so sad

[ladylb]

I have a 2 year old boy  that loveesss is dad soooooooooooo much.. and this morning he called me saying that he dont think the 2 year old or the one I'm pregnant with now is his child. He think that they belong to this guy I dated back in middle school. And my baby dad think its his because he was going though my facebook and seen us catching up " like how u been" the guy has a whole family of his own. Butnow my son dad want DNA test done. I told him hes making a big mistake of his life and as soon as we get this DNA test iI'm leaving him and taking my sons away to. I can't no longer deal with this man. He tried to push me out of a moving car while I'm 4 months pregnant because I wouldnt give him his 125 dollars back and he has fought me in front of my son and choked me while my son stood there crying. And how my son trys to choke other kids.... I love this man sooooo much but he needs to change his ways

[Nighthawk61]

Sometimes women accept this  type of relationship because they are more comfortable with chaos (as i was when i was younger). BUT as mothers, we must seek out understanding of our situations and ACT in the best interests of the children. You son will be abusive, or he will be a victim if you continue to have this man as a role model. You need to charge him, and get a protective order and keep him away from you and your children. I know it's a hard thing to do. You made a lousy choice on a first husband. Accept that and put down your foot. You don't have to continue on with a bad choice,you only have to recognize that you've made one, and go in a different direction. I hope you get tough enough to do what you should for your children. As a child of abuse, I can tell you that my mother got the worst of it from her children. Although it was my dad that was the maniac, it was my mother who made the choice  to martyr herself and her children to this same kind of abuse. Also, abuse always get's worse, like addiction. A man that would treat you like this, would cheat on you with at the drop of a hat. There can be no good that comes from continuing this lifestyle. I pray that your kids have a mother that doesn't let them down any more than choosing a bad guy to be their father, for robbing them essentially from a good family life by choosing the wrong dad.after all the red flags that you probably had. I hope you don't feel that i'm am not 100% sympathetic to you, because i am. Something happened to you, as it did for me, that set us on this path, of getting involved with these types of people, instead of loyal, loving , stable and balanced individuals. It's NOT TOO LATE FOR YOU OR YOUR KIDS. You may need to talk to a therapist about what happened to you, in order for you to truly move on and parent from a balanced place. The first step may be going into a shelter with the kids. After hearing your story, the best first step in  my opinion would be to charge him and get a protection order for you and your kids , so that you are not left having to give your kids to him and have no idea of what abuses he will bestow on them. Very complicated stuff. I'm so sorry that you're feeling so hurt by all of this. You CAN FIX THIS for yourself and your kids. Please don't give up doing so.

[bgermain007]

Well u need to make the move ur self no matter how much it hurts. Good luck hun.  

[ladylb]

Thats so sad.. I know I need to leave

[bgermain007]

I am so sorry, I have been in a situation my self like this abd watched my mother hi through it as a child . Get  out now u may love him but he does not love u or them babies if he does this to you. Please leave for you and them babies. My friend got murdered at 19 by her bd infront of their two year old son. A man who is abusive will always be.

[2ndBabyDueFeb13th]

Aww, sweety, you have to let him go. In sorry for you and your bpys that is just terrible.
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