Changing "friends" during detox

[pLacebo89]

I took my first dose of suboxon this morning and all day I have been ignoring phone calls, but it's hard to ignore text.  My old roomate left some stuff here when he left about 3 months ago.  I gave him that long to come and get it.  He didn't pay me for rent and owed me like 300 dollars for cigarettes and food etc.  Him and his friends will not stop calling me a pillhead.  This is really hard.  Being only 19, I think makes it really hard.  I feel like this last year was all a lie and everyone that I was associated with was just being nice to get something from me. I am pretty sure that is true, but now I have nobody to talk to and they all call me names if they are talking.  Is it better to just not have them around and be absolutely alone?  OR do I give him what he wants to shut him up and leave me alone.  A part of me says that isn't fair to me.  What do you guys think?

[AudreyJeanna]

yep i just changed my number this morning...dealer kept callin me... u need to get away from that, or u can relapse. it will be hard but makin new friends who are positive is the best thing for u to get healthy. good luck!

[pLacebo89]

Thanks for your reply!  You are great with advice. Thanks to ALL!

[ochooked]

Sometimes, in order to get something better, you must let go of things familiar and comfortable -   My take?  Lose the friends - --- soon you will be so happy you did.  Also, the church idea sounds really good.  Give yourself a chance and a break -- don't ever allow anyone to call you a pillhead again.  All the best.

[scaredmommie]

i think that changing friends cant hurt at all, and to be hinest you can meet some great people here i did already. but, im so happy to see your excitied i was to in the beging, now im super happy with my life, and with the friends thing to me if they are still usin to me they are jealous cause your getting you life back, you wanna live to have and enjoy kids and grandkids, and even great grandkids. and they are still ruining there lives. if they think that cause your getting clean and starting your recovery is a reason to make fun of you and not like you at all, well then let them, they are the losers. honestly if they are gonna treat you like this then they werent your friends from day one, and in my opinion i would deff geat some new friends. wish you luck in the future, please let me know how your doing,

xoxoxo
<3 chrissy

[joann1975]

Sarah...you have a great attitude and you will make it! I know you will do great and you will be so happy clean.

[pLacebo89]

Thank you for your reply!  I really appreciate you saying that!  I think I just might change my number, not only old friends and users call it...dealers too etc.  Not currently going to NA/AA or church, but will start with counseling tomm. morning.  I am really excited about this and I cant wait!

...Sarah

[joann1975]

That is a really hard one...but I think the majority of us did change all our friends. It is a major key in staying clean. I know it's hard..but if they are not a positive part of your recovery and they are not clean they don't need to be in your life. You will find new friends and relationships. Are you going to aftercare like NA/AA? I don't know if you go to Church but they always have great programs for your age.

You can do this and don't let negative people discourage your recovery. If you need to change your phone number. I know it sounds drastic...but you being clean is the priority here and I am so glad to see you doing it at this age!

Keep up the good work!

JoAnn