Hi,
It would be bad enough if drug addiction only hurt the addict...but most of the time it hurts the ones who love the addict just as much, if not more, because they need to go watch the insanity sober. I know how hard it is to let go of someone who is an addict, but there really is nothing you can do to help him....besides letting him go. You deserve so much more then that.
Its has affected me alot, I can't trust anymore. The physical attraction has gone. Its taking a toll on me mentally
Thanks for the comment, they are sooo helpful
I agree with u pat, change those locks, not only is he ******* up his brain, he's ****** up your with mental abuse, making u feel bad and depicting u as a bad a bad person to his fam. Let it go babe, let it. I have crack heads in my fam...and from my experiences they always go back ...ALWAYS......JS. Hope things get better for u honey :-D
Oh sweety, you need to change the locks and move on with your life. Crack is a very serious addiction and it makes people do things they would never dream of doing. I feel so badly for you and yes the truth does hurt.
Thank You. Yes it is very draining and stressful. I have a good heart but it feels as though he knows this and is taking my kindness for weakness
you didn't cause it, you can't control it and you can't cure it.
i suggest that your best and only chance of saving this relationship rests in you paying attention to how his addiction affects you, and restoring yourself to mental, emotional and spiritual health. check out al-anon. i know many people who say it literally saved their lives.
as to your boyfriend, the odds are that he will not make it. nothing against him, it's just statistics . . . something less than 20% of bona fide crack heads ever make it into sustained recovery. the other 80%+ follow addiction to the only other ends . . . jails, institutions and death.
i'm a recovering crack addict myself and i know how very close i came to not making it out of that black hole. it's really tough to escape from the pull of crack -- it's just a different animal. it takes a lot of work to make it into sustained recovery and then steady attention to recovery to stay there.
take care of yourself. it's the best and only way to help him.
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Hi truth! Yes, he can change, but he has to want to change more than anything else! It certainly doesn't sound like he wants to at this point! I'm so very sorry that you are going through this! You say you have been through this 11 times since 2010! YIKES! The question is not can he change, but do you really want to live your life like this anymore? Only you can decide that! It sounds like you have been supportive and put up with a lot! I would not have the strength or want to continue! You need a life too! Anyway, I wish you'd all the best! Good luck!!