Could my ex take my baby away if he finds out?

Hi everyone & thank u all 4 the wonderful
Responses to my other posts.
I'm 8 days clean 2day! I am a single
Mom of a 3 & 15 YO. Am so scared that if
My ex finds out about my problem he will
Take my kids away. I really want & need to
Go 2 NA meetings but I'm afraid someone
There might know me or my ex & then
My dirty little secret is out. My mom who lives with me & the girls is the only 1
Who knows. She is NOT supportive
And says I'm stupid 4 wanting 2 do
NA meetings, she is freaking me out
About losing my kids. Does anyone know
What I can do?

[GA Guy]

You are safe at NA meetings. We take the anonymity of our fellow members very seriously. You need to do what is best for you..and that includes meetings. Remember, everything you place before your recovery will be lost. It sounds like you have a great plan in order...just keep going. The miracle will happen.

[kickinhydro]

Thanks ur right, mabye I will go and find
Some meetings in a different town, I live in a very small town where everyone
Knows each other, would b afraid it might
Slip out somehow. I just feel so paranoid since I stopped using the pills. I hope
That will pass I use 2 b so different b4
Years of opiate use daily. The mental
Stuff is kicking in BAD right now. I feel
“druged“ now more sober then when using
The pills.
Jessica

[avisg]

jess what were u using and for how long .In most cases unless u are putting you kids lives in jeopardy then no I would not worry about that .aftercare is sooooo important aa /na is the safest for people not getting ahold of records there are not any .If you go to a meeting and see someone remember they are there for the same reason you are they have nothing to gain in telling others about you ..It does not sound like your mom is very supportive I am sorry to hear U are doing the right thing .

[avisg]

LOL i should have knowen by your SN what u were taking there is slim to no chance u would lose your children over an addiction to hydro ...work the aftercare try not to worry u are doing things the right way

[GA Guy]

Like avis said..the people there are there for the same reason you are. They could care less why you're there. We're just glad you showed up. Plus, if someone outside of NA showed up asking about things, then going to NA is one of the strongest things you can show anyone in the legal profession. I've seen the miracle happen over and over where people facing HUGE jail times are let off on probation because they're working a program. Going to NA is seen as a positive, not a negative.

[kickinhydro]

Yes lol hydros 7.5/750 I am perscribed
120 per month for TMJ. Also been buying 80 more per month off a “friend“ as well as
40 percs per month. This forum has been my only support. I have pretty much ran all
My friends away b/c of pills. I hope I can stick with this! I feel more alone now then ever. I will start NA this week!
Thanks 4 the help!
Jessica

[GA Guy]

Congrats on getting into aftercare so fast. So many people resist aftercare in the beginning (including myself...I resisted for 5 years). I'm very proud of you for taking this step. Here's my advice on NA...find a comfortable place first. Go to as many different meetings as you can..you will eventually find a place that feels like home. Then find someone of the same sex there that sounds like someone you'd like to talk to. Then ask them to be your sponsor. Beyond all else, just keep coming back. Those people will help you if you let them. God bless and congrats again!!

[Scout791]

About your kids.. I think you already know the answer inside of your heart.. and you are posing it to the group here in search of some comfort. Please know that first you are a beautiful incredible human being and you deserve happiness.  You should be proud of yoursel for wanting to kick these drugs.  

If you have a bad pill addiction and it affects your life negatively, then of course, it is affecting your children.  If your husband found out, and if he felt that the children were not in safe hands, it would take him a little bit of time and he would have to go through a bunch of court procedures before he could ever take the kids away.  Instead of waiting until that happens, just do what you have to do now to get off the drugs. Your entire energy should be devoted towards this. Maybe your mom can watch the kids for you while you go through detox.  I thihk your mother loves you and she is telling you this about your kids because she is concerned.

I hope and pray for you. Scout

[Scout791]

Your mom is kind of stupid for telling you that you are stupid for wanting to go to NA meetings.  You should not listen to your mom because she doesn't know what she is talking about.  To go to meetings may help you a great deal and you are looking for anything to help you now. You may or may not find that the meetings are useful but at least give them a chance and make the best of them.  I'm not liking what your mother said.

[kickinhydro]

Thank u 4 posting, my mother will not help me at all, I want to do this 4 my kids and myself. My mom think I put on so 2 speak, I should b over it that's it. Sweep it
Under the rug like it doesn't exist. I
Can't do that. I wake up every day & pills r on my mind, she thinks I do not need NA
I feel like I do! I will b going & now I
Will have 2 keep that hidden like its
Something wrong! I'm so glad I found all
Of u guys on this forum!!
Jessica

[dominosarah]

Usually comments like the ones your mom has made comes from lack of understanding addiction.  You are doing a great thing by getting clean.  Hold your head high girl      sara

[kickinhydro]

Thanks, ur right she doesn't understand, but I don't need her negitive attitude. Thank God I found all of u guys on this forum!
Jessica

[Scout791]

I think you should simply tell your mother that the meetings are your decision and not hers.. and not keep it a secret. So what if she doesn't want you to do this or that. you are a grown woman and should not be run by your mother's will.  I wouldn't keep anything like this a secret from her.. Just tell her she needs to study and learn more and tell her never to talk to you negatively about it again.. then find people that support you getting healthy and are understanding of your addiction. I think your mother has a grip on you that you need to get out from under... maybe she is why you have an addictive personality in the first place.  IT IS NOT EASY TO GET OFF DRUGS!!!!  IT IS HELL ON EARTH TO GO THROUGH WITHDRAWALS.. and tell your mom to write to me (only kidding, but not really kidding).  Take care!!

[kickinhydro]

Yes ur right my mom is very controlling,
Not sure why she is this way 2 me she
Lost her job, & home I am supporting her right now, so 4 her 2 treat me this way its unbelieveable! When the added stress of it all makes me want 2 go back 2 the pills! I will go 2 meetings & I told her if she didn't like she knows where the door is! U guys on here r so awesome!
Thank u! Jessica