BTW NO UR CHILD IS NOT SAFE.
Yea porns an addiction thats not the important thing here his attraction to young girls.HET NOT SAFE AROUND THEM!!!THERE DANG SURE NOT SAFE AROUND HIM.
i said ped o phile where the stars are
Yes, porn is an addiction!
my step-father used to look at it all of the time and he sexually abused me! That is not to say that your husband will do the same. I do urge you to be very careful! Just from you saying that he fantasized about your underage niece and looking at youtube videos of 10 year olds is a RED FLAG, That is your FAMILY that he is messing with and not only is it ADULTERY it is ILLEGAL! You, as a mother, can't put your child's life in danger.
Being a sexual abuse victim is a VERY hard thing to live with and I know this from personal experience! My own step-father abused me at 14 and molested me as a young child ( 7-8 years old!). It is something that will RUIN a person's life FOREVER and you can never ERASE it! It is hard to live as a normal person when this happenes. My mother didn't stick by my side, she called me a LIAR and said I should be in jail and not my abuser because she says I lied and it was all my fault! She was a poor excuse of a mother.
Sometimes leaving the child's father can be the best option. The fact that he is telling you he "WAS" sick is a LIE! People just don't get over being a "*********" and I am sorry but that is what he is if he is fantasizing about young CHILDREN. Your own family! You need to get away from him. You just don't know what he is capable of or what he might do. And if he is looking at underaged girls, I would be worried what he might have DONE to underaged girls.
First of all, I am very sorry that you had to go through this and I am sure it's very hard and very harsh.
I know it's hard to believe but please know that it has nothing to do with YOU personally. It's easy for us women to wonder if we are good-looking enough etc and play comparisons, but I pray that you will truly believe it's not your fault.
My ex was a porn addict. It has caused great strain in our relationship and has eventually broken our relationship. One thing that you need to try not to do is to check incessantly everyday and constantly ask him if he had done it. It will drive both of you mad although I know the temptation is very strong.
You both need a counselor. One for yourself to deal with the emotional trauma you are experiencing and another one for him. He needs a male counselor and he needs male accountability.
But don't let that get you entirely out of the picture. Both of you can get help together. If he is genuine, there may still be hope.
Trust is in part a decision and no one can help you with it. You need extreme discernment for the well-being of everyone and that cannot be a decision that can come easily. No one can tell you how the exact path to healing is but you and yourself. Remember there may be compasses, but never maps. Be willing to "recalculate route" once in a while like the GPS - and know that life is not about perfection but about overcoming in imperfection. My thoughts are with you.Take care.
Well he does need help as no doubt that it is an addiction possibly from something in his childhood.I dont think it will go away, so he should get some therapy , and make sure he goes .