It has been proven that positive energy is helpful when dealing with our health issues .We really need to be projecting positive thoughts and positive "moods" in our profiles and journals . In the end this will help us all reach our goals of getting and staying clean -- We are all on this Community to give, get, gain and share advice with each other. We are here to help each other; never to judge one another.
Regarding this, there has been negativity/drama we have all seen it lately .It really can distract us as we try to reach our personal goals. We all probably agree, we all need avenues to vent. This is true for most of us without a doubt, but using our journals and moods to promote negativity/drama is really distracting and could effect peoples recovery.
GTMI and I are just like everyone here. We are members trying to focus on our lives and staying clean. We are here to help lend a hand and reach out to give support and, sometimes even for ourselves, get support.
Let’s try, to focus on positives -- give it some thought -- :)
i couldn't agree with you more. i get so much energy from positive people and thoughts.i would also like to add i have thought seriously about leaving this forum due to negativity towards others, the drama, the ppl that stay in their "little clicks"and overlook others just drags me down. thats just my thoughts anyway. if someone says 'standing on my head helps with wds', hey i'm rootin' for ya.
This is only my opinion but i think it is time we all regroup and take back the forum to what it is here for. We need to be supportive to the struggles and supportive for the achievements. Emotions run high in here. No 2 personalities are alike but in the end we are all here for one thing. Our addiction. My mother used to say "if you have nothing nice to say than dont say anything at all." sara
I agree with everything said. When i first came here in December i was made to feel so welcome and everyone was so helpful. I try to help any new or older to the forum when ever i feel that i can. I believe that is what this forum is all about. To help each other threw our addictions. To be there for one another. To help someone see the positives rather then the negatives. To listen while a friend vents. I myself cant stand drama and i am upset that i was part of this.It was not by choice though. I would like it all to be dropped and go on with business as normal. I dont want this to discourage anyone new, or older to the forum for that matter, to not stay cuz i have said it countless times and i will say it again...with out this forum and the friends i have made here i can say with 100% certinty that i would not be 200 days clean today. This forum works and is a great place to get the help that one needs. Like Avis said..its a bump in the road. Well I will be the first one to fill in that pothole! haha
It can be so easy to get side-tracked here. I know all of our hearts are set to helping each other. If a member has hurt you. Go to them privately and carefully explain your feelings/heart. Many times it is just a misunderstanding. Do that first, but if you can't resolve it. Don't let things continue. It never ends up good.
I mostly skim the posts as i am on and off quickly due to time issues...i must have missed the negativity..but i am glad...being positive is so important...but i am sure it is hard for someone in withdrawals to always sound positive...do u mean like our replies should be positive? I think so too...but i do know sometimes people need to vent issues that are a bit of a doomer sometimes....
alot of fast turnover in posters as of late...people come on for a bit and leave..maybe just thinking or have completed their goals..i appreciate the people who have stayed and continued to post after withdrawals and help others and me as well...thanx to all of u...and u guys know who u r! (:
GREAT POST!!! Lets remember when we first came here, and someone of alot took us under their wing to help us get off pills....There is no way to explain that feeling, when u felt so alone...We need to know their are lurkers just like we were, scared to post, but wanting help so bad..Let's not make them scared to post, but happy to join and get clean..
R2R , I agree with that .We do really need to think about that ,I don't know if I would have posted if it had not been such a welcoming ,helpful, positive place to be.I know none of us would EVER want to scare anyone away. We would never do it intentionally but we don't want it done unintentionally either
There is nothing that has been said in Avisg's posting that I don't agree with completely regarding our attitudes, and the huge impact it has on every aspect of our life. It is certainly not my intent to hurt or offend anyone in anyway, yet I also know since I am not an addict in recovery, my posts or input, for the most part are for naught. I do want to help anyone that I can, to repay what has been given to me while I am trying to support my daughter whom is an addict . I think this can be a great resource for people in recovery, or contemplating major changes, regarding use in their life, I wish for everyone to gain and take what will help in anyway toward a life of sobriety. I have had many tell me my daughter should read this forum, and to be completely honest, (and I am prepared for the attacks) the last thing my daughter needs is more drama, or the continuous writings over the lost love of a DOC, or how funny it is to get popped drinking....I am sorry but I don't understand. I don't think you have to be in, or considering recovery, to get how that is even remotely funny. I appreciate the help of others whom have shared their story and given me advise, and I only hope in some small way I may have touched someone with my thoughts. I hope this forum will again be the strength that so many need. Drug addiction is a horrible life, that impacts your children, spouse, parents, every member of your family, and every friend you have left, it effects you morally, financially, emotionally and physically. Humor is laughter for the soul, drama makes for a good movie, drug addiction is very seriuos, life or death. I think it is possible to share experiences without glamourizing what so many of us are trying to get away from, and keep out of our lives.
I certainly value this forum - but have gotten pretty good at skimming through some of the posts. I am desperately trying to get the drama out of my life, so if I read a post that doesn't sit well with me - I just move on to another.
I kind of see like they say in AA - take from it what you can, leave the rest.
I don't post a lot - still struggling with quiting/ tapering - but I certainly value many of the posts, and have gotten some great advice and support - so I focus on that. I really think this forum will help me get the courage, and build up the support, and information I need to make the changes that will save my life.
I understand exactly what you are saying.. I am an addict, and also have a daughter about to get out of rehab...I never really asked myself if i would tell her to come to this forum...But probably because I am here, and she has no idea of my addiction...Not sure if i will share that with her yet or not....The last thing she needs is drama , you are right..
But when you say the last thing she needs is the lost love of her DOC, are you meaning , cravings?? ( not an attack)
But for me cravings are real, and if i don't jump on here, and talk to someone, it may get me...I have been to meetings, and most talk about the same things here , and some were worst...Still searching for that right meeting where i fit in..Most of the ones i have been to people bring in a paper to be signed, to show the judge they are doing what they are suppose to, but they don't want to get clean..I am sure there are good ones, i just haven't found one here yet....I find at least here we want to be clean, and we don't want death to be from these drugs....Plus it is people who really care and have been there....But honestly it is not drama all the time...Just people trying to get clean or stay clean..
I pray that your daughter can find some kind of aftercare that can help her, as i pray mine can too....Whatever keeps her clean is what counts, doesn't matter what it is...
prayers going to your family
I know that I will try to focus on the positives, but to be honest with ya's, I've grown up with so much negativity in my family of origin that
looking at the bottle of milk being half full instead of half empty has been a major challenge in my life. I can only do as good as I know how to. If I had more to give I would!
Often I can't see how confrontational or 'rough around the edges" I can be but it has gotten better. You should had known me 10 years ago! Oy!
Sooooo, on the positive side (and actually, it has gotten much, much better), I'm almost 30 days clean, the anxiety has lessened and the chronic pain situation has dramatically improved over the past couple days! I'm really psyched up now. It really does get better, just takes some time to heal.
Everything is looking better and I couldn't be any happier about it. I'm keeping my fingers crossed looking for more progress but from what has been posted by others I am very optimistic about my recovery progress continuing to accelerate at even a more rapid rate.
Thanks again to this forum and the people that post here, NA and their members and my higher power giving me the resolve to stay with the original plan of getting/staying clean.
I'm just very grateful for another day of being clean from my ugly drug of choice! Fight the Good Fight and Fight it Good I will!
Thanks again to everyone here, and especially to those that I might had had some conflict with because that too made me stronger, especially when seen how my thinking of how it "should be" for others and self was causing me my own stress and angst! We're all teachers whether we realize it or not!
Today, when I was reader what each poster has said, both here and the forum. I felt proud of all of us. Even those struggling. This is not an easy battle yet everyone is fighting to the best of their ability. So I guess this means, WAY TO GO EVERYONE!!!
I just wanted to thank all of the members here that work to keep this community supportive. I am a leader in the pain management community so our communities intertwine from time to time and I had some members that were concerned with the state of the community contact me and I wanted them to know all the appropriate steps were taken and the community is well. Your leader here is on top of things and will keep on top of them, if you have any further concerns goingtomakeit will address them and handle them in a timely fashion and with the utmost seriousness that it it requires.
Support is very important in pain management and in addiction and recovery and med help wants to provide as much help as possible. Goingtomakeit is on top of things here and will in my opinion make sure your community is always at its best.
Sandee . Thank you for your concern . Definity let the members know if there is a concern on our forum that GMTI and I are the CLs here. If they express there concern to us we will do everything we can to get to the bottom whatever issues that might arise.
Thank you for taking time away from your forum to try to help out .
Hello everyone. I completely agree with avis. And, would like to openly appoligize for an incident I had last week. I was reading through some of the posts and came accross something that riled me. I don't want to relive it. But, I flipped out and went off of someone that hadn't even wrote the post. I still feel horrible about it. I just want to say that sometimes, the emotions of being an addict, can overcome you. I am regaining all the feelings and emotions. Anger and resentment being some of them. I have learned from it, and have caught myself feeling them again out in the world. I am starting to look into the whats and whys of this. But, I believe there are just as much, if not more ,emotional/mental reasons we use in the first place. In other words, I have to start facing my demons. As alot of us do. I am extremely thankful for this forum. I do not believe I would be as far along as I am without it. Thank you to all.
I concur too. If it wasn't for my positive attitude towards finding new pain medication I don't think I would have succeded on my taper program (that I did all by myself--no one holding my pills). I just kept telling myself everyday how good I felt..(even though some days I did hurt). And I thanked God almost every day.
As I reflect on this last week, I want to say it makes me proud to be a part of this forum. Yes it got a bit dicey, but everyone rallied so quickly to get back on track. All of our hearts are to help others and get the help we need to make it on through.
Way to go, everyone. Avisg & I serve a good group. And r2r, you are right, avis is great.
I just wanted to note that avisg is also a great asset to this community also. I was working with GTMI among others at med help and that is why I mentioned only him in my earlier post. Avisg is also a CL here and she contributes a lot to med help. Our CL's take their own personal time to offer help, support and advice here at med help and should receive the utmost respect.
Thank you :) and again Thank You so much for helping .GMTI just started as a CL a few weeks ago .He has jumped right in and is doing a wonderful job.If we all work together we can get threw anything ...:)
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