the sink in the bathroom is running for 15 minutes... WHAT IS HE DOING IN THERE?
my husband who has an opiate addiction is constantly going to the bathroom. I hear him opening and closing drawers, doing stuff other than actually using the restroom, all while the water is running. I'm pretty naive about drugs and how they are used but just thinking about it the thought dawned on me.. could he be shooting up? He'll be in there for like 15 minutes. when I confronted him about it he just told me I was paranoid and nosey, why am I listening, what's my problem... I know there's no true way of telling but can anyone with experience shed some light? does this sounds like a situation in which someone is shooting up? if not what else might he be doing?
I agree with LL...and Charmer, I think your suspicions are very valid. I agree with LL that you should search the BR very very closely. It would be great if you could just barge in on him, but I'm assuming the door is always locked?
One of my dear friends whose niece was a heroin addict (we all worked together) described the exact same stuff, and she started doing it at work, in BR for LONG periods of time, water running, toilet flushing multiple times, etc. Always saying she had diarrhea, blah blah blah. We knew something was up.
We could never catch her in the act though, but I finally got permissiom from our administrator to unlock the BR door once when she was in there. As the supervisor, it was up to me. Well, needless to say, we caught her red handed. She had the needle in her arm when I unlocked the door and we went in.
I would trust your gut, it's most likely right. If he IS shooting up, he HAS to be stashing his "gear" somewhere...spoons, caps to bottled drinks (sodas, waters), cotton, needles, lighters, etc. If he's coming out empty handed, and the stuff isn't on him, he's got it hidden in that BR somewhere. If it's on him, he's likely immediately going somewhere after the BR trips to stash his crap....that's where you would look.
So sorry you're dealing with this. If you can find a way to jimmy-rig the lock so that it doesn't lock when he thinks he locked it...there's your opportunity. You just simply walk in after a decent amt of time of him being in there.
Let us know if you find anything out. I think you already know something's up....you're not naive at all.
Wow... the door always being locked, in BR for LONG periods of time, water running, toilet flushing multiple times, always saying he had diarrhea...yeah, that is exactly him. Once I found a syringe in one of the drawers that open beneath our bed. I didn't know what to think of it because there wasn't a needle attached to it, but it was a skinny syringe that looked like the kind that would have a needle. I just left it there but made it obvious that I had seen it with how I kept it exposed in the drawer. After I knew he had found it and taken it, I asked him about it. He just blew me off and laughed. He said he knew I'd think it was something that it wasn't and that he thought me finding it was funny and insisted that it was used for some sort of medicine or something. His ex wife used to shoot up, his brother shoots up, his brother and sister in law shoot up... why wouldn't he? I can't believe I'm even entertaining this thought. He's had a history of drug use - pretty much anything he could get. He has a broad knowledge on every single kind of drug there is, what it does, how to use it, etc. I honestly wouldn't be surprised, especially after reading the responses and putting 2 and 2 together, if that's what he were doing. I have searched his bathroom, but probably not as thoroughly as someone who understands how they stash things would. Plus it's so disgusting in there with dirty clothes all over the floor, crap all over the counter, pill capsules clogging the sink... to even know where to look. My mother was just telling me about my father and how he would hide his needles. If I had heard that before I left, I would have looked in the places the suggested. But, as of literally last night, me, my mother, brother, and his girlfriend all drove 10 hours to his (our) house to get my things and relocate to my mother's. I am 8 months pregnant and have a 2 year old daughter and I don't even KNOW all that he does, but what I do know, has been enough to make me feel like the absolute last thing I should be doing is subjecting my children to his manipulative and secretive drug addict lifestyle. My heart is torn, but it had to be done. Thank you everyone for your responses and for taking the time to shed light on my inquiry. I just discovered this website a few days ago, and it is truly amazing. I'm so grateful to you all and the MedHelp community!
P.S. - I remember his sister telling me about my husband and his friend were hanging out at her house on her birthday, and how my husband and his friend "kept going to the bathroom"..... and this "friend" is a someone who uses bath salts, meth and God knows what else. Wow. Red flags, indeed.
Just thought of another one! The day I moved into that house, he stopped using the master suite and started using the other bathroom, telling me it was so that I could have my own bathroom and the boys could have their own bathroom.
I've noticed tons of money missing... last year's tax refund, I never saw. He sold his truck and got $15,000, I never saw it. my gold worth $1000 was stolen, and it was in a lock box that only he and I had a key to so I know he stole it. he's taken hundreds of dollars of cash back from my debit card, I have no clue where it all went. He's gotten multiple payday loans, I never saw the money. when he did have a job, I never saw his money. for a long time he was unemployed and I was the payee for his son's social security so I had total control of the finances. all of his bills were/are past due. can't tell u how many times the heat, water, electricity and gas were turned off in that house before I got involved in the finances and the bill paying. last year CPS was coming to him because of how much school his son had missed. (that was before I was living there). They drug tested him and he passed, so I don't understand what he's doing. if he IS shooting up could it be some sort of prescription pill that can't be tested for? I don't know. he likes opiates n pills but I've snooped and read old messages of his and it seems like he'll take anything. I don't know anything about shooting up, what people use, etc.
You know what sweetie!!!??? You're SO smart to get out of that situation and surround your kids with healthy, safe people. You can't fix him. Maybe some day he'll get help, but until then, you're smart to stay FAR away.
If you're still searching the BR, get down on the floor, and look under the sink...the board attaching the sink to the ground...there may be a place knocked out where he stashes his stuff. I knew an IV user a very long time ago, and that is where she was hiding her stuff.
oh. my. gosh. You just sent a shock through me. in that bathroom, the exact same floor board on the bottom of the sink is gone. He always said it was so the heat would come out better.... but that is just TOO uncanny.....!!!!
My son started with marijuana and on to roxy, molly....It was apparent when coming down, given the right situation, they get mad. He did and threw me around like a rag doll. My son has never ever been a fighter.
He said it was klonopin. Any insight? It seems you can take their phones, no money, keep your eye on them, you think, every minute, yet if they want to do drugs, they do. Throw him out......to where? I have tried tough love, but in this case I am weak. I can't handle it. My BP depression is getting worse and worse and I fear for my life at my hands.
I know that when people take opiates (such as pains pills - not sure about heroin), I know that it makes it difficult to pee and also slows down the bowels making it difficult to go #2 also... I have a boyfriend who used to snort percocets and this was a common occurrence...sometimes it would take him 20 mins to pee just the littlest amount.
Hi from a recovering addict I'm afraid he's without a doubt using something whilst in the bathroom, my addiction was heroin and I smoked it, when I finally told my family the common thread from my family was how long I spent in the bathroom! I us ed to run the tap to dull the sound of the foil crink ling and the shower with the window open to get rid of the smoke and smell. If I thought he was into heroin still then I would put money on it that's what it is. I hate to say it but unless he's fed up with the way his life's going he's not very likely to stop it makes you so bloody selfish. Also he's putting his guilt onto you calling you noisy! As if you haven't given him the benefit of the doubt time and time again. Whatever you decide Hon, goodluck you do deserve better but in the end it's up to you, do u think he's worth it? Keep us posted Rachaelx
The insanity of being with a user is looking for their parphnelia. You have all the proof you need. There's no sense to go out of your way to find his stash unless you planned to stay there and make it a safe place to live. You know the truth without driving yourself crazy looking for the physical proof.
Im new here but I'm telling you as a heroin addict myself that he is shooting up. I do it too. I'm not proud but there it is. He's turning on the water for several reasons... 1 is you need water to put in your needle to cook the dope, also there is a ritual to doing this and he doesn't want you to hear him, also its possible that when he does his shot he could be nodding for a while.
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