should I be worried??

[rose625]

I am a 25yr old women and I have blocked out any memory from the time of about 6 and under. I have been both sexually and physically abused by family members. I don't remember the sexual abuse. All that I know is that my sister did it to both my brother and I. I have a reoccuring nightmare every so often that often leaves me waking up screaming and in a cold sweat. I don't remember anything about this nightmare, just that I am very scared, and running.  I haven't seen my sister in years and I refuse to have any relationship with her. What I need to know is if this is normal and should I be worried about my memory being blocked. I have heared that if you block memories they often come back later, is this true??

[jml1986]

I can relate to what you have gone through. I myself was a victim of incest from more then one relative. It is not an easy thing to deal with, but I chose along time ago not to let it control my life. I remember very vividly what took place and yes there was a time that I would have dream about it, but I decided that I just did not want those times to be the only thing that controlled my life, so I had to move on. You do not have to have your sister in your life, but don't let her ruin it by being the one bad thing that you focus on.

[SL345]

Do you want to get help for the nightmares, angry feelings and issues related to remembering? It's great that you have been able to have an otherwise normal life.

[rose625]

I know that my sister abused me because what I do remember is very disturbing to me. My sister has also admitted to both my brother and I that she has done this, and my aunt caught her while she was doing the horrible things to us. My aunt thought that I remembered what she saw and brought it up during a conversation about my sister and I told her that I didn't, but that I have nightmares about once a year about my sister. I don't really remember to much about any of this and what I do remember about my sister and my relationship is having a deep anger at her and not ever wanting to see her. I remember having panic attacks when I would see her and seeing a doctor when I was younger. That is about all that I can remember though. I am otherwise a healthy adult with a husband and two children. I don't have any intimate problems withmy husband and we have a wonderful relationship.

[jo929]

if you have reoccuring memories and they bother you that much you should seek a good dr or therapist in some cases some people do remember in some they do not
you know there are 3 levels of the mind the conscious- thatis the one where your thoughts are now then we have the subconscious that is the one you can recall at will
then we have the unconscious level and that is the one that is buried deep and one that we can not recall at all but the unconscious level motivates our behavior so you shoud really seek counsling as you may not really know that you are blocking things out some people cant remember about their childhood which is normal in some people they can just depends on the person   maybe there is a chance that youe sister did not abuse you have you tried to talk with your brother and sister to resolve this lots luck   jo

[jml1986]

First I would like to ask, how do you know your sister abused  you? Is this something she admitted to, or a family member told you?

[SL345]

If your history causes you distress of any kind, please consider seeking out an evaluation and/or treatment from a specialized treatment provider in the area of trauma and abuse. Good luck.