well i said i had huge news to announce and here it is
i had a talk (fight) with my children's father. Alot of rage came out as i screamed at him why isnt he taking better care of his kids, allowing them to go with no health insurance even after i told him the Dr said our oldest needs a tonsillectomy and tubes in his ear in the near future (unless we keep it under control the rest of the winter/cold/flu season. ) He asked me if thats one of the main reasons I hate him and i said YES of course it is. ANd I said what eats me the most is you inherited that money when your dad died (3 years ago) and you just let it sit in the bank and act like its not there (its not a huge amount but alot more than even I know I think- I know its at least 40,000 but probably more) He's always felt uncomfortable that he got any money at all when his dad passed and its a tender spot with him as he did love his dad dearly. So he's always pretended that money isnt even there (a form of denial of his death, if you ask me) but anyways... I said to him- you know how much your dad LOVED THESE KIDS! He loved them soooooooooo much and he was thrilled that he lived to be 92 years old and see them born and start to grow up before he died. Dont you think he would want them taken care of better, to have health insurance at least for crying out loud?? ANd at that, he caved. With tears in his eyes he said YOURE RIGHT
and he has now agreed to use that money to buy health insurance for both the boys! Im still in shock about it. I already was researching online to see what plans are available and which company would be best to go with, which set up and deductable was most appropriate (man that stuff gets confusing!!). I have to meet with him tomorrow and we will decide which plan to go with and start the procedure to get them insurance! (what would happen if the state of ohio finally comes through after 6 months of waiting and they approved them, what then? lol But cant wait any more for Ohio to decide if these boys get medicaid or not)
i forgot to add- when we were first fighting about this- he said something to the effect that buying health insurance is likely to get you into negative numbers. that unless your arm or leg falls off and insurance pays to have it surgically re-attached that you'd be better off not having any insurance at all and just pay for things as they come up. I told him are you insane?? and btw he does pay CAR insurance!!! i asked him if he felt like he was wasting his money every month unless he wrecked the car weekly?? Its the same damnn thing (only more important with health!)! Its just crazy to me that he would justify buying car insurance but not health for his kids! anyways Im so happy that he has finally seen the light on this! Cross your fingers that he doesnt change his mind before he signs that paper and check!
Wow, I had no idea he was sitting on a wad of cash. That's great that he's finally coughing some of it up. You know, as his wife, you are entitled to some of that money, especially the kids. So he's not being generous, he's doing what he should have done without a second thought.
Good for you, keep standing up for yourself and those boys.
That is great news, but I do believe legally half that money is yours. I know in the state of Fl it's 50/50 if your married. Anyhow so glad your son is going to be able to get his tonsils out finally.
Happy New Year !
Have followed your progress for a while. This is terriffic news for the New Year.....congratulations and give the kids a huge hug - - - - and I am sure that your own mind will rest a little more easily now also .......
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