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HELP WANTED !!!!!

This is Really Hard for me to Post out here about this because we ALL have our issues in Life. I almost have a Year in but these are the kind of things in Life that can affect my Sobriety since I am still a Babe in the Womb. I wanted to post it here because this is the Community where it is has a lot of people from all over.
As most of You Know my Mom has been dealing with her return Cancer and goes to Chemo. Well she has been very positive and has been a Trooper about this so far.. BUT today she wants to give up. She has gotten down to 87lbs because she can not put her teeth in and she only has half a tongue. She can not taste anything and everything has to be in liquid or blended. Yes, she drinks lot of protein drinks and shakes. She can only eat soft food so it is very limited.
My Question is...What can she take to help her Gain Weight or get some Energy. What are some of the Foods that we can make up that are soft and can go down just like a baby with no teeth. BUT the hard thing is no or half tongue so it is really hard to eat food. She is so sick of ALL of this and being in pain that it does scare me to death that if we do not put weight on it will be sooner then later. I sure would Love to Hear any feed back regarding this.
I sure hope they do not move this because My own Sobriety is at stake..You know we can run but we can not hide. I know a lot of you have had some worse tragic things in your life as well, so I am no better then anybody else but I do need Support Right Now and I have no were else to Turn..
Thanks!
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Just seeing this I am SOOO glad shes eating and drinking!! I am happy for you and her, I have been PRAYING!! and I am SOOOO Happy dad didnt have to move!! God is GREAT!! Stay clean :) We are PROUD of you too!!
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UPDATE!!!
I just wanted to tell U all that because of your Support my Mom is eating and drinking a lot more then I have ever seen.lol
Also I feel very Blessed that my God helped me to get Clean and handle these situations Clear Headed. I have been talking with My dad (which did not have to move) and he is accepting this all..he said he lived a long nice life and believes in God so much that he does not have much fear right now. We were able to talk about what we are going to do after. Alot of Friends and Family are coming up while he is better shape right now..I WILL NOT USE!! He is SO proud of me and told me so about a week ago..SO No Pitty Pottie for this Gal..Thanks Again. lol
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Thanks. I feel like it is a Dream..I talk to him about it all and he has me calmed down a bit because he knows he does not have much time left.
Just for me to go in and see him daily just tears me up. It hits me daily that I will never see my Dad again. He is my Step Dad and we are way more closer then my real dad. He was with me for over 50yrs of my own life.We ALL did a lot of things together all the time. I brought him up here to live in the Assisted Living that I know only to well. I wish I could bring him home.There are many reason I can not because it is way out here for anybody to be called to get him in the winter.The way the house is to for a W/C. I feel really safe with him being able to stay at his home there. He is happy there so we will never move him out. He will be getting Hospice.
This all is to much for me and my Hub and my MOM is really scared..She has cancer that we are trying to beat but his is to late and he is to old to make through chemo..It would Kill him for sure.
Need Strong Prayers.
vickie
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6050497 tn?1378857828
How's it going? I'm praying for you... I'm not sleeping so I have a LOT of prayer time....
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Hey sweet sister! How are ya holding up? KNOW that you & your family are in my thoughts and prayers!
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4522800 tn?1470325834
Thanks Alot Heather. Right now we are pretty Numb and Sad about my Dads Situation and she is so Down..I have to push the food on her. This really is hitting her bad where she does not want to eat. I will make up some of this. She will eat small things through out the day.

Bless ALL Of YOU!!!
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Milk shake recipe for cancer patients
A writer and friend of mine has graciously offered this milk shake recipe for patients who need extra calories and have a poor appetite. I think it sounds tasty, however the caffiene content may not be wise for younger children. As always, check with your family doctor before adding any new items to your diet especially while going through cancer treatments.


High Protein/High Calorie Shake Recipe

Mix in a bowl with a whisk (to decrease lumps):

2 scoops of vanilla Mus-L-Blast Body Building Formula
This product can be found at stores like Savon, and GNC. it is packaged in a large 52oz can.
1 can of Ensure Plus, Boost Plus OR Prosure
Prosure is not available in stores. It may be purchased on-line at: https://www.rosstore.com/store.cfm?Department=ensure&Category=Nutrition%20for%20Cancer&Subcategory=&OrderID=0
It is formulated for cancer patients to help build muscle, promote weight gain, and increase strength.

Add:

1-2 tablespoons chocolate sauce
¼ cup decaffeinated espresso or rich, dark coffee

Place in a blender with:

½ cup coffee ice cream
Use Starbuck’s, Haagen-Daz’s, Double Rainbow or other high calorie ice cream. One half cup of these contains 250 calories.

Blend until smooth. Store refrigerated and shake before use.



Notes:
I make 2 shakes at a time in the blender, three times (a total of 6 shakes) and store in the refrigerator to make it easier for me.

Experiment with amounts of coffee and chocolate sauce and types of ice cream. Starbuck’s makes coffee/Carmel, coffee/chocolate chip and coffee/mud pie ice creams.

My friend who started making these shakes says that the coffee/chocolate flavor is the best to cover the unpleasant taste of the ensure/prosure and protein powder. If you do not care for the mocha flavor you might try Strawberry Boost Plus with strawberry jam and ice cream OR vanilla Ensure with peach jam or sauce and peach ice cream. Be creative to adjust to your taste.
Thanks to Theresa Schultz for the recipe. Check out her blog at http://stress-freeparent.blogspot.com
Let me know how it tastes.

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Vic how are you today?
I found this article for you
been doing a lot of googling and speoke to the oncology dr today he agrees with the recipees I gave you!!
Protein sneak veggies in it pineapple covers kale taste, when you juice put pineapple, kale then pineapple in that order!!
heres the article

Photo Credit ice cold milkshake image by paul benefield from Fotolia.com During cancer treatment, you may need to boost your intake of protein and calories in order to prevent weight loss and muscle wasting. However, radiation or chemotherapy can cause nausea and diarrhea and make swallowing or chewing painful. High-calorie, high-protein drinks --- either commercially made or prepared at home --- may help you maintain your weight and lean tissue mass.

Want to get in great shape? Learn more about LIVESTRONG.COM's nutrition and fitness program! Meal Replacements
When you're undergoing cancer treatment, you may find it easier to tolerate small servings of nutrient-rich beverages than large portions of solid foods. Energy-dense meal replacements combine a high number of calories and high protein with a low liquid volume. Look for instant breakfast drinks, liquid meal replacements or clear nutrition supplements that are formulated to promote weight gain. A milkshake made with a packet of instant breakfast mix, whole milk and ice cream has 474 calories and 20 g of protein per serving.

Fruit Smoothies
Radiation treatments to the head and neck can cause mouth pain, throat pain and swallowing or chewing difficulties. Cool smoothies made with sherbet, ice cream, yogurt or frozen fruit may soothe a sore throat while providing extra calories, protein, vitamins and minerals. If you're having trouble digesting dairy products due to lactose intolerance related to antibiotics or radiation, try yogurt or ice cream made with soy, rice, almond or coconut milk. To increase the protein and calories in your smoothies, blend extra egg whites, powdered milk, avocados, wheat germ, peanut butter or cashew nuts with your liquid ingredients. A smoothie made with regular yogurt, whole milk and instant breakfast mix has 400 calories and 19 g of protein per serving.

Protein Shakes
You can supplement your diet with ready-made protein shakes or purchase protein powders to blend into the shakes you prepare at home. Supplements made from soy beans, rice, egg whites or whey -- a milk-based protein -- are the most common protein powders available. In addition to augmenting the calorie content of your drinks, supplemental protein boosts your natural immunity and gives your body the materials it needs to rebuild tissues during cancer treatment. One tbsp. of a milk-based protein powder provides 45 calories and 5 g of protein.

Fortified Milk
To prepare a beverage or cooking ingredient that gives you additional protein, calories and calcium, add 1 cup of powdered nonfat dried milk to 1 qt. of whole or low-fat milk. Blend the mixture well and chill for at least six hours. One cup of fortified milk has 211 calories and 14 g of protein.

  References
American Cancer Society: High-Calorie, High-Protein Shake and Drink Recipes
TrueStarHealth.com: The Scoop on Protein Powders
National Cancer Institute: Eating Hints: Eating Problems and Ways to Manage Them
USDA National Nutrient Database: Protein Supplement, Milk Based, Muscle Milk, Powder


Read more: http://www.livestrong.com/article/349739-drinks-for-cancer-patients-to-gain-weight/#ixzz2eV7zyHvz
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Thanks again Girls..Gives me comfort to know there is people like you all.
Good reply Annibelle48..Thank you so much.
Right now I am just still in shock and can not process yet. I have to move my Dad tomorrow and I am going to see if he wants to do ANY THING on a Bucket List..lol
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I've been keeping up with your posts.... You're all so close and that's so encouraging right there... Wow, what a safety net to fall back onto...
I can understand the whole "mad at the dr's thing". My anger with the dr's was a big reason I'm here with you now....
They're not God.... Sometimes I think we just expect more from them and are so disappointed when we don't get what we think we're due.... Well, let me say... There are many many doctors who could benefit from a forum just like this. Real life happening, every minute, right now. We put them so far up there, that when they fall, they fall hard. Go ahead and see your Mom's and your Dad's doctors as regular people. One thing I've learned is they don't know everything.... And it seems to me some of them are a little relieved to know we understand that....I'm praying for you and your family. As has been said.... Treasure every minute you get... Make it count
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I'm SO SORRY Vic!!  please let me know what i can do to help you feel better!  my prayers will surely be with you and your family...I know this is unbearable.....just lean on us here....
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Where on earth did she find that show?! I remember watching that show when I was little with my grandma. Yes, I'm sure that there is a message there. There are messages everywhere, we just usually aren't listening for them.
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OH Thanks YOU Girls.. That is a really good way of looking at it..That God wanted me Clean before all of this came down..Wow that just lifted me up.
And Ang I might be calling the ones I have #s for Support later..Just to numb right now..Oh my Mom is sitting here watching "Highway to Heaven" I bet there is a message in this one for us..lol
Its called "One Wing Angle..Hum.
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Vic, I don't know why things tend to happen like this. All at once and it seems sometimes like the better we are trying to be and live our life, the more stuff goes wrong. Just know that you are strong and you can handle this, even if you don't feel like you can. If you find you have no more strength left, then fall back on your friends. We will hold you up for as long as you need. Please keep that strong faith that you have. It will help you to get through this and other tough times. I am sending positive vibes and prayers like crazy to you. Sending you a big, huge, moose hug too. A moose smoochie too! Love you my friend. Please hang in there.
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Vic I am so sorry, I know how you must feel!! And at the same time all I can say is God must have made you a STRONG person! Vic your avitar name suites you Vicorageous you are courageous brave strong and amazing!!!
God got you sober when he did for a reason, to help you be able to be clear and help your parents fight! I wish I was closer...I wish i could hug you...
You are an amazing person!!!
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Thanks Ricart. I called my Niece and she did not know what was going on. I thought my Mom had been talking to her..So then I had to give her a Double Whammy. She new about my Mom and chemo but did not know that she has lost so much weight. My Step Dad raised her and they are close so we all are meeting in the morning. I called my Biological dad and he lives next door to my only Brother and he will tell them. This is just to much. I know it will be SO Hard but we are all getting up there and it was going to happen sooner or later..Just SO dam mad at the Drs because my Step Dad has been having issues for years and they never checked when he was in CA. Now it is to late and they can not do anything because of his age and how bad the cancer has spread..Maybe God wants me to help Cancer Patience or something..I will Pray very Hard. Time to walk out in the Forest and talk to God..lol
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Yes keep the faith Vic and keep the faith in yourself .Are there any of the people that you know at the meetings who can talk to you and that could maybe help out a little with this ?  Hang in there my dear friend
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Thanks ABN.. I might have to PM you about this.

Julie send me a plane ticket. I want to run and hide..lol

The Dr called and said I have to move him over to the Nursing Home. He just Loved it over at the Assist Living..His room was set up with everything. Just like a home. Now I have to pack most of it up. OMG This is SO Fing Hard on me right now..I feel like I am in a dream and it is ALL not true. I know we all our getting older and this is bound to happen but I just wish it was many years down the line. Now they only give him 6 Months. Well they are not God so we will see. Sh*t and more Sh*t!!!!
Keep up the Faith., I must Keep up the Faith!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Vic, I am so sorry to hear about this...so much to deal with at one time.  Sendig prayers and positive vibes your way.  I am always here for you. ..call anytime if you need to talk or if there is anything I can do for you.  Love you.
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http://www.samsclub.com/sams/premier-protein-high-protein-shake-chocolate/prod3220051.ip
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Oh Vic! Im so sorry for all your going through right now. My prayers go out to both your parents.

When I was on Interferon treatment, I lost 50 lbs. My doc was very worried for me because Im very tall and had gotten very thing. The meds ate at my bone marrow...etc. To make a long story short, I found success in a protein drink called Premier Protein.  Its sold at Costco and Sams club in a case. What good about it is that it has 30 grams of protein with only 1 gram of sugar. A lot of these protein shakes/drinks are high in sugar which can raise glucose levels. I would only drink half of one a day because if your not working out it can raise your creatnine levels.

So....thats what I did to stabilize my weight. I couldnt eat....nauseous every day. Everything tasted like sheeeeat. These were tolerable. Your mom has to be careful because her body is compromised right now and although many things are good for a normal healthy person, when we are being treated for things, our bodies cant process like it normally can. Some things in excess can be harmful.

Big Hug

ABN
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4522800 tn?1470325834
When it rains it pours. I took my Mom to see the cancer Dr and told him all the things I picked up on here. Yes he agreed with her needing the calories most. Did not seem to be very knowledgeable about the food. I did ask him about a Med that would make her Hungry. SO he prescribed a Hormone pill (Progesterone). And he did ask if we wanted to see a Nutritionist..Well si*t now you ask after she lost SO much weight. What is up with these Fing Drs.

NOW I get a CALL from the ER and my DAD has cancer all over and he got weak and was admitted. Why Now..Why did you just pick up on this when WE have been going to them Forever. I am not happy right now!!!
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Thanks Heather. You gave me some more good Ideas on the Ice Cream also..I really do Thank You All. I am glad I got this input before it got moved over here..lol
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Vic when you make the shakes you can put kale spinach etc just add pineapple to get rid of the taste!! Add fresh fruit to the yougart just blend it first!! i see a common ingredient too peanut butter
Try peanut butter poptarts blended with snickers icecream and protein powder!! That sounds amazing!!
I am so proud of you for doing this sober! I couldnt...with either of my parents and I kick myself to this day! I am here, though I am not as insightful as others I love yah! Prayers
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