No true feelings were shown.  I think by that (not-so-)subliminal message, it is at the very least emotional abuse.  I'd dump someone who treated me that way.
Blank
Avatar_f_tn
oh ok thank you and i did dump him
Blank
13167_tn?1327197724
Great that you have matured beyond doing what a boyfriend wants you to do,  jeni.  It's a maturing process.  When you're young and immature you might be more willing to do what someone tells you to do, and then with intelligence you grow past that and stop doing what you don't want to do  in a relationship.  But yes,  to answer your question,  "it's bad" when young girls are too immature to know they don't have to do what a boyfriend asks.
Blank
Avatar_f_tn
oh ok thank you @RockRose
Blank
Avatar_f_tn
If that happened when you were 16 I'm assuming you are older now, and you should know that that is bad and abuse and shouldn't have to ask. All he cared about was your body and I hope you don't let any man treat you that way again. Good luck.
Blank
757137_tn?1347200053
Two very young people. The boy wants something the girl doesn't really want to give. But give it she does. They both have free will and bad judgment. But where is the abuse?
Blank
4851940_tn?1385441629
The answer to your question is "Yes" it was bad for an 18 year old man to guilt trip you into doing sexual things that you did not want you to do.  He was taking advantage of you and using your body to satisfy his own needs and did not consider your feelings at all.

As a young teenager, I presume that at that time you were afraid that he would dump you should you not give him what he wanted.

You have learned by this and now that you are older and wiser, you will not allow any one to guilt trip you to do what you do not want to do.  Beware of wolves in sheeps clothing.



Blank
Post a Comment
To
Blank
Weight Tracker
Weight Tracker
Start Tracking Now
Abuse Support Community Resources
RSS Expert Activity
242532_tn?1269553979
Blank
Control Emotional Eating with this ...
Sep 04 by Roger Gould, M.D.Blank
242532_tn?1269553979
Blank
Emotional Eating Control: How to St...
Aug 28 by Roger Gould, M.D.Blank
233488_tn?1310696703
Blank
New Cannabis Article from NORTH Mag...
Jul 20 by John C Hagan III, MD, FACS, FAAOBlank
Top Relationships Answerers
973741_tn?1342346373
Blank
specialmom
3060903_tn?1398568723
Blank
Nighthawk61
Other
4851940_tn?1385441629
Blank
jemma116
United Kingdom
1643531_tn?1390433321
Blank
Godisfaithful
Hinesville, GA