my son plays naughty

my son like to play with his penis. i was told buy my freind that he has tried to play with her son penis. she called the cops on him. she calleing him a child molester. he is 6yrs old. he has never been abused in any way. why is my son doing this? can i get help? she will not let my son see her kids at all.  but her daughter tried to play naught with my son in the past she is 9. what can i do to help my kid?

[AHP84]

First of all, your "friend" doesn't sound much like a good friend if she's calling the cops on a 6 year old boy and saying he's a child molester. What a load of cr*p! If I were you, I'd seriously reconsider my friendship with this woman--personally, I'd cut off all contact with her.

Secondly, all boys like to play with their penises. Sheesh, my little guy is almost 3 years old, and he's been playing with himself since he was 5 months old. When a child is that young, such things are not sexual (unless you *know* he's being sexually abused). They're children, learning and discovering new things every day, and fascinated by whatever they find out. In this case, it sounds to me like these are children exploring their bodies; seeing, touching and feeling. This is to be expected of children.

The parent's responsibility is to talk with the child about what genitals are, that everyone has them, and they are private body parts. Teach them "good touch" (ie, a pat on the back or a handshake) and "bad touch" (ie, any area of their body that is covered by a swimsuit is their private parts and NO ONE is allowed to touch, and they should not touch other people's). Explain in a very matter-of-fact way and don't be condescending, scolding, or squeemish.

This is what you can do to help your son. If this is a problem that progresses to a point that's more preverse, then I'd be concerned and see a doctor. But right now, it just sounds like normal child curiosity and exploration.

And I'd definitely dump your "friend"--just my opinion, though.

Best of luck to you.

[tiffanylove90]

Listen to Ajh84, she is right on i couldnt of put it better my self icant believe there is some one who knows what they are talking about right on Ajh84 are you a councler or something

[AHP84]

No, I'm not a counselor, lol!
I just love kids and have done a lot of research and learning about child health and psychology in my spare time. Child psychology and pediatrics are listed as my interests in my profile.

[pertykitty]

my son is 9 and still always has a hand on it.  come to think of it so does his dad!  i agree with ajh84, what a friend.  what did the cops do? are you being checked out now because of this?  heck its a funny looking thing sticking out of their body of course they want to touch it.

[here4theinfo]

Maybe all of this was started by her 9 year old. Kids are curious but each parent needs to teach them "private" rules. Friend doesnt sound real smart in calling the cops, maybe she should watch her own kids more often..Its always to easy to "blame" someone else for their own problems...