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2005633 tn?1333872966

husband left me

It was ok to get high with him. Not tryimg to get clean he left me.
Got him through uni  etc now on my own. He left me lol
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2005633 tn?1333872966
My gosh what touching answers.
My mum died from drink years 22 years ago. I then met him.
He can take or leave a drug unlike me.
But i have realised he is a habit to me also. Another one i need to break.
My mortgage money is still here. I stayed clean and made it through.
I did have ONE glass of wine. It knocked me out lol.
Thank u all.
Money i have used on s###. I will now save and fly out to see u all one day.
Zoe
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2005633 tn?1333872966
Sorry to hear of your sorrows. U are such a strong person.

Thank u Zoe x
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there is more to the story   when I was just getting out of college before my first wife , I had a girl friend die in my arms from a drug overdose.

  in the past 10 years of sobrity.
I got remarried after about 3 years  to wonderful lady I met in AA. She developed pancreatic cancer from all of her past alcohol use.  in 2009 she passed away. Then last year both my parents died also. If it was not for the support from the people I had met in AA and the power of GOD. I would have been messed up.(PLEASE  PLEASE      don't let the word GOD turn you off, at first it did me) The God i know today is not anything like the GOD I grew up with in religion. The GOd I know today dwells within me and protects me as long as I stay out of the way and let HIM run the show. It is not the image of a big white man in the sky looking down on me that I acquired as a child that I was scared of. All you have to do to make a beginning is to believe that there is something more powerful out there than you. Sorry If seemed to start preaching, I did not mean to I was just relaying whaT happened to me. There is a place for religion it just was not for me.

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1416133 tn?1351123217
I know I'm interrupting here, but MMA I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am to hear about your loss.  I'm so sorry you went through that.  And I'm sorry for her.  G-d bless you for staying sober for so long.  You are an inspiration to all of us.
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1959859 tn?1331741157
Zoea,

Everything happens for a reason and although it hurts, maybe the is God's way of cleaning the bad stuff out of your closet....Getting rid of the bad, in order to make room for all the good things that are going to come your way in your sober life.  Just take a deep breath and know you can deal with this.

Saying prayers for you
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Avatar universal

         I would say that you do have a better chance at staying clean now to addicts can get more drugs than one so good luck and easy does it.
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1585359 tn?1329009084
Hang in there girl.  You can do it.  Its one of the hardest things to accomplish in this crazy world.  We are all holding your hand.  Don't stop trying!  Keep us posted, okay?
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My wife and I were addicted to alcohol and drugs.  Over 10 years ago while I was in a treatment center she committed suicide.  I probably would not have stayed sober after I got out if she had been there because she did not think she had a problem. I am not saying it was easy and there were alot of bumps in the road but when  i got out I found a support group, Mine was AA  but it does not matter which support you find but please get into some kinda of aftercare  it really   really helps  I have been sober for 10 years now
GO FOR IT GIRL  YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!!!
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Hi zoe,

I admire your strength.  It is his loss. You are evolving snd moving on with your life.  Living well is the best revenge.  I know it hurts, but also know that there are a lot of people here who care about you.  I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
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1416133 tn?1351123217
Anyone who isn't willing to support you gettting better, getting healthier and getting well is not worth having around.  His leaving was the best thing that could have happened to you.  And I think one day you're going to fully realize that, or you may have already?  But you don't need that - you're better than that and you deserve better.  Period.  This is his loss NOT yours.
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Sometimes in life losing the things that hurt the most ironically end up saving us. Keep your chin up. You are doing great Zoe! ((Hugs))
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Hi, there, Zoe. Your name means "life", and you are a priceless gift to this world and all the worlds to be. There is no one like you. Your life means so much more than the troubles and difficulties that this world presents. I know you must be really having a rough time right now; please know that I am here for you, and I know the others here feel the same way. You are a beautiful, strong young woman who has a heart for others. My prayer for you is that everyone to come in your future life will be worthy of you and your affection and love. I am honored to know you, and honored and excited to know the future you!---Margaret xoxox
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822153 tn?1333062995
hey hon....soo very sorry!! But it is his loss for sure. I'm sending you a pm o.k.? Many hugs to you!!!
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1926359 tn?1331588139
zoe...
Hi darlin'...I'm sorry you are going through so much turmoil and I wanted to say I'm thinking of you today....
The thing about reclaiming our lives and changing old behaviour, is that it changes our most intimate relationships as well.  Sometimes they weather the storm and are stronger because of it...And sometimes we have to let them go.  Do you have support around you right now?  Remember that YOU and your sobriety are the most important...the key to everything.  Stay in the moment and dig deep into that deep well of inner strength that I know you have.  You deserve to be happy Zoe...You deserve to be treated with all the love and respect in the world...Be your own best friend and take good loving care of yourself and the rest will sort itself out with time.

Sending support and much love...
Lu
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2005633 tn?1333872966
Thank u. Im so silly. After years of cheating from him lol. Tomorrow is a new day. Wish i could fly out to all. X
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I just wanted to say that it is HIS loss! You are totally worth all the effort it takes to get clean...with or without him you can do it!

Take it one day at a time and just focus on yourself and what you need to do to get and stay clean. You are stronger than you think.
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Oh my gosh Zoe that is awful.  I'm so sorry.  Try to remember that YOU are worth getting clean with or without him and keep your guard up now more than every.  I'll be thinking of you!
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2005633 tn?1333872966
How rubbish. Wow what a.kick in face.
How
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2011934 tn?1329332634
Wow girl i'm so very sorry.   I'm not sure what to say.  Take it day by day, Please msg me if you want to talk.
Try to stay strong, my thoughts and prayers are wtih you.
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