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Don't know what to do

My husband has been on heroin for 4 yrs. he tried methadone but didin't help, he left with his family to his country for 2 months, he was clean over there then he came back and started unsing again, right now hes back w/ his family, has been there for 2 months already, His mom wants to keep him over there for 1 yr. (that drug is not available over there) so I don't know what to think, will a yr help him stay clean 4ever? Will this be a lifetime sickness? I was over there w/ him but I can't stand living there and I can't stand his mom, I really don't know what to do???
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Here's what I think:  Your husband can get clean at home with his family and go to NA meetings in the US.  He can delete the numbers of his contacts and take care of his family.   If he can't do that then he can't get clean.   You think maybe he just wants to be there?  It's awfully far from Chicago.   Just thinking out loud here...
Does he support you?
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Yes I know almost all drugs come from there, but he is in a small town, in a big city u could find everything, small towns are dff't.he will have to go 3 hrs. everyday to get it. I went w/him the first 5 weeks and so he didn't disappear on me for 6 hrs a day, he was home 24/7, I saw w/ my own eyes the withdrawl symptoms, (diarrhea, weakness, sleepless nights, desperation) So I'm sure he's not doing it. I just need help dealing w/ this....................
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I also thought a lot of America,s heroin came from Mexico. Lemon it sounds to me that he goes to Mexico to use. As it will be much cheaper in price down there. Im sorry that you had to hear this but its only the truth Why not google heroin in Mexico then you can tell him when he comes home. That you know most of the US and Canada,s heroin comes from Mexico.Good luck ,,,,,James PS Kc156 Its better that lemon knows the truth iwas alsothinking along thesamelines as in my country we watch border patrol and bails of drugs are carried over the border Thank you also Kc 156 ,,,,,,James
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Unfortunately, lots of heroin comes to the USA and Canada via Mexico.        karl
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Thats the natre of the drug it gets its claws in and does not let go easy He will have to get shot of the phone# Its his nlifline to the drug. And he can stay in mexico 5 yrs but when he comes home he knows that high is a phone # away. I feel for you and yourson But hemust want to quit for himself are you sure heroin is not avaliblein mexico As drug addicts we become awesome liars. You can support him help him but he must do the hard work i stoped cold turkey and i never want to go through that again . It was horrendous but if he wants to qit he will have to go through these feelings and after the mental stuff witch i found worse. Would your man come on this site its great for support for both you guys If he wants it bad he will i hope ,,,,,James
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Congratulations James!! Well he snorted, right now he is in a small town in Mexico, His dad is an alcoholic, they go toghether to AA, there's no NA over there, I just hate it, we have a 2 1/2 son, and I don't like living over there like for me to stay a yr. Right here where we live he has phone # of person who sell. he knows where to get it, so it's so hard being apart not knowing what to expect in the future, I know it's a lifetime thing  and that's what breaks up my heart, he wants to get better but being over there is his only way to do it, and he wants to but at the same time he's always thinking about it and not us... his family
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Hey you and your man will also need to cut all ties with tghe so called friends that useits not a drug you can be around and say no to it. Its powerful it talks to you plays games with your mind as all it wants you to do is go buy some Its bad **** sorry about the laungage but its true. Someone told me once the ***** has long talons and when they get into your skin they dont let go easily.Thats why you must want it more than anything to stop. Your man can do it i have for over 140 days does not seem a lot but its massive to me.I tried to stop failed tried again and you guessed i failed again. This drug kept me awake for 15 days and nights and the physical side was over just startyed to crave now and then but the mental side kicks in the guilt depression and every low you can think of plz take care and if ya need to talk in depth i will help as much as i can .,,,,James
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first off welcome to the forum! I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your family. he has to be honest with himself at this point. recovery is a lifetime and life changing event! weither he stays there 10 yrs or 2 weeks. recovery is a lifetime! he will and always now be in recovery. staying away from situations is only how he can stop, what he also needs to do is step into a aftercare program, walk into a NA meeting and get some help and understand what weakness he has over his addiction. discovery of his weakness is actually a strength. tell him to start a journal, write down feelings write down anything for tht matter. he has to want to stop using and discover he is weak against this, and needs to see it for what this truly is, and that is by self discovery! no one can do this for him. this has to be for himself, not for anyone else! remain positive for him support him in every aspect of recovery. but saying he has to be there for a year he is only postponing a risk of using even coming back for a year or 5 yrs forthat matter. he will always be an recovering addict, always. as long as he can get up everyday and say to himself " no matter what happens today I will not use". he diffently needs to step into a recovery program they HAVE the tools to help fight against his cravings he will have (in some aspects) for the rest of his life. just love him an support him but again, wether it be a year or 5 years, without tools to deal with this problem he is setting up for failure.. so tell him to get some counseling, NA, rehab facility, doctor, someone who will point him in the right direction. it's never too late to get help! God bless  
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Hey lemon 9
My name is james i am a heroin addict clean for over 140 days Were has your hubby gone were heroin is not avalible ? Hears the real deal your man will not get clean till he wants to himself. No one can make him get clean he has to want that for himself more than anything he has ever wanted.How does he use heroin IE smoke snort shoot. I was on of heroin for 13 years a soon as i came back to were heroin was avalible first thing i would do was go score If you would like to talk some more let me know im more than willing to help as i know the pain he goes through Yes i agree he wants to stop but thats easier said than done As for staying one year if he stays clean when he comes back he will need to go to N/a meetings a drug councilor. Were i stay in Scotland i can go out my front door be back in less than 5 mins and have scored heroin wish you and your hubby the bewst of luck ,,,,,,,,,,,James
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