Girlfriend's marijuana usage and addiction questions

[onras]

I am not a marijuana user. I am however, a social drinker and smoker (tobacco) - maybe once a month at a party perhaps. My girlfriend, whom i love and care for very much occasionally smokes marijuana with old friends. Her friends are heavy stoners and I worry about the environment she might be in when she is with them. I am never with her when she does it because she knows how much I frown on it. It seems that whenever she is with her friends I can expect her to guiltly tell me that she smoked up. However, like i said, this may only be a few times a month. Not an every day habit like the rest of her friends. I do not have a lot of knowledge on how dangerous marijuana use is. She explains to me that it is not as big a deal as I am making it and claims that it is no different than my occasional cigar.

Should i be concerned for her, or am i blowing this out of proportion. She is a bright and independent person who i trust.

[JeffinNC]

Trust her if it is only a couple times a month. She could be doing something much worse like most of us here. Marijuana, on occasion, is definatly nothing to worry about if there is no pills  or other drugs being used.

[justlikeyou]

id say a little weed once or twice a month is actually benificial for the average human being, expands the mind and relaxes etc,

tobacco every day on the other hand?

my uncle died of empaceimeia (sp?) not pretty at all.

wanna understand addiction better?

try quitting tobacco.........today :)

[onras]

i used to smoke a pack of cigs a day for 16 months. After meeting my girlfriend last year and realizing the health issues, i quit smoking all together. Honestly, the addiction withdrawl was over in a month. It was as difficult as people and media made it seem to be. I was originally worried about quiting because of the fear of feeling terrible.... but i was able to mentally keep it under control.

I'm mostly concerned that she relies on seeing friends only to get high. I dont think that is healthy. Are they really her friends?

Also, would anyone honestly suggest that i try a little with her to see first hand whether or not it is something i should be worried about. I never smoked weed, so i really dont know how it really makes you feel. I am against the idea of relying on a stimulant, even once and a while, to escape from issues. I feel resentful that she could be avoiding personal issues. Not to mention her friends are real downers and are always depressed.

[FLaddict]

If you frown upon it.. do not try it... its her thing..  I personally hate smoking pot... makes me anxious and edgy..  I will admit that I do dabble in a pot brownie on the occasionsal holiday BBQ.. but smoking it is different.

[JeffinNC]

I would NEVER suggest you try any. You seem to be happy as you are and you should stay that way, PLEASE. Don't use anything just to make someone else happy, even if you really love the girl, which it seems you do. Just try and support her way of thinking. Marijuana is no big deal as long as you know she is doing nothing else. Trust me on this.

[tomanypills]

you said you were a social drinker,,so you get together with friends ocassionally and drink,,,shes gets together with friends ocassionally to smoke,,she may be writing to a forum about you,lol,like that pina colada song,,i dont think you have a problem but thats for you to decide

[onras]

Firstly, i would never drink socially without her. It would be with our circle of friends or couples. And it wouldn't be for intoxication. It would be for sophisticated conversation and unwinding.

Perhaps I am having difficulty seeing the connection between the two social habits. I am stuck on the stigma that social marijuana use is not on the same level as a few shots of whiskey. I am aware that part of my emotional stress over this is obviously rooted to me feeling somewhat left out. In addition, she knows that I disapprove and does it anyway, only enhances my natural resent. I don't want emotion to foul my thinking (or overthinking) about this.

Is it really as acceptable as having a drink?

[beachtowel]

Not sure about she is bright, her comments that using a drug is the same as an occasional cigar......
Her old friends you said are heavy users....
She smokes a lot more than you think................

The logic that drug users use to justify getting high is unreal.......

Even though pot is not a serious drug in itself ask yourself why Pot is a schedule one drug listed next to Heroin and Cocaine.......
No where will you see a cigar listed..........