Crack Addiction

how do you help someone who smokes crack will tell you its cocaine but definately not crack and i know he smokes crack (he was arrested with a crack pipe) he was good for 2 weeks cleaning the house and playing with the kids did not leave the house at all for 2 weeks.  Today he looked high as a kite on crack and i called him out and i dont know if i should tell him i will help him through it because he did so good for 2 weeks or just to tell him to get out of my life for good.  I have 3 children and i have to think of them but i love this stupid man for what he has done to our family.

[SophieShine]

Sweetie, I take the risk to sound very harsh. Get out of there asap!!! Think about your kids and you 1st. There's NO WAY for you to get him clean unless he reeeeeeally wants it. And when I read you, I sure don't get the impression.... Crack is so difficult to kick off, Forget about your love for him and think about the love you have for your children. All the best to you. xoxoxox. sophie.

[phoenixrisin]

I have to agree with Sophieshine on this one. Your kids are what really matters. He may in fact be buying coke and cooking it and this way he is justifying himself as not being on crack Whatever he is smoking coke and crack heads and freebasers are the same thing in the end.

Please think about it Tell him to get help and work on him and maybe one day there can be a you and him together again but you can not handle that in your life at this point. i would hesitate on saying it is due to kids to him as well he may try to lay blame on the kids to take the focus off of HIM and his situation. He will not however stop until as said he gets ready.

Good Luck

[deejay787]

I agree with phoenixrisin,

You need to tell him with support around you that you love him but do not and will not tolerate the drug use. Find friends or family that you can stay with who will protect you and tell him to choose you and your family or the drug. BUT it is important to PRAY for him because without prayer, there is not much hope for a crack addict to recover. I would advise that if you don't already have a relationship with JESUS CHRIST that you visit www.cbn.com to begin a real relationship with a God who loves you and him. God instantly set me free from cocaine, pot, meth, alcohol and porn within one day. If HE can do it for me, HE can do it for him, BUT I had people praying for me who never gave up on me. The only way to regain true control of your family with him as a part truly is by having a REAL relationship with Jesus Christ. It is also important to find a church that follows the truth of the holy bible, and preferbly one that has christian counsel available for your entire family. I pray you and your family all of God's best, but it starts with YOU and prayer. Please check out CBN.COM and give God an honest try because HE will not let you down......I guarantee it!

[DeltaRedd1984]

There is noting that you can do to help a crack addict or any addict for that matter.  You have no control over the addict's addiction; you did not cause the addiction and you can not cure your loved one's addiction.  All you can do is seek help for yourself.  If you truly love this person, STOP enabling him.  That is harder said then done.  Find yourself an Al-Anon meeting in your city and attend regularly.  Lean everything you can about your loved one's disease. My husband is a crack addict and a meth addict.  I have tried everything under the sun to help him; in patient, out patient, church, NA, support groups, church mentors you name it I tried it.  I even had a Priest to perform an exorcism.  LOL.  My point is, YOU can not help someone who does not want help.  When the addict gets sick and tired of being sick and tired, he/she will seek and get help.  

Take care and God Bless.

[123456m]

You can do nothing for him. You have to know its always your choice to makew a choice. He has to hit his bottom to change and some never do and end up in jail where thye have to kick it on their own. But you need to be respondable here for you and your kids. You will not die of a broken heart but you may die at a crack addict hands. Simpñy he loves the crack more than you or your kids in his state of mind.
Peace
Randy

[sway1]

when someone is smoking coke, they are not themselves. it is like someone else is wearing their skin. until they are clean for a good while, they cannot be trusted, period.
best wishes. my prayers go out for you. peace, sway

[ladyv43]

hey girl, I'm married to a 'crack head' who I've been wid for 18 years and have been thru all the steps to so called 'help him get off crack' I finally realized that I didn't help him get on it and I can't help him get off.  One thing a crack addict knows is that as long as they can have u think'n u can help them, the longer they can use and maintain.  They have to help themselves.  They become users of u and u become a codependent.  ur life will be full of up and down hell.  Trust me; he stayed home and cleaned and spent time with the kids because he was 1) broke, 2) feeling guilty, and 3) didn't have anywhere else to go....he was play'n on u so u wouldn't put him out....mark my words, he'll be back out there and doing it again, if he ain't already.  I know that if I leave him he will be in the gutter, I've did it before.  Although it is not healthy (for me or our daughters) I love him too much to see that happen to him and we have bounderies..he goes to AA and NA and as soon as he leaves the meetings, he's going to get a drink.  To many of those leads to him having to get a fix.  I keep him busy and involved in live and the family as much as I can...this makes for less and less episodes.  When he is involved in CHURCH, he doesn't use at all....still, this is a dicision they have to make for themselves...because he wants to use, he wont go to church anymore.  I'm so fed up that I am now looking for a way out..I know that sounds crazy but it's also very hard.  Hell, I need help and I just realized that....somebody, heeeeeelp me.

[Peaceangel48]

It is all about choices...If you choose to stay addicted you would..and no matter what anybody says/do YOU have to make the choice yourself- stick to it-be for real- seek the presence of God,by Whom ANYTHING is possible..STAY in His presence, don't ever leave and you will be protected from sucking on the Devil's Candy for as long as you live...

For The loved ones of a Crack Addict - It is YOUR CHOICE to live a life of chaos with the addict, therefore nobody can help you neither. Pray and listen for the answers...God does not want any of his children to live a sad,chaotic,fearfull, unhappy life..especially children MUST BE PROTECTED from this devils energy in any form. It is all about the higher purpose of your life..and those around you. If he dies by the life he has chosen, it is not in your hands..Peaceangel.