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Inspiration For Your Recovery...
Many of us addicts have become quite adept at believing and adopting seriously negative beliefs about our lives without even knowing it, and the only evdence, and the best evidence of this is the current unhappiness and chaos in our lives. I want to share some inspiring information that has helped many others to begin to take the steps towards creating a peaceful, happy life, where whatever you want is within the realm of possibility. I am not the originator of this knowledge. It comes from my therapy, the Law of Attraction, meditation, and the beautiful insights I have gained from the amazing people in this community. Alot of this is posted in bits in pieces in other threads, but I wanted to put it in one place where others could search for it and use it however they wish, in order to infuse hope and faith into their lives. Please feel free to post opinions, experiences, and comments. Nothing is off limits, it can't be here.
In the grand scheme of things, if you really stop to think about it, nothing in this life has any meaning at all. A tree, a cocktail, an obstacle, a bottle of pills, or a tragedy do not have any meaning unless YOU give it one! Why are puppies cute? We as a society have come to generally agree on this. Why is losing look upon with negativity? Because we as people give it that meaning. There are NO ABSOLUTES in life. The beauty of this is that YOU are in charge of what meaning, and in effect what feelings you draw from EVERY situation in your life. That should come across as very empowering!!! :) Up until this point, we have viewed ourselves as victims, and that’s ok, we all do at times. You feel like your life is the result of all of these seemingly external things happening. Nonsense! Just think, we all committed our lives to using at one point, we focused all our attention and energy on it and guess what - we all got pretty damn good at being what we don't want! We are and have always been experts at creating what we believe and focus on. So now the big question...what makes you think you cannot use the same expertise to do the opposite and believe in your success and recovery? You CAN, and you WILL.
I have noticed a troubling trend in the forums. People are telling eachother that they are at the effect end of some cause, over which they seem to have no control. We often see ourselves as victims of life's circumstances, as opposed to conscious creators of our own happiness. When you see yourself as a victim with little or no control over your life, you feel helpless and out of control. You never open your mind to all the possibility that you can create something different. I cannot even begin to list all the ways this applies to our addictions.
When we all at one point have played the victim role in life, and tend to look outside of ourselves for some cause to blame. When we look for that cause, it always finds us, even if it isn't really the cause (which is a majority of the time). Then we spiral into feeling hopeless and helpless, and in effect WE ARE. Victims use phrases like "I can't" and "I tried." When you feed your brain these negative thoughts, you "magically" come up with all the ways you need to prove yourself right and keep order in your world. Without knowing it, you turned your back on all the creative powers of your mind that believe you can. Over time, it essentially becomes non-existant and not even an option in day to day life. So we attract why we can't into our life, and that further reinforces our beliefs, and the vicious cycle continues. The solution is to keep asking your brain for answers until that little ignored part of us emerges and serve us faithfully again.
When we as addicts say, "I tried....to quit, to not relapse, to not hurt my loved ones again.." we never realize that "trying" brings "failure" into the realm of possibility. The word "try" could not exist without the concept of failure. If you believe in "try," you must also believe in "failure," and that will only serve to hurt us in the end by attraction. I have eliminated "try" from my vocabulary permanently, and suggest you try the same (no pun intended...haha). Visualize yourself recovering, without fail. The machinery of your mind jumps to action to give you reasons to succeed and how to do it.
If you take away anything, I hope it is that playing the role of the victim is one of the best ways to sabatoge our recoveries. If we view ourselves as the cause of everything that happens in our lives, only then do we have the power to change it.
Sit back, and visualize how good you will FEEL when your journey out of addiction is complete. FORCE yourself to let those waves of peace, calm, happiness, and harmony flow through you. It feels good, doesn't it? It has been proven your mind cannot distinguish between a vivid imagination you FEEL, and actual reality! You are tuning your mind for success.
We use because we are trying to feel happy, plain and simple, that is why I shot up a dozen times a day for a half a year. We are afraid of experiencing OURSELVES in the beginning, and then we become afraid of the withdrawals when the disease sets in. I say why be afraid of w/d's? WHAT WE RESIST...PERSISTS, and creates more suffering! I view them as my badge of honor, I wouldn’t have it any other way, I would 100% choose to experience every heartbreaking moment again. If you take the time to view all these experiences as having a positive purpose, it will give you faith that you are on the right track and on the verge of reclaiming your life.
The key to ending our suffering is to end our resistance to people and situations - being as they are. Life is the way it is. We must learn to let whatever happens be okay - even if you are in the process of trying to change it.
Another theme I noticed in these forums is how many of us consciously or unconsciously claim, "I never want to feel this or that way again, or I must avoid this drug, or that drug, or this person at all costs." I think this is one of the worst ways to live our lives. All of our negative emotional experiences (especially our addictions) create beliefs that are not helpful at all and cause us to focus on what we DO NOT want. Since the mind takes whatever we focus on as an instruction to create it, this is a dangerous way to view your recovery. We MUST focus on what we want and have beliefs that tell the mind to create that result for us.
When you notice yourself focusing on what you do not want, immediately change your focus to what you do want. This takes some practice. Try to grasp the fact - Our minds do NOT know when we focus on something, that we do not want it! It always takes our focus as an instruction to go get it and bring it to us in one way or another. Thats why its so important to start replacing thoughts of what we DO NOT want with thoughts of what we DO want!
The sad reality of our lives during our addiction is the best indicator that our beliefs and thoughts about life up to this point suck big time! The key is to recognize them, know they have given you the life you have now (that you are not happy with), and begin the process of letting go, surrendering, stopping the resistance, and to stop thinking the same old way and expecting different results. That’s insanity my friends. You can do this and we all can help!
You all have already succeeded in my mind, just give yourselves the same courtesy and watch how everything falls into place. You WILL BE OK ! We are here to help! God Bless, if you made it through this long posting, you must truly be focused on your success!
"We don't see things the way they are. We see things the way WE are..."
In the grand scheme of things, if you really stop to think about it, nothing in this life has any meaning at all. A tree, a cocktail, an obstacle, a bottle of pills, or a tragedy do not have any meaning unless YOU give it one! Why are puppies cute? We as a society have come to generally agree on this. Why is losing look upon with negativity? Because we as people give it that meaning. There are NO ABSOLUTES in life. The beauty of this is that YOU are in charge of what meaning, and in effect what feelings you draw from EVERY situation in your life. That should come across as very empowering!!! :) Up until this point, we have viewed ourselves as victims, and that’s ok, we all do at times. You feel like your life is the result of all of these seemingly external things happening. Nonsense! Just think, we all committed our lives to using at one point, we focused all our attention and energy on it and guess what - we all got pretty damn good at being what we don't want! We are and have always been experts at creating what we believe and focus on. So now the big question...what makes you think you cannot use the same expertise to do the opposite and believe in your success and recovery? You CAN, and you WILL.
I have noticed a troubling trend in the forums. People are telling eachother that they are at the effect end of some cause, over which they seem to have no control. We often see ourselves as victims of life's circumstances, as opposed to conscious creators of our own happiness. When you see yourself as a victim with little or no control over your life, you feel helpless and out of control. You never open your mind to all the possibility that you can create something different. I cannot even begin to list all the ways this applies to our addictions.
When we all at one point have played the victim role in life, and tend to look outside of ourselves for some cause to blame. When we look for that cause, it always finds us, even if it isn't really the cause (which is a majority of the time). Then we spiral into feeling hopeless and helpless, and in effect WE ARE. Victims use phrases like "I can't" and "I tried." When you feed your brain these negative thoughts, you "magically" come up with all the ways you need to prove yourself right and keep order in your world. Without knowing it, you turned your back on all the creative powers of your mind that believe you can. Over time, it essentially becomes non-existant and not even an option in day to day life. So we attract why we can't into our life, and that further reinforces our beliefs, and the vicious cycle continues. The solution is to keep asking your brain for answers until that little ignored part of us emerges and serve us faithfully again.
When we as addicts say, "I tried....to quit, to not relapse, to not hurt my loved ones again.." we never realize that "trying" brings "failure" into the realm of possibility. The word "try" could not exist without the concept of failure. If you believe in "try," you must also believe in "failure," and that will only serve to hurt us in the end by attraction. I have eliminated "try" from my vocabulary permanently, and suggest you try the same (no pun intended...haha). Visualize yourself recovering, without fail. The machinery of your mind jumps to action to give you reasons to succeed and how to do it.
If you take away anything, I hope it is that playing the role of the victim is one of the best ways to sabatoge our recoveries. If we view ourselves as the cause of everything that happens in our lives, only then do we have the power to change it.
Sit back, and visualize how good you will FEEL when your journey out of addiction is complete. FORCE yourself to let those waves of peace, calm, happiness, and harmony flow through you. It feels good, doesn't it? It has been proven your mind cannot distinguish between a vivid imagination you FEEL, and actual reality! You are tuning your mind for success.
We use because we are trying to feel happy, plain and simple, that is why I shot up a dozen times a day for a half a year. We are afraid of experiencing OURSELVES in the beginning, and then we become afraid of the withdrawals when the disease sets in. I say why be afraid of w/d's? WHAT WE RESIST...PERSISTS, and creates more suffering! I view them as my badge of honor, I wouldn’t have it any other way, I would 100% choose to experience every heartbreaking moment again. If you take the time to view all these experiences as having a positive purpose, it will give you faith that you are on the right track and on the verge of reclaiming your life.
The key to ending our suffering is to end our resistance to people and situations - being as they are. Life is the way it is. We must learn to let whatever happens be okay - even if you are in the process of trying to change it.
Another theme I noticed in these forums is how many of us consciously or unconsciously claim, "I never want to feel this or that way again, or I must avoid this drug, or that drug, or this person at all costs." I think this is one of the worst ways to live our lives. All of our negative emotional experiences (especially our addictions) create beliefs that are not helpful at all and cause us to focus on what we DO NOT want. Since the mind takes whatever we focus on as an instruction to create it, this is a dangerous way to view your recovery. We MUST focus on what we want and have beliefs that tell the mind to create that result for us.
When you notice yourself focusing on what you do not want, immediately change your focus to what you do want. This takes some practice. Try to grasp the fact - Our minds do NOT know when we focus on something, that we do not want it! It always takes our focus as an instruction to go get it and bring it to us in one way or another. Thats why its so important to start replacing thoughts of what we DO NOT want with thoughts of what we DO want!
The sad reality of our lives during our addiction is the best indicator that our beliefs and thoughts about life up to this point suck big time! The key is to recognize them, know they have given you the life you have now (that you are not happy with), and begin the process of letting go, surrendering, stopping the resistance, and to stop thinking the same old way and expecting different results. That’s insanity my friends. You can do this and we all can help!
You all have already succeeded in my mind, just give yourselves the same courtesy and watch how everything falls into place. You WILL BE OK ! We are here to help! God Bless, if you made it through this long posting, you must truly be focused on your success!
"We don't see things the way they are. We see things the way WE are..."
In the AA Big Book Of Alcoholics Anonymous -----the Most quoted page for over 50 years is Page 448 and 449 that page is now 417 due to a new edition. It starts "And acceptance is the answer to all my problens today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person place thing or situation --some fact of my life -unacceptable to me."
Now by nature I am a die hard NA kind of girl. But I give koodoos where I find them.
I would be willing to co-sign most of everything you wrote because this is your truth your journey....................But I have to be willing to allow others be where thet are in recovery.
I have been most of my life in some form of therapy, healing the ties that bind me to my childhood
I have come to the conclusion that I won't escape this lifetime healed from the devistation
But what has been healed is what I turn" too" during emotional pain, and the length of time spent in pain.
I hope others are opened-minded enough to take away from your entry some tech. that may enhance their QUALITY OF LIFE.
Thank you for taking the time and caring enough about others to sit down and write this post...................Be Blessed
Now by nature I am a die hard NA kind of girl. But I give koodoos where I find them.
I would be willing to co-sign most of everything you wrote because this is your truth your journey....................But I have to be willing to allow others be where thet are in recovery.
I have been most of my life in some form of therapy, healing the ties that bind me to my childhood
I have come to the conclusion that I won't escape this lifetime healed from the devistation
But what has been healed is what I turn" too" during emotional pain, and the length of time spent in pain.
I hope others are opened-minded enough to take away from your entry some tech. that may enhance their QUALITY OF LIFE.
Thank you for taking the time and caring enough about others to sit down and write this post...................Be Blessed
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