I would also like to share this from the book The Language of Letting Go..... I didn't want to take up a new post.
Self-care is not, as some may think, a spin-off of the "me generation". It isn't self-indulgence. It isn't selfishness - in the negative interpretation of that world.
We're learning to take care of ourselves, instead of obsessively focusing on another peson or persons. We're learning self-responsibility, instead of feeling excessively responsible for others. Self-care also means tending to out true responsibilities to others; we do this better when we're not feeling overly responsible.
Self-care sometimes means, "me first", but usually, "me too". It means we are responsible for ourselves and can chose to no longer be victims.
Self-care means learning to love the person we're responsible for taking of - ourselves. We do not do this to hibernate in a cocoon of isolation and self-indulgence; we do it so we canbetter love others, and learn to let them love us.
Self-care isn't selfish; it's self-esteem.
May you all be blessed enough today and every day to learn to take care of yourselves.
Peace,
- T.
very cool!! Thank you for the great start to the day.
Im running out this morning but wanted to jump on and say - that this was a great idea!!
and glad u were around yesterday, whew!
Have a great day and thanks.
M
Nice.
Hey, I'm trying to remember your situation, but can't (brain cells still ailing). Since you post a lot, I'd love to know a bit if you have a minute.
Thanks, Mom.
AThena
PS. I'm 9 days c/t after failed taper from asst. pain pills & benzos...no legit pain, just an addict.
hahah yeah yesterday was crazy. it's quiet now.. hemust be sleeping or at a meeting!!
it's ike the calm before the storm.....
have a good one!
- Tara
great post. heres one what does fear stand for f-false e-evidence a-appearinr-real. I have a friend who got a dog she is such a nicer human. This dog has her thinking about someone else other then herself. It really apparent to me . Thats what having kids did for me. self care is not being selfabsorbed right. Hve a wonderful day.
I'm both a person with legit pain AND an addict.
I am 33 married with a 7 month old little stinker girl.
I got sober 5 years ago off of coke, booze and weed. I was / am an active member of AA with a sponsor, sponsees, etc.
I got pregnant and begin to get horrendous migraines, then while pregnant i was in 2 car accidents and suffered from unbelieveable pain from 3 herniated discs. I was prescribed pain killers during my pregnancy because my pain was affecting my blood pressure and putting stress onthe baby.
I knew i was going down a road I shouldn;t but kept justifying it all.
Anyway, long story short, I became addicted like so many others.
I'm not counting days but it's like a little over amonth now. I stopped c/t. I had to. tapering for me was just prolonging the inevitable.
I've had one or 2 here and there to help me sleep and to get me out of pain as I also suffer frem extremem endometriosis ut other than that I'm doing ok.
There is a long history of addictioninmy family too.
When I stopped the drink, it wasn't earth shattering or anything. There was no jail, no DUI, I wasn't evicted etc. I just woke up at 28 years old after a night out, no better or worse than any other night, and decided that I was either going to kill myself or get help. I went to my first meeting that night and haven't had a drink since.
I owe it to the prgram of AA and to God, because without His help, I would be nowhere.
So that's my story. I'm trying to live one day at a time because we all just have today.
By the way, I enjoy your posts and you're doing amazingly well!!
I feel exactly the same way... everything about me changed when I had my daughter. Nothing else matters.
I used to pray for myself (and my family of course) but now I pray that she will grow up to live safely and peacefully amidst all of the craziness inthe world today.
It is a scary world thats for sure. I'm going to hate telling my kids about bad people out there . There is alot of pediphiles in the world most people don't want to think about shiat like that but the stats are 1 in 10 people are a phedi. mostly men but the odd women. I can barley watch the news it hurts so much that must be why I like to escape because we are sensitive thats why we used drugs. Got to focus on the good though or will get depressed I always say . I think its good to be a little parinoid theres a lot of creepage out there . I'm glad I got a husband he keeps all the bad away. a friend of mine used to say : a wolf to keep the other wolves away. Be safe.
Thanks!!!! What an amazing story. I often feel ashamed when I hear of those w/legit pain. You are amazing. SO happy to get to know you better.
Bye for now,
--AThena
Thanks...
Please don't feel ashamed. I wrestle with that also knowing my persional history but I honestly thank God for my addictions sometimes. Had I not become an addict, I would not have done so much work onmy self personally. I wold not be as close with my higher pwer and I would not have the tools I have to deal with various situations as I do today.
Everything happens for a reason. perhaps you were meant to become an addict to make you the caring, generous person you are today.
I'm happy to know you better as well.
Have faith that you are in the exact place you are supposed to be this very minute.
Every day is a chance to change it all and make it better and there are lessons to be learned and tauht at every corner.
Learn to listen, listen to learn ismy motto....
I didnt read this......thread forgive me
umm, hows the weather? I heard NY has lots of water..and I just wanted to touch base and see how things were in your area....Anyways...HOpe all is well with you and your in my thoughts and prayers
C
Hi... it's not so bad. I'm across the street fromthe beach adn the storm was crazy but we didn't get any flooding. We have alot of beach erosion but no flooding. The wind was insane and the waves were SO HIGH. I was very grateful to be safe. It was quite something to watch!
How are things with you going?
Gosh ya know, I would have watched if I could...I love rain..I dont know why, it started when I was in elemtary school for me..that word was way too big hahaha...but it did...I used to take off with a blanket and a ton of pillows and lie in the open feild when it was raining...Gosh, Ioved that...of course, even back then I was a puffer, so maybe it has something to do with the pot...
Yet even when I quit, became pregant, had my children, and life moved on, I still find myself wondering around when its raining, feeling the drops on my face, lookign at the earth at its............most amazing I guess...umm and it smells so fresh..........and int he city I cant say that I know I have lived there but even when I was there...I always thought rain had a way to wash away the ummmmmmmm ugliness.....I dont know...Im a classic taurus...
With me, well its on the pretty personal side.....I have been doing alot of writing, and reading and lol driving ppl around.....Im sick, I can tell you that...another cold...which IM not enjoying but I am fucntioning with.....I eat alot of oranges..but at least i can taste them lol
Keep in touch girly, actually use my email lol....
Love ya
C