the love of my life is addicted to roxys

i dont realy have a question.... iv been reading everyones posts and i just felt the need to join in,,,, my boyfriend and i have been dating very seriously for 10 months.... it was love at first sight. we never argued or anything untill lately. he served in the war for 6yrs and when met several months after he got home. he has very bad ptsd  and suffers from axiety do to the war. before he went in he had a drug and drinking problem but then he cleaned up. i live upstairs from my cousin and her and her boyfriend were realy bad with roxys and her boyfriend was actualy dealing them. sure enough he gave one to my boyfriend and now he is hooked on these damn pills.... he says it not bad because he only does one or sometimes two day. he says he cant function without them. if we have a family thing to do he says i gotta get one or he wont go. the best is im actualy paying for them. he hasnt worked or contributed in months. im drowning in bills and yet hel beg me for $20 a day for roxys... hel actualy leave us with not a cent if it means he needs a roxy. im so behind on my rent that its discusting. he finaly just got a job but wel see how long it last  and if i see any of that money.... i love more then anything in the entire world but lately iv gotten seriously frustrated. i need help. i need him to contribute to our life financialy. he says my additude it gonna ruin our relationship but the fact is im pushed to it. please can everyone just pray that we make it through this??? my family is all addicts and iv seen them loose everything to an addiction.... i realy dont wanna loose the love of my life to an addiction.

[Brisco77]

I'm just coming out of a pretty heavy Roxy addiction. It may be one or two now but it will grow along with everything else negative that goes with them. You can't enable him by providing him with money that will only destroy you. There is a member on here Atthebeach. You really need to talk with her. She has some wisdom for you. Good luck. Praying for you.

Bryce

[Brisco77]

I'm just coming out of a pretty heavy Roxy addiction. It may be one or two now but it will grow along with everything else negative that goes with them. You can't enable him by providing him with money that will only destroy you. There is a member on here Atthebeach. You really need to talk with her. She has some wisdom for you. Good luck. Praying for you.

Bryce

[atthebeach]

hi and welcome to MH. i am so sorry you are dealing with this now. i totally understand i lived with my addict husband. addicts can become vey big deceivers. i know you want to be believe him when he says he is only doing 1 or 2 but the tolerance builds up very quickly and they need to take more to get that "feeling" they are looking for. he already had drug and alcohol issues before the war and now ptsd. he needs to be in counseling. talk to him and see if he will go. check the local va hospital.

hun you said you love him. but i am sorry right now he loves the drugs more. you are enabling him to get high. dont give him anymore money. i would be very firm with him about the job he just got. if he loses the job he is out. you are providing everything he needs to be comfortable and survive.if you kick him out maybe he will hit bottom and want the help he needs. they need to get sick and tired of being sick and tired.  you need to take care of yourself, it isnt your attitude it is his addiction, he will try to blame you, make you feel guilty, say anything he can to get more money,hence more pills. you should go into counseling, find a alanon meeting. go to church, talk to a pastor,get some support

you came from a family of addicts. then you need to guard yourself and protect yourself. so many times we fall into the same dysfunction we came from.
have a talk with him tell him you are concerned he has fallen back into his same addiction behavior (relapsed) and he needs to stop new before it really spirals out of control.
tell him there is no money for the pills. dont give him anymore money. be strong
tell him if he needs to work to help pay for the bills not the pills
if he loses his job kick him out.
this may seem harsh but beleieve me it (his addiction) will drain the life out of you, it will break your mind and spirit.

i will pray for him that the chains of addiction and bondage will be broken
and i will pray strength and wisdom for you,
sending hugs and blessings
debbie

[WillisinFL]

I was in love with an addict. I still am, but I had to let her go. There really isnt anything that you can do. Move on with your life and try to forget. It has been a year now, and I still think about her everyday. It probably has been the worst experience of my life, but all I can do is pray that one day she will come back a changed person. I miss her so much :'( But, I would not wish this on my worst enemy. Helpless, thats the only way to describe the situation. It is unbelievably difficult to break off a relationship with someone that you're in love with, but sometimes there is no hope. I love you Michele Josephine Davis. Please get better. I pray for you everyday sweetheart.
-Will