pregnant and cant take it

[roxy415]

I'm 3 months pregnant I was married to a physical abusive man and now I have a emotional abusive bf I think being beaten is easier for me  to emotional right now I think I'm going to kill myself I can't even be strong for me how can I do it for a child

[Nighthawk61]

Please think yourself and your child worth reaching out and taking the help that's out there for you. I was in similar relationships earlier in my life, and made the change. I met the most wonderful man, who is kind and considerate. Growing up  and then in my dead end marriage i never knew such men existed to be my husband, and my child's step parent, but lo and behold, happiness is meant for all of us. But we must be brave and have faith. and mostly, have friends that care along the way. You can have that here. I hope you make many friends here to help you while you're transitioning to better times. That little one growing inside of you, if you do the right thing by them, will love and adore you. But, you must do the right thing by them. and get them to higher ground. If you ever want to talk privately, I'd be happy to hear from you. Liz

[Chima7]

Please call the suicide helpline 1-800-273-8255. They are there to help people in your position.

This emotionally abusive bf of yours is not important enough for you to deprive yourself of a good life and your child of a life. He's not worth it. You may not know this but you have a purpose in this world and so does your baby. Please don't let this guy take that away.

[Alex_X_18]

my advise leave his A$$ but if ya do plz don't tell your leavin as it will only anger him. I've seen abusive couples fight the guy (if HE FEELS THRETENED) which as a woman makes no sense from my perspective
but if he does won't hesitate to kill you. So if you gotta leave look up some local woman's shelters. an old friend of mines mom when to one when her husband was beating her she left with her 12 year old. I've also done research on these things for a class project as well had to visit one the place was so well disguised I couldn't find it and they had secret passcodes for people to get in kept all your info private and hook
u up with services to find housing and even daycare. he is MORE likely to end your life because you are pregnant and abuse men towards their wives sometimes abuse their children seeing as how you seem to wanna keep the baby this is the best advice I can give.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  I am SO sorry you are having such a rough time.  I do agree that emotional abuse is abuse just as physical abuse is.  It ALL hurts.  

Honey, what can you do to get out of this situation?  Being pregnant does not mean you have to be with this man.  How can you get out?  Where can you go?  Any family?  Friends?  There are networks for abused women that you could also find some support from.  

You have options as well regarding the pregnancy.  There is adoption as an option which can be a beautiful thing for all involved when one isn't ready to have a child.  Or, you could see what kind of help you could get to raise the child alone.  

But do not think that you will be forced to be with a man that abuses you for eternity.  

Now, if you are seriously considering hurting yourself----  yes.  You need to find help right away.  The ER or a suicide hot line.  PLEASE don't do that.  You will have better times ahead.

When all settles down, you can investigate patterns you're possibly repeating in dating and work on a new plan to not be in this kind of situation again.  But please have faith and hope that it will change.  peace and hugs

[CRSeaside]

Dear Roxy. Please go to the emergency room right away. Tell them what you said here. They will know what to do. No one deserves to die. Not you. Not your unborn baby.  Stay calm. Watch a funny movie called Juno.
  There are support groups you can attend for free. NAMI.
    Also, know we love you. You are not alone. Keep posting. Pamela