helping a friend

I have a friend I feel is on crack or meth, he does not know that I know, he also carries a flask with whiskey in his coat pocket everyday, how can i help this person without being noisy or obvious?  thank you!

[10356]

Well you really can not help him with out being obvious.. and then the only thing you can do is take him aside and be honest with him about how you feel and that you are concerned as you count him as a friend.. That's it.. The rest would be up to him, only he can stop what he is doing.. I wish you well and I hope your friend listens to you... lesa

[studiogirl]

Are you also in recovery? Maybe you can tell him about your problems with addiction (if you have them of course) in order to get him to open up.  If not, you might have to be a little obvious.  Feel out the situation and see how he responds -- then you will know how to discuss it best with him.  I think its the right thing to do to say something.  I know that during my harder times I would have liked for someone to reach out to me.

[NautyOne]

Hi, hun......if you post this again on the  addiction community side, you will probably get more responses.  Give it a try.

I wish you well.

Luv,
Nauty..........

[clee29]

Hi I have been clean for four years and I know this is a very hard issue but If this is your friend than you will do what is best suggest that you talk about the issues that has caused your friend to start to use the factors that are in thier life and suggest that if they need someone to talk to with out judgement may help. I know that I just would tell them that you would help your friend but your not going to stand around and watch your friend kill him or herself slowly and that will not allow thatin your life but if you can help than you will be willing to. I can't say that they will stay that way or if this information will help you but I know that it took me to understand the importance of myself and my life to get clean it is not a easy road but it can be done. I started to use when I was 12 and now I am 30 I hope that this information is of help please respond to me if you like

[trippedoutgirl]

Mention to your friend that you notice that they have been acting a-lot different lately. That you are concerned and no something just is not right and would they like to talk about it. It just might work. Only they can help themselfs and you can hope and pray for the best. good luck.