*** Another One of my Weird Questions***

I have always been fascinated with this question.  It's very difficult, and I hope nobody takes offense to it in any way, but here it goes........

I you were in the middle of the ocean and your boat was sinking......it's you, your spouse and your mother and you could only save one.......who would you save?  If it were your Mother or your child......who would you let drown.....I know this is morbid or freaky, but I could never get the answer from my husband.......its not an easy question....for some it may be, but for others???????  I'm not sure if I can even answer it........very curious on how many can answer this.......and, it just may be ugly and unfair, but as i said......i am fascinated by anyone who can answer it......

Nauty.............

[newgirl2708]

None.
I'd use their body's as floatation devices to get to shore. Not only am I an addict, I'm a selfesh addict...

[NautyOne]

OmG......LoL.........come on.....you have to dig deep on this one.  I can't ever get an answer for this question.....maybe its just inappropriate, but it could happen?

Nauty...........

[Victor322]

hmmm, probably the woman (my mother) that raised and fed me even tho i can't tolerate her for longer than 20 minutes at a time...i guess that blood is thicker than water, no?

[newgirl2708]

My child of course.
(after I taught him how to drown his crazy grandma)

[NautyOne]

LoL.....girl....you are cracking me up and pizzin me off at the same time.....:-)))))

[flmagi]

lol   Between my husband and mother... my mother, and even if I could save both, I'd be putting my husband down.....oops, just couldn't save both of them officer.
Between my mother and my son....my son. My mom is 81 and not gonna live much longer anyway. And then I'd go get my husband and drown him for the fun of it.

[confused456]

OMG...Newgirl!! You are so crackin me up!!

For me, I would save my Mother, let the man fend for himself and keep the sharks at bay. I can't say that I like either of them but I would save my Mom. She gave me life.

MY CHILD without a doubt!! Children are THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN THE WORLD!!

[Chi_Chi_Lover]

Between my children and anyone I would pick  my kids but my mother or my husband I would pick my husband. My mother has passed away and there was a lot of bad history between us. I felt a some relief when she passed and I worked through my issues with her.

[VicUser]

I am assuming that that means there are there in the boat and only two could stay in it, right?

Let's see Wife or Mother, my wife gave my two wonderful boys and has been my companion and lover for over 27 yrs, my Mother gave me life, wiped my butt when I was little and was always there to get me off to school and when I came home. This one is easy, I'm out of there, I can swim.

Wife or child, a bit tougher. Well not really, both of my boys and I are lifeguards as well as scuba divers, so which ever boy was with us and I would switch off being in the water and the other would be on the watch for dangers.

BTW, you would only find us somewhere there is warm water so hyperthermia would not be an issue

[confused456]

Vic...your boat is sinking she said!!

[VicUser]

Confused, so does that mean it is hopeless anyway and this is only postoning enviable.

[allaboutmary]

I'd save my dogs. lol

[Jacqui805]

I have a book called The Book of Questions, and this is one of the questons in it.  I have been thinking about getting it down and posting a fewof them, and oddly enough, I was thnking about this yesterday!  

This one is not so easy to answer, and I'd have to at least consider that the sitauation may not be so bleak.....I'm an optimist.....I'm very close to, and in love with my husband, so the thought of living without him is uncomprehensible to me...but I also love my kids...and my mom too....it's not something I could answer without being in the situation and assessing the situation then.

[dominosarah]

Many years ago my 1st ex and i had to talk to the minister before we got married and he asked us that very question.  We both said our kids and he said no you should save each other as your spouse came first. (mother wasnt in the boat at the time).  Im sure i would end up drowning trying to save them all.  It would just be an instinct.  Now i am not going out in a boat!!!!

[GoingToMakeIt]

Since my mother is gone, this is an easy one :) My wife. But it would be my wife any day.

[paul300]

deep thoughts by NautyOne... ;-)

[Savas]

I'd use my mother to plug the hole and save myself, wife AND the boat. You know how how much replacing a 60 footer costs nowadays?!?!

[dominosarah]

i knew you would have a good answer!!!!! LOL

[Victor322]

my boat might be sinking, but it hasn't sunk yet!

Pass the bucket, will yah?
:-)))

[sadinmichigan]

Comming from a christian perspective..
I would let myself drown..I know where i am going when i die..so there isn't a worry there,

If it was between my mother and child.....my child..My mother would want it that way..But I have 6 children..so which one?? Hmmmm.I would save the one  that doesn't know the Lord..

[eden_leah]

well, between my mother and my husband, well I can kinda cheat on that one, hes not my husband YET so I wouldn't have a husband to save so I would save my mother lol.  Also between my mother and my child, lord, I would save my child, shes got her whole life ahead of her I would always have her cherish the memory of my mother but I'd have to take the daughter, but if in any case I could save them all by dying myself and letting them use my boobies or something as flotation devices you know maybe cut both off and give them each one to float away on lol, I'd do that too.

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[confused456]

For the Christians, the Bible says that once married, spouse comes BEFORE parents

[sadinmichigan]

yes the spouse does...and before children too...but if the spouse is not a christian..well...you gotta give that person a chance to figure things out..before it's too late..

[NautyOne]

yep......thats what makes the question so interesting to me......just to see where people's minds are......Not judging anyone.  I still don't know that I can answer the question myself yet.  I was bummed out to find out that I can't own this question.  I thought it was mine.......always someone smarter, prettier, and every time you think you've come up with a good invention.......someone else has already thought of it.....I hate that.......lol.

Nauty...........

[sadinmichigan]

when i was in psychology class in college..they posed the same question...almost..it was..if you were on a boat and you had to get rid of one person to keep afloat who would you get rid of and why...

[confused456]

well I can give an honest answer.....and if no one likes me for....screw em!

[sadinmichigan]

yeah...screw..um...I don't care who likes me or not...

[confused456]

Exactly!!

[triedeverymed]

Good question NaughtyOne!! If it were my Mom or my son I would give my lefe jacket to one of them and go down with the boat. I couldn't decide between the two.

[newgirl2708]

This information might have a bit of insight as to what/why I'm an addict and why I would use her as a floatation device:

This weekend I spent time with my folks for Father's Day. I don't remember why the topic came up...but Leona Helmsey was mentioned.
She was my mothers hero! I had forgotten all about that.! Now, when I say hero, I mean it. She loved her! Loved her philosophy's, her work ethic, her money and success, such as it was...Loved her. Stood behind her. Imagine that. I sit back and watch my mother and she's the same way.

Now in my 40's when we self examine how we got to where we are and why we do things we do or think the way we do...This type of thinking and expectations from my mother are a huge trigger and explain a lot of what I am getting rid of. I know, I know, I am the captain of my own ship now and make my own decissions, but at least this is a puzzle piece for me.
I'm praddling...sorry. Just a little insight as to 'floatation device' choices...

Now I'll go paddle instead of praddle..
ng

[confused456]

NG...we all have "reasons" as to what gives us that little shove into using I think. It is not a choice always, I personally think life circumstances, family, etc. have something to "help" get us to that point, yews we make our own decisions but I would not have CHOSE to be an addict, I never grew up saying this is what I wanted in life!!

That is why we all have to examine our "triggers"....for some its life, emotions, etc....while for others it is the high......but we all have them.

[Mikeinthesouth]

I guess I would say I would not go out in the middle of the ocean in a BOAT. I would think a ship to be much more the vessel to use for that so lets stay outta the ocean with boats cause they sink fast there.... LOL

[Mikeinthesouth]

oh and I wish it were the mother inlaw rather than the mother yikes could not choose but if mother in law she is so full of hot air anyway shed prabably pop up from under water and bounce her way on top of the water to the beach..........

[newgirl2708]

So I get into work today after this post...and Leona Helmsey is all over the news!!!!!
ooooooooeeewwweeeooooooooooo freaky huh?

[confused456]

Freaky Deaky NG!!!

[Decisions]

I would let my ex-mother in law drown.
Wait that wasn't the question was it?

[newgirl2708]

I was freakin' out!!! I thought, well, that confirms it then...I'm right on with my thinking.
I seen that she left her dog 12 mil a judge overturned her will and left the dog 2 mil and gave the rest to her grandkids and charities. My mother would do the same.

My mothers neighbor is a handyman and she wanted to get my dad a hand vac for a b-day gift...she asked him to pick one up for her. A couple of days later he did. He brought it to her. (i was standing there for this) She was thankful. He handed her the receipt the bill was $54.65 She had two twenties a ten and two fives. Instead of giving him $55.00 she went into the house and got the 65 cents. When she was counting out the money, I said, just give him the five...she gave me the worst look, totally Leona, and said, No. The bill is 54.65. I almost died and the guy looked at me like???? I said he spent $84 in gas to go get the thing; you owe him at least the 35 cents. Nope. She wouldn't give it to him.
I asked her after he left why not, she said he had plenty of money and she wasn't going to get a penny extra from her.
Floatation Device

[newgirl2708]

ooops, and 'he' wasn't going to get an extra penny from her...

[confused456]

OMG!!! Sorry NG but that IS CHEAP!!!! Wow!!!

[Decisions]

I didn't read all the posts, but I have my answer.
This is serious.  Let's say we really got put in this situation.
I thought about it, and I would let THEM decide.  Flip a coin, pick a number, etc..
Or truly let them decide.  
I would stay neutral, letting them both know they are my life, and I could no more choose who would live OR die.  But they could, knowing one HAS to.  Thus, the pressure is lifted, and each must sort out what must be done.
Either agree who goes on, or "pick a number" etc...

This was a hard question to ponder, and thank God we likely won't have to make such choices....
Thank God.