HAHA! Yes, NEARLY all. I said that because there are a few who post very infrequently but when they do, it's generally to bully someone over a comment they made. It really P I S S E S me off when I see that and THAT behaviour is what defeats the purpose of the forum. I've gotten caught up in that crap numerous times. Now I just report it.
Does everyone know where the "report button" is? Use it when you see an insulting or hurtful post.
Nearly all?? LOL! I completely Concur with what you said! Direct attacks on someone's reply or any perceived tone, serves absolutely no purpose! The best thing about this forum, in my opinion, is the diversity of everyone and all of the various opinions and perspectives! I love having options and I can take with me what I like, what I need, and what will work for me and my personal situation! The rest, I leave for someone else who may need it!
I didn't always feel this way and I guess I'm evolving, and I think that's good!
The differences in opinion and approach make this forum very dynamic. Some people have a "no bulls h I t " approach because that's their personality to begin with. It's all meant to be helpfull. Still others have a more coaxing style...it's all good.
What isn't good is any direct attack toward another member. There's just no need for that and I see it happen frequently. No one needs to get called down on the open forum; there should never be personal attacks. It doesn't help anyone and creates extremely hard feelings. That's when the forum stops being therapeutic...
Nearly all the current members are wonderful, in my opinion. They want to help as they help themselves...
very well put my dear friend, it is a very fine line between being to harsh and being to gentle, but the most amazing thing about this forum is it is a melting pot you have members who are very gentle and then you have members who have been there done that and see warning signs in posts and shot it straight the always seem to know when you need that kick in the pants to wake you up. I for one needed love and kindness in the start of my journey, and I got just that even from the straight shooters but as my strength increased and they saw warning sighns I got the kick in the pants I so needed to do what I had to do. getting clean is like receipe you need love support honesty and yes even the kick in the pants to keep you going. and everyone on here is all the ingredients to the receipe but I had to say that this post was inspiring and very lovely, you have come such a long way bright and I'm so proud of you and so glad to call you friend.
Well said. Sometimes I need straight, shoot from the hip honesty (always), other times encouragement, support,etc. I need all the help I can get and find that here. Addicts helping addicts; thats what its all about!! kk
Well put.....
I agree thats the diversity of this place. Different styles that speak to a range of different people....I'm the way I am because of how I was treated when I was new and my personality type...
The cool part is not matter the style,,,,in our "heart of hearts" everyone means well and is trying to help...(thats the beauty)... ;-)
good read...
Free~
Beautiful! Absolutely beautiful. To everything there is a season. Thank you for your post. I am still very fragile right now so what I need to know is that there is hope not someone questioning my sincerity. If I keep coming back every month with the same issue, then by all means, let me have it. But right now, I just need support to continue this journey :)
Great post... you took the words right out of my mouth. Thank you! I appreciate all the posts too... i try to remember that there are many people who just read the board and don't join. I was one of them, but I feel if my experience can help, that matters.
Hey Bright, So well written and so wise (and they said you were just a pretty face ha!) A great reminder to us all. Thanks for taking the time to post this. xo
that was very eloquently stated and so true. thats the beauty of being in a group. someone will hit home with you with their words. I LOVE THESE PEOPLE !!!!
We all need to be reminded of this. You also learn when to give them a kick in the a$$ and when to proceed with caution.
'go' darn-it, I meant 'go'