please help

right so im 6 wks pregnant and me and my bf both are adicted to drugs iv gave them up as blaitently its not the best idea to take them when pregnant but my bf has not he still does them but not around me. i am 15 and he is 19 . and i dont know if it is fair to bring a baby into this relationship i am finding it really hard to decide and am now considering abortion advice please? am i too young to give birth? should i have the abortion?

[liljemma]

first, always use contraceptives i.e. condoms, birth control, abstinence (if you can, but it's an extreme in my opinion). safe sex is always the best choice, although it may not be as pleasurable when you use a condom as it is without it, better safe than sorry. if you can get on birth control this is highly recommended, but get tested for any diseases before you have sex with anyone else besides your partner. secondly, your boyfriend shouldn't be doing drugs while you're pregnant, period. even if he isn't around you it's still apparent that he is using and that doesn't help with you trying to stay clean. you should have a talk with him and let him know that having another life inside of you is serious and it's not up to him to be playing with your child's life and endangering it and you by continuing to do drugs. you're right it isn't fair to bring it into the relationship, especially an unhealthy one like the one you're in (it's called co-dependency). 15 is a very young age to have a child and since your body is not fully matured it could be difficult for you to give birth. also, your baby could be born premature, with birth defects or unhealthy in some way. but if you're already pregnant and you're still having urges to use, or you think the baby might be born unhealthy because of the drugs then you can abort it, but that's your choice. just think about what would happen when it's born: would you continue to lead a life of sobriety? are you responsible and mature enough to be a mother, and your boyfriend, a father? would your boyfriend aid you in raising it without letting his drug use interfere? at this point, you just need to think about the potential life of your child and if letting it live is the best choice for it.

[liljemma]

first, always use contraceptives i.e. condoms, birth control, abstinence (if you can, but it's an extreme in my opinion). safe sex is always the best choice, although it may not be as pleasurable when you use a condom as it is without it, better safe than sorry. if you can get on birth control this is highly recommended, but get tested for any diseases before you have sex with anyone else besides your partner. secondly, your boyfriend shouldn't be doing drugs while you're pregnant, period. even if he isn't around you it's still apparent that he is using and that doesn't help with you trying to stay clean. you should have a talk with him and let him know that having another life inside of you is serious and it's not up to him to be playing with your child's life and endangering it and you by continuing to do drugs. you're right it isn't fair to bring it into the relationship, especially an unhealthy one like the one you're in (it's called co-dependency). 15 is a very young age to have a child and since your body is not fully matured it could be difficult for you to give birth. also, your baby could be born premature, with birth defects or unhealthy in some way. but if you're already pregnant and you're still having urges to use, or you think the baby might be born unhealthy because of the drugs then you can abort it, but that's your choice. just think about what would happen when it's born: would you continue to lead a life of sobriety? are you responsible and mature enough to be a mother, and your boyfriend, a father? would your boyfriend aid you in raising it without letting his drug use interfere? at this point, you just need to think about the potential life of your child and if letting it live is the best choice for it.

[margypops]

I would say to you to have this child many good folks out there will adopt he or she ,have you spooken to your parents as its their grandchild they may have suggestions to help you, I am sorry that things are tough, it would be a good idea to get help and counselling to stay drug free, Good Luck

[jo929]

First start with telling your folks then figure out what to do but get off the drugs for yourself, also liljemma is right about drugs affecting the child also remember that if you are on drugs the child has to be weaned from drugs just as you will have to be  never never take drugs no matter how much you think you care for someone you botfriend is an addict do you want this kind of life for yourself, or do you want a better life  luck  jo

[becky149]

i havent told my parents and dont know if i should ,i am trying to get off drugs but on new years eve  took 3 lines i feel so bad but will be at the doctors first thing tommorow to get checked, i have a scan next week and me and my boyfriend have decided to not make a decision on abortion or birth yet but we have decided against addoption as we both hav had or known people to have bad exsperiances through adoption and are not ready to put our child in this position . we are not sure if we would be suitable parents either tho so have decided to not rush into anything but we are aware that a decision has to be made asap

[becky149]

i havent told my parents and dont know if i should ,i am trying to get off drugs but on new years eve  took 3 lines i feel so bad but will be at the doctors first thing tommorow to get checked, i have a scan next week and me and my boyfriend have decided to not make a decision on abortion or birth yet but we have decided against addoption as we both hav had or known people to have bad exsperiances through adoption and are not ready to put our child in this position . we are not sure if we would be suitable parents either tho so have decided to not rush into anything but we are aware that a decision has to be made asap

[margypops]

You know you have a problem and are taking steps so thats the first thing to do ,tell your Doctor be advised by him , and get some help, your boyfriend also as its no use you getting clean and him not if you have this child  the pair of you will want to be good parents  and doing that under the influence of drugs I would say is not too happy a situation.Good Luck to you it sounds as if you will be okay seek the help you know you and he need ...

[allmymarbles]

Get an abortion. Not only are you too young to be a mother, but also you have no means of support and both you and the father have been addicted to drugs. That means, by the way, that the baby you are carrying may have serious abnormalities. Do you want that? Get an abortion.

[RachelVaughn]

Well lady it all up to you. I personally do not agree with abortion but I also dont judge those who do it. I think adoption is best, that way you give a person a life and you know they are well taken care of. But thats not for everyone...some ladies cannot handle giving away a child. See a doctor - tell someone- anyone you can trust and that knows you and your life well. They're are tons of resources out there for these problems.

1-866-942-6466 Pregnancy help line

[margypops]

Here is another website with information if you did not want to have an abortion ...  911babies.com    Good Luck I hope all goes well..