please give me you advise

[leeisgettingclean]

So i hope this question does not get deleted as it has nothing to do with drugs but i need advise
Everyone knows that i work in a nurseing home, my question is..."Do you think its okay for me to go to a residents funural?" I have come really close to one of my residents and she passed away this morning, she has very little family and friends left, i mean like 3 or 4 people, i adore this lady, me and her sat and talked, just really got a long well! Do you all think its okay that i go to her funeral? i have had over 30 people pass away on us, but this one is diff, i really lived her, so do you think i can go? should i ask her family? she only has a very old sister that i have evere in the 2 years seen, do i ask her? Please anyone give me honest advise

[10356]

Hi Lee Honestly go.. A funeral is for showing respect and I find it endearing that you had gotten on so well with her. I know when my sister passed a lady came that served her lunch everyday for years she told us of her kindness and we were all so touched that my sister had such a profound effect. By all means ask or go it does the family well to see she was loved bu others.. lesa

[allaboutmary]

I don't see anything at all wrong with you attending.  I think it's very sweet and I'm thinking the family will also.  I'm sure they will appreciate hearing what a special lady she was.
Sorry for your loss.

[avisg]

Lee Yes go I am sure it will mean alot to her family to know how you cared for there loved one .Plus it gives you closer .I am very sorry for your loss

[leeisgettingclean]

thanks you all, i felt as if i should, just wanted to make sure..you all reassured me and i am going to go, thanks again everyone

[narla]

I'm sure her family will be pleased to see you there especially when they know how much you cared for her as a friend not just her nurse.

[NorcoQueenoftheUniverse]

You BETTER go...
You loved her and SHE LOVED YOU!  

[dominosarah]

GO GO GO.  It is very comforting to the family knowing that she had someone who cared for her like you did.  It will help you too........I am sorry for your loss also.  Just know you gave her great joy in being her friend........sara

[leeisgettingclean]

thanks everyone, it means alot to hear all you say its ok to go, thats what i needed to hear...thanks again!

[teko]

Absolutely go!

[troubleinohio]

youre so sweet Lee, and yes i agree with everyone else...definitely go. It will mean a lot to her family and will also help you grieve too. Hugs to you.

[kim715]

I agree ,you should definitely go.I was an EMT for seven years and there were a few people who I took to the hospital a lot..We used to refer to them as our 'frequent fliers'.There was 2 older women in particular that I got pretty attached too and when they passed away I went to their funerals.I was going to miss them and wanted to pay my respects to them.Both their families were very grateful that I attended the funerals.Go,you'll regret it if you don't....Kim

[leeisgettingclean]

thanks Kim and trouble

[Holliee]

Sorry for you loss of a good friend. Yes by all means GO GO GO. My great aunt was in nursing home and when she passed one of the ladies that helped take care of her came and it meant so very much to her daughter than she took the time to come.
Again sorry for your loss.
Hollie

[SophieShine]

I am extremely sorry for your loss.
Let me tell you this story. My grandma passed years ago from leukemia. She stayed about 18 months in hospital. I was only 12 but I remember vividly her nurse asking the same question to my mom. She said that in 30 years on the job she had never developed such a relationship with a patient in order to protect herself emotionally, but with my nana it was impossible.
She came to the funeral, my mom invited her coz she had taken such good care of her and the bound was obvious between the 2 of them. She thanked us so much because for her it was a closure...And we were so glad she was there with us. I kept in contact with her till she passed, we loved talking about nana!!
Sometimes Lee, you find a very special someone in this world, no matter how and where, so GO!!!
All my support, xoxoxo, sophie.

[kiylen]

Lee, by all means go.  Once you care for someone deeply like that they do become like part of your family so why not act as if they are your family.  Also, it may give you some closure on some emotions you may be feeling.  I know it's hard and I'm sorry for you.  I'm here for you.

[Mangee]

There is too little respect and love in the world. What you have gained with your closeness to a resident of the nursing home is priceless. By all means go to the funeral. It is all too rare where someone is able to enjoy the give and take from a friendship even though there is sometimes nothing in common. What you now have is a beautiful memory of someone who you came to love, cherish it for all time.

[leeisgettingclean]

thanks man, your words of kindness means alot

[sherry5035]

oh yes by all means you need to be there. She was your friend wasnt she?who cares what anyone thinks. you probly took care of her more than her own family. Walk in there with your head high and proud! and if anyone wants to know who you are. your the man that took care of her and became great friends with. ( thats special!!!) sherry5035