One more question

[scaredgirl902]

Would it be bad for me to take a Soma for sleep. I have been on Soma's for about 4 years also and NEVER had a problem with them. I have been taking 1 a night for 4 years. I didn't know that because I am trying to quit the Vic, if I should stop those too, even though they are not the problem, and may help me with some of my withdrawl problems. Anyone out there tonight that can help?

[sage1229]

I am so sorry to hear about your wife's illness and your difficulties. I really hope you both find some answers for your current problems like 12 step programs if she is willing, or detox, rehab, sober living, and perhaps Alanon for you, to help keep you sane and expose you to so many others in similar circumstances. I have seen this illness from both sides, so I feel I do understand you and your wife's situation to some degree.

I call addiction an "illness" for several reasons. First of course, because the medical community has classified it as such. But also, I truly believe it to be so and not just because I have been there myself. It is an illness which involves brain chemistry. In later stages of addiction I found myself just needing the substance to feel "normal" and to prevent sickness. No one would choose this hell. It's the worst feeling in the world. Being that severely dependant is a horrible way to live. Ones life then revolves around avoiding the sickness that will attack us, like the worst flu x 100 with severe depression and anxiety thrown in. Unbearable.

Addicts feel a tremendous amount of guilt which imho, just aggravates the situation. From my experience, seeing your wife as someone with a (potentially fatal) disease instead of a weak willed, poorly behaved, (fill in the blank) woman may actually be helpful for you both.

I'm not suggesting that this shift in perspective from "low life" addict to someone suffering from an illness is to be used as an excuse. But I believe we all suffer enough from judgmental people in our lives and what we addicts really need instead is a little tenderness and understanding, especially from our partners and spouses who promised to love us in sickness and in health.

My suggestion to you is to have a calm conversation with your wife when she is not high or in severe withdrawal. And/or you might want to hire an experienced interventionalist...the good ones will treat your wife with dignity rather than ridicule.

Please understand that this is a serious situation. She does have a potentially fatal disease. But the good news is that with help she can maintain a healthy, clean and sober life.

I apologize for writing such a lengthy post but this is a topic I feel so passionate about. I really hope you and your wife find the help you need, and that 2016 is just the beginning of a new and healthy life together.  
  

[Jgrand1956]

Soma are bad news.my wife takes as many as she can get. Dr.gives her 120 a month. Plus she buys another 60 from friends. Now she can't sleep she says, so she takes ambien. Tonight she's in corner of the bedroom, talking of crszyness.she's also on 60 mg.of methadone. Think she has a problem? I curse the day she started taking them! Won't be long before I bury her.I can see.

[allen420]

  I have been on somas for about 10 years. I have never over took them. I take one during the day and 2 at night with  2 klonopins and I sleep OK. I have never had any problems out of them. I have been on many muscle relaxents before. Soma is about the best muscle relaxent out there, if you take them the way you are supose to. They give you no bad side effects if you take them right..

[carr]

i call that "soma coma".

[Calzy]

I took soma with my lortab for years and didnt care about the soma until i ran out of lortab and would take the soma to help the w/d's and sleep. As the years went by i used the soma more and more and took so many once when i ran out of lortab, i ended up in the hospital bouncing off the walls and couldnt even talk and felt like i was drunk out of my mind. I know it is hard to quit both at once but be careful.

[IBKleen]

Hun..if you are taking them every night for 4 years..THEY are a problem.