Sex after Opiates

[jim811]

Hi...I was a big time jock for years with a voracious sex drive..couldn't get enough.  After taking pain meds for a few years the drive wasn't as strong.  Now after 5 days of being clean, I'm starting to feel the drive again.  Should I expect anything different?

Thx

[GoingToMakeIt]

    I came to decision yesterday. But first here is some background. I have been on anti-depresants for many years. Even with the side affects, they have helped me maintain moods better. After getting clean from vics I so wanted to be clean from everything. I thought this would be a good time to get off Zoloft. I was taking 50-75+mgs per day. I knew not to quit c/t, so I decided to level at the 50mgs and go from there. This was about 1 month ago. I never got below the 50mg. I have had such lethargy and depressed moods.
    Yesterday, I read up on PAWS in GreatGreebos journals. Now it doesn't say to take anti-depressants. It does say that depression after being clean can be very bad. It also talks of triggers. Time-line and events or people. Yesterday was day 60 which is one of the trigger time-lines.
  I said that to say, I decide to up my Zoloft again. Now is not the time for me to fight that battle. I am still fighting the addiction battle. Not to say I'm not winning. I am, but this is a life long battle to stay clean. You may think that 1 or 2 months is good. But in the overall picture, it is still very early in the recovery process.
     We, who are not newbies and are not 'Old Timers', And the old timers need to be more open about the recovery process, after the physical withdrawals. Sometimes the newbies get the idea that after 4-5 days, the battle is won. When the truth is. The battle has just begun! After thinking about this I am posting this on the addiction forum as a new post.

[Laroo]

Ok, I'm a girl in my 30's and just mentioned this to my only friend that knows I'm detoxing.  When I did stay sober for about 3 weeks last year that was one of the first things I noticed....I felt like a guy!  
I realize now the meds became my boyfriend & lowered my sex drive.  Yes that is one thing I'm looking forward to again.  If I remember right it will hit you after the first week.

[jim811]

Hi....my post was moved so I din't know what was up...anyway, I'm pretty well covered in that area and when I get out of the shower, my wife definitly likes what she sees (she doesn't take anything...just plain exercise for her)...

When I was on meds, I had to force myself....now, when the wind blows LOL, I'm pretty much ready...best thing is my stamina returning....

Hope this helps...

Nick

[lonote]

I know I'm not alone. Unfortunatly s--- happens. I'm blessed with a wonderful man. Those anti-depressants are wicked. But if its my frame of mind on an even keel, its a no brainer at my house. Plus the old man has cronic pain issues and is a normie.Not many of them he could take a vike or leave it and take an ibuophren 800 or that other non narcotic naprozen. And has the patience of a Saint. Yes Shelby, I'll come out in the morning. And with the daughter the drama was moderate. She moved back from Memphis, things didn't work out for her. She's staying with her Dad, and just say they are clashing. So she came over with 3 grandchildren, Greg at his gig, and I welcomed the company, drama and all. Till morning,  me!

[GoingToMakeIt]

I can relate to the age, anti-depressants and the lacks therein. Oh the joys of youth.:)

[shelby74]

Batteries! LOL  You know what I mean!  It is not like I can go just find a man, you know being married and all. lol  

I hope it is not bad drama.  I will be on in the morning, but I pretty beat now.  Will you be around tomorrow.

P.S. Batteries could never replace the real thing. ;)

[lonote]

An outlet? How about some batteries? just a thought. So good to see you Shelby. My daighter just got here with drama. But I will talk with you soon.I'm super proud of you girl! Will you be out here a while?

[shelby74]

I know the sex drive increase is a wonderful benefit!  Unfortunately, my husband is an active addict.  So he could really care less.  I am going out of my mind and I have no outlet.  I am 33 and this is tough!  I have no idea what to do.

Ionote, maybe switch antidepressants hun?  I am on Cymbalta and it is not affecting my sex drive at all.  Maybe hormone therapy?  Just some thoughts. :)

[lonote]

Well I'm just sitting back enjoying your posts to oneanother. Between my age 53, (that stage of life) and suboxone, amongst antidepressents, I envy all of you getting your groove on. I lost my drive. If anyone finds it, will you please let me know?  Cathy

[FAITHFUL74]

It doesn't just work this way sexually with the male gender. I am a newlywed and I know how that is supposed to be. But, on the pills I couldn't have cared less. Now I am totally into it. Totally freaking my husband out... I was hiding the addiction and he had no clue what sparked that little fire!!! Now when I walk in front of him he is all checkin' it out and makin' lil' sly remarks like your lookin good baby. I am liking it alot!!! Just wanted to throw that in there...it really has made an "improvement" in the bedroom!!!  

[jim811]

Lost---I fractured my knee while running - you know, when the body says no and the mind says hell yes...that's what led me to my issues...cartiledge is gone so no more running for me...you're lucky zack that you can run...used to love those 12 mile jaunts.  Anyway, older and wiser now...elipitical, versa climber, etc...low impact but still a good sweat...i even think the workouts are helping with the endorphins in my head...anyway, i'm still focusing on a 6 pack for my abs, having some serious fun and taking my babe down the costal highway on my sportbike...love that rush.

Nick

[zzzaaaccckkk]

iam  looking forward to this slight regiment iam going to slowly put together I nice jogging route an increase as I feel better. Thx as well lost soul I just moved a fewbthings around the basement n iam weak. Dont know why I've been eating like a champ. Iam one of the most physical workers u would ever meet. Enjoy ur day guys. N plug away, nudge, nudge!

[lostsoul2]

I used to be a gym rat, then blew my back out doing deadlifts.  Also ruined my right shoulder trying to push myself too hard.  Of course that all led to the pills.  I have a thin frame, so  Ihave make sure I lift heavy to put on size.  So when I got up to 325 on bechpress I thought I could do anything.  So what the hell, right?  Pack that weight on the bar for deadlifts, and I tried to jerk out my last rep and something popped.  Nevr ben the same since.  But I'm a lot older now.  So of course I got pissed to get the fire back and I was just sore for 5 damn days!!!!  I really need to go to a personal trainer who culd devise a workout around my injuries.

[jim811]

Dude...one more thing...as committed as you were to getting off meds (and I know from everyone here and my own personal experience how hard that is), I am personnaly driving that hard to get my health back.  I didn't want to work out when taking pain meds but since being free of them and just as lostsoul stated, I am making a sloooow recovery back into the health I should have been in.  This is giving me some serious determination...BTW - the chicks in the gym are fine....looks good and when I get home, my wife benefits :-)

[jim811]

I bought a new pair of cross training shoes, sweat pants, shorts, shirts, etc...shoes from sports authority and i always get my workout cloths frm ross or tj max because of price.  Just an FYI - I am tired but if I listen to my body during the workout, I usually do pretty good - 30-45 mins cardio and about 30 mins on weights.  The hard part is getting started becuz, like you, my energy level is a bit off..ok way off...but after the workout, I eat better, feel like i have more energy and i think it may help with the sleep eventually.  What really drives me though is the sweat...i believe, and may even be right (anyone?), that sweating will help get rid of any toxins you may have left in your body after opiates or anything else...just my thoughts...i'm no doc :-)

good luck...

[lostsoul2]

Just be careful starting up working out again.  I did it on day 1 and went as heavy as possible.  At 33 the body doesn't recover as fast and 5 days later the soreness is finally almost gone!!  So just take it slow if you can.

[zzzaaaccckkk]

I was planning on going to dicks sporting goods(said the whole name of store cuz of our subject matter). Didn't just want to say dicks. I was going to just look for items such as pull up bar. To hang. Reflector windbreaker, cuz I want to run at night. Dont like talking to neighbors. Any other ideas?

[jim811]

Z....I went and bought some new workout gear...told myself it was a mind over matter...if you don't mind, it dont matter LOL.  Actually,  if I didn't do anything, I would probaly lay around the house as I'm only averaging about 6 hours of sleep..that's on 2 tylenol pm.  I read the forums and know that I need to flush my system.  Working out, even walking or biking, helps me sweat and I drink lots of fluids.  Of course layin down the pipe also helps too :-)...The fist workout sukked but I pushed through it listening to my body...the next ones were easier (went twice a couple of days ago).  Yesterday was the only day I thought my emotions were getting a little weird but told myself to get a grip and am fine today.  

Hope you can find some strength...believe me. it helps in the other department as well :-)

[zzzaaaccckkk]

glad u found it. I wish I had the energy to exercise. Just so tired.

[jim811]

Too cool..I startd back in the gym on day 3 off opiates.  For me, I would just push it because I was irritated with the friggin pills...the workouts probaly help but I'm with you. On day 4, we hit it big time.  On day 5...I'm lookin for more but I'm workin out first...thought I may need that sweat before bringing it home again.

BTW - I was on percs/lortabs for almost 4 years...yuk

Thx,

Nic

[zzzaaaccckkk]

to funny, my wife is a hot piece. She is what ever man wants a woman to be In bed. My addiction to percs for 2 yrs. Then oxy for one made it very hard to keep my wife from straying, thank god she didn't. I had to concentrate so hard ever time she needed it. Even faked a few. We had r moments on ecstasy for I while as well damn that was good times. But those oxy made it dead. Its day 7 for me. My wife said I've miss counted my days off oxy. But on days 4-5-6. We fuked like bunnies. I was a two pump chump. Instead of the usual hour when I was on oxy.  Our sex life for sixteen yrs. Was disgustingly beautiful. It always kept us close. Glad its back just after only a few days off oxy. Sorry if to much info