Aa
A
A
Close
Avatar universal
My partner is addicted to pain pills.
My partner injured her knee in May of 2012.  She is self employeed, so cannot afford insurance.  She copes with the pain by taking Hydrocodone.  She has been diagnosed with depression as well as ADHD.  She has shown the typical signs of an addiction: Dr. Shopping, extreme aggitation when she is about to run out, extreme hi/lo's, poor memory, dialated pupils (?), sleepiness.  I confronted her once with my concerns, to no avail.  I again confronted her (just this past week) and she admitted to lying to me, getting her pills from other sources, abusing the prescriptions, and admitted she has a problem.  She claims she will see her doctor this week and I will be with her.  My concerns are supporting her in this--which I will, but I don't know what to do with my anger, resentment, hurt, mistrust--my feelings.  Any suggestions out there?
Cancel
2 Answers
2 Answers
Page 1 of 1
1551327 tn?1414146344
Hi and welcome to the forum,
You will find alot of support on here but sometimes it may take a little while, be patient.  Yes it does sound to me like she is addicted.  I don't question that.  At least she is telling you about her problem and she obviously trusts you.  In many cases when confronted the addict lashes out in anger and it is very hard to get anything done.  Also with her mental illnesses she has a few more obstacles than some to overcome.  I warn most people not to get into a codependant relationship with the suffering addict but if she trusts you, and it sounds like she does, you can possibly help her.  Keep this in mind, however, it is not her fault.  Let go of the anger, read some of the posts on the Addiction Substance Abuse forum and see how this could end up if it goes on.  There are some strong, scared people on there who want recovery.

Approach your friend with patience and compassion because as soon as you loose that trust, you have lost your edge in helping her.  I understand the trust issues that you have. It is ok to check her eyes from time to time but don't always think that she is trying to pull one over on you.  She is in a viscious cycle and now is the time to stop it.  You may not trust her but it sounds like she trusts you....

Good Luck and let us know how it goes.

Larry
Comment
Cancel
1551327 tn?1414146344
Comment
Comment
Submit Comment
Avatar universal
Thank you.  
Comment
Cancel
Avatar universal
Comment
Comment
Submit Comment
Your Answer
Avatar universal
Answer
Know how to answer? Tap here to leave your answer...
Answer
Submit Answer
A
A
Blank
Weight Tracker
Weight Tracker
Start Tracking Now
Addiction: Living with an Addict Community Resources
Top Addiction Answerers
3197167 tn?1348972206
Blank
clean_in_ks
KS
495284 tn?1333897642
Blank
dominosarah
City of Dominatrix, MN
406584 tn?1399591666
Blank
10356
1235186 tn?1339127464
Blank
atthebeach
on the beach, NJ
1801781 tn?1461633069
Blank
littlebit667
OK
3060903 tn?1398568723
Blank
Nighthawk61
Other