im ready...hes not

[kryz724]

im ready to stop taking hyrdo's ive begged my hubby to stop also.. he thinks i can stop even though he still uses..i think its unfair and unreasonable for me to try and quit while he takes them still..im i overreacting if i leave..i cant do this anymore..we have a child i have to get her out of this!!!

[marcatj]

hi.... welcome.

you know, the only thing that comes to mind is this:  everyone quits when they are ready.. we've talked about it so many times on this forum... so, your "ready" may not be HIS "ready"... i'm sorry to say that.

but please don't let it stop you.  you can't let it stop you if you really want to quit.  maybe you will have to lead by example... i don't know.

i have never done it as "a couple", so it is hard to say... but again, alot of us on here are like family now, and we all know, again, all of our "ready's" are different.  so in a way, you can't expect him to be ready if he isn't... i wish so much you could.

but we will help you!!!  and i wish you much luck and success with this...

warmly,
mj

[TimH2]

Welcome to the forum!!
It is going to be so difficult to quit if your husband is taking them. You are not overreacting at all. I would sit down and have a heart to heart with him .What are you willing to do if he won't quit?? How long have you been using pills and how many per day??? Do you have a plan? You have to put your child first and it seems like that is what you are planning to do. If you feel comfortable, share your story with us all. We are here to support and help you.

God Bless,
Tim

[road2recovery]

i don't think it is unreasonable for him to stop with you..Does he have legit pain?? i think you both can do it together for ya'll and your child..
When i quit drinking, my hubby said he would too..Well i did and he did, but it didn't last long..it upset me so bad..i was going to AA meeting by myself..i told him i thought we were a team, and that i felt he is not on the same team as me..
I had 2 yrs sober and just a couple weeks again i fell off the wagon, but i am back to being sober from alcohol..he sitll drinks , not as much, but too me he shouldn't at all..
i am now tapering off of hydro's., which he just found out about and now, hold that over my head ..Even though he is being supportive i think it gives him more reason to drink, or so he thinks..So we are strugglings but working hard on our relationship..
My opinion is that he should support you and try to stop himslef..unless he has legit pain..
hope this helps you some
R2R