thanks to everyone for support
I agree with Sara and tell her straight out she is harassing you and if she contacts you again she will press charges for harassment .It really hard to do but I had to do it to someone this spring who I thought was a really good friend . It turned out I was wrong .she kept calling over and over and over until I got nasty and was the last time I heard from her
Call her instead of texting and give it to her straight up. Ignoring her isnt working. If she doesnt quit then and keeps harrassing you contact the authorities or put a block on your phone.
Hang tough... Hopefully 'she' will give up SOON!
Try not to put "WIND into HER SAIL" (i.e. don't respond)
Remember the old saying... "With friends like these.. who NEEDS enemies" ???
I know it's tough.... cuz you have such a BIG HEART... but remember also.. that YOU HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.... FIRST!
You are the most important person in the world...KNOW THAT! (and OWN IT!)
Much love and support your way..
Always and forever!
You know its sad she will jsut not get that I dont want to talk to her or nothing to do with her,,, she has sent me over 22 texts in last few days which I have not answered one of them even one said her grandson was sick... I prayed for him but didnt answer her... Last text I sent ask her to please leave me alone... I am so tired of this... I hate to change my nmber I have had same number for years and I have a huge family and they all have that number.,,,
Holliee
You don't have to go into details if you don't want to. If she doesn't get the message you can change your #. You know as well as I do that a true friend is someone who is there for you at anytime someone how knows everything about you and will not judge you. What she did is extremely immature and has broken your trust. I personally would speak my mind to her tell her not to even try to stay in contacted with you. If you are afraid of her I would just change your # or try to have her # blocked. Hang in there and stand your ground sweetie
X0x0 Melissa
you know it been a long time since all this happen and she texted me today saying hi whaT u doing? I still didnt answer her and sent me another text saying it's rude not to answer someone text well I had finally had enough so I sent her text saying please leave me alone I wish you no harm and just want to be left alone... I thought that would make her leave me alone but no it didnt she sends me one back saying she dont understand why I do not want to talk to her... What should I do I just want to be left alone by her
Just text her back with three word, 'Leave me alone!!' That should get the message through to her. You can't rely on her intelligence to understand why you haven't answered her back because it seems like she refuses to believe you don't want to be friends with her any more. Those three words should be enough, hopefully.
Stay strong girl... Remember you don't have to respond to her texts or her phone calls.. You will be better off without her in your life hurting you... You are a kind and caring person who DESERVES to have GOOD FRIENDS... not people that use you...
Happy THANKSGIVING GIRL!
Be HAPPY and HEALTHY... you're the BEST!
you know the part that gets me the most is that she seems to think that nothing ever happen or no reason for me to be upset about anything. Like she sent me a text today
"hey have not heard from you in weeks and your not answering my texts..are you ok? Is your sugar been high and there no reason for you not to answer me back???"
Why does she not get it that i dont want to text or talk.... I see no reason too.. She really believes that nothing happen for me to be mad about.. That bothers me also...Cause the next time she flipped out it could be real bad and its not healthy for me in friendship like that...
Sounds like she has a severe personality disorder. Could be schizophrenia or the like. The mood swings she has displayed could hide a myriad of possible problems none of which you have to feel guilty about. The fact that she shot herself should have been warning enough and the moment you found out about it is when you should have backed away. As it is just let it be and if she persists in harrassing you as it seems she has started doing, get a court order to have her cease and desist.
thanks guys for all support means a lot...I have left her alone and I never answer her texts at alll no matter what the text say./......
Again THAnks made me feel better to hear from you all
She really sounds with her psych history and gun shot to be a pretty disturbed woman. With some people like that they really can't tolerate the intimacy of the relationship. Everything see fine and then all of a sudden they turn on you.
That happens with a certain type of friend. The friendship seems great and then there is this change where you become to them a totally bad person. Stay away from her. She can't help it. She is so very empty that your "fullness" makes her envious and she needs to attack you. It will only get worse.
You have done nothing wrong. She is a very wounded person.
I agree with Queen...and I've been in your shows...TWICE! (i have a hard time learning)...i had to 'break up" with friends before...and omg...it was worse than breaking up with an insecure boyfriend...but that's what they are...insecure!
The best thing you can do for YOURSELF is to continue to ignore her...she'll go away...whatever you have of hers, mail it back to her...and forget about her. I know its easier said than done, but believe me, you'll be happier in the long run.
Like i said I had to do this myself...actually it was more than twice...but one of them was simply for my own mental health as that "friend" starting using and I am not going to risk my sobriety for it!
Yes, you are sad, feel it...its a time of greif for you right now...you lost a friend (even if she wasn't a good one)...its ok to feel sad...but feel it, heal it and let it go.
We're all here for you!
(((hugs)))
Hey Holliee girl.. I don't think she's a "FRIEND" cuz "friends" dont treat you like that...
You need to move on.. I know it's tough.. cuz you have a very giving heart.. but sometimes we just need to LET GO...
Old saying: "With friends like that.. who needs enemies!"
Hang in there hon,,, and know that you have a lot of TRUE friends here on MedHelp!
And.. have a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING... and BIG HUGS AND SLOBBERS to you and your pups!