what you think?

[luckymommy13]

So..... Anytime i try to talk to my baby daddy the whole conversation just goes left. I'm currently pregnant and so is another girl by him. I love him so i tried to forgive him. I asked question to know how and why it got to that point but he gets mad. He doesn't talk to me. He doesn't come to the Dr appointments. He don't try to see if I'm okay . He not even looking for a job!!! And he got 2 on the way. I'm so close to his family and nobody see how we got to this point. The other girl don't know I'm pregnant but has already told him if I'm any where around she will not let him see his child. I think that's why he don't talk to me. I just need to know what you think. why choose somebody that uses you're child against you instead of somebody that has been there since day 1? Do you think they relationship will last?

[specialmom]

Well, her not wanting you around is because she senses that the man in question is 'torn' between the two of you.  It would then make sense for her to not want you to be around.  She's clinging to him.  Honestly, she is a victim to this guy just as you are.  He did you both wrong and continues to do so by not making a choice of which woman to be with and keeping you both.  

I admire your attitude and positive energy you are trying to display.  The smile on the face is wonderful.  But I know you are hurting on the inside.  And I'm very sorry about that.  Lean on your mom and any other people you are close to for support.  Peace sweetie.  

[luckymommy13]

Yea but she is saying that just cause she don't want me around the family. she don't know I'm pregnant. But i want him to raise the situation but at the same time I'm progressing without him more. Us and when he decides to come around that will be fine but as of right now I'm gone continue to work and keep a smile on my face. It's his lost. I just wish the pain would go away. I wish i could just fall out of love with him.

[specialmom]

Well, if he stays involved, that is great.  That is icing on the cake.  I just encourage you to think about what you need to do for baby's sake to be ready without him.  I do hope that he whistles a different tune and becomes the man of your dreams . . .   a true blue partner, faithful, a good dad, provider, etc.   I just don't know if he ever will.  Frankly, you deserve that.  Not a guy that is torn between two lovers.  Yes, it is not appropriate for the other girlfriend to say that he can't see his kid if he is also with you.  She's demanding he make a choice though which he needs to.  She's probably desperate and hurt.  And ticked off at him.  Probably a little bit like you feel too but just handling it a different way.  I don't condone that at all but have empathy for women in this situation including BOTH her and you.  

I agree with the above person who says you are worth a million of someone that treats you and another woman this way.  I'm so glad your mom is supportive and you have her to lean on.  

I hope it works out the way you are wanting it to but just prepare things in case it doesn't for the baby.  peace and luck to you

[krystal1234]

hey, i kinda understand your situation, my boyfriend of 3 years was unfaithful to me, and towards to end i found out he had another baby to someone else, who was 2 weeks younger than my daughter! he denied it but i knew it was true. after we split up he ended up seeing the other child. i was heartbroken and thought i would never get over it or him, but i moved away to get away from it all. it was so hard at first and i didnt think i would cope. but nearly 2 years on i am a much stronger person now, i cant believe i ever let myself be treated so badly. i am alot happier and look back on that man with regret and feel sorry for him. i know its hard just now and u want things to work, but u are worth a million of him! just concentrate on ur baby and ur mum will help and support you, my parents wer my rock. you will in time find mr right when your time is right. i have! so i am living proof that there is light at the end of the tunnel :) wish you all the best xxxx

[luckymommy13]

It's just me and my mom. My daddy has never been around and when he tried he wasn't ready. He couldn't even tell me anything about this situation because he said it's a man code. My mother is my rock right now. But i have told him he don't love me and he just get mad and say I'm always saying something stupid. But i do appreciate your comments!! Thanks so much

[specialmom]

Ugh.  Agree.  He doesn't sound like a decent man at all.  I would get your plan together for how you are going to raise your baby without factoring him in.  I sadly don't think he'll be around much.  Or at least you can't count on him.  You have big things coming with the birth of a child.

Are your parents supportive of you?  

anyway, I don't know if their relationship will last if that is the question.  But I would say he'll have a history of being the kind of guy who does this kind of thing for a good while.  So, you don't want that in your life.  good luck dear.  

[Life360_Dave]

Hi also, as annie said hes a jerk. He dosent love you and thats why hes doing all of the above. He only cares about himself. I know you love him and wants things to work but from what you describe they wont work because he doesnt love you. He will us you however and thats why hes with you, to get what ever he can from money to sex to your love for him. Its all about him.
You really need to take this guy to court and get some child support ordered.

[luckymommy13]

I just don't see how you can choose someone who holds your child against you. Who doesn't have any respect for your family.

[AnnieBrooke]

Stick with his family if they are supportive, but stop wishing for Mister Cheatin' Lyin' Jerk to break up with his other baby mama.  You don't want that guy back, you'll never be able to trust him again.