HELP EMERGENCY

[justme2262]

I am 9 months preg, I have been using vic's on and off during my pregnancy. My dr( OBGYN) prescribed me tyl#3 for sciatica pain during my preg. I am terrified that my baby is going to be born addicted. i am so ashamed and really afraid. I was told that if I stop a few days b4 I deliver that the baby should be ok, but I am afraid that social services will find out. i have no recorded history and have neverf been investigated...Please help me I am terrified. I was told that they test the marconium from the baby, but do they always or only if she seems addicted?

[torig]

Ok, Just Me.....

I am in the exact SAME predicament. I am 36 weeks pregnant, & have been on/off opiates (oxycodone) for most of this pregnancy. I tried staying on suboxone to detox, but i'm not perscribed them and the cost was killing me. I am now scared to death because i could go into labor at anytime.......... I had the same mindset as you... "oh i'll just quit 3 weeks before my due date and i'll be ok as far as withdrawls go"

well, now i'm coming to REALITY and know that it just isn't that simple. Today is my 2nd day without anything at all. And this is just my choice of how to get off them. I hope & pray my baby continues to stay healthy throughout these next few days, i know they will be hard on him and me, but what's a girl to do with so little time left???

just know i can relate... completely. these people aren't trying to judge us, just being practical & opening our eyes to reality.

[jennt104]

I know your scared, and I know you're an addict. I think you're just misunderstanding peoples messages. They are telling you the facts and whats going to happen, they are not judging you. The facts they are telling just happen to be exactly what you don't want to happen. Would you rather they lie and say, "Oh, no worries. Everything will be fine!" They are supporting you by being honest, and I don't think you're being honest with yourself.

I work at a Children's Hospital and we got all the newborns that have complications or are on CPS holds. Which means, they will not release the baby to the mother. Even if the baby is not going through w/d, they drug test the baby and parent regardless, it's standard procedure. Drugs stay in a babies system far longer than a normal person since their organs aren't fully developed or used as much as an adult. Drugs stay about double the amount of time in a baby. Marijuana stays up to 30 days in an adult even if you rarely use. The only one you can avoid all this is be up front with your doctor. I'm only telling you this because you said yourself you want to make it right, you want to do what's best for your baby. I don't think you're a bad person, at all.  I think you do honestly love your baby, and you want to change your ways but you're just scared. I believe you, you messed up, it happens, but you have a chance to make this right. Please, for your sake, for your babies sake, tell your doctor. You won't get in trouble, but you will if you remain silent. I've seen it happen so often, and it's so tragic. We're just trying to tell you whats best for you, we're not trying to judge or hurt you.

Please keep let me know how it goes.

[Brokenbutglued]

I'm not being judgemental when I say this, I'm on your side and I'm on your baby's side.But in reality it's not you against them, they are on your side too including everyone that has posted here. They are on your babies side. What side are you on? Do you care more about the health of your baby or wether or not YOU get into trouble for something? It's time to woMAN up sister, be honest, be upfront. You owe it to your baby to have the best start in life possible. You can't undo any damage that might already be done but you CAN do things to help him NOW that can make his life better. Obviously you already know that and that's good but you really seem to be more concerned about getting into trouble than doing everything possible to help your baby.

[Danny111]

We know you're going through a hard time and that you're feeling down and scared, but noone on here is just going to comfort you when you're taking the kind of drugs you are while you're pregnant.  I know it's hard to hear it but there are some hard things you need to hear and deal with.

You posted looking for advice and we've tried to give you our best.  Dominosarah and Avisg both have a very long time sober and a lot of experience talking to people on here.  They know what they're talking about probably better than most of the folks on here and have given you some very good advice.

It sounds as though what you may have really wanted was someone to tell you not to worry about getting caught and/or causing permanent damage to your baby...and maybe some advice on how to avoid detection or how to talk your way out of things if your baby comes up positive.

Those two won't help you with that and neither will most of the folks on here.

[dominosarah]

Your not on trial at all.  We are all very concerned for you and the baby.  Sometimes our words seem harsh and you dont see the feelings we have behind them.  We want nothing but the best for you and the baby.....sara

[justme2262]

Sarah I know that anything is too much for a fetus Im going to go because im not good at wording things and things i say keep getting taken out of text....I screwed up and I will have to live with that for the rest of my life, i hope and pray he will be ok and will do everything I can to protect him from the mistakes I have made.....God I came to the forum to make sence of this and get some advice instead I feel like Im on trial with my every word being analyzed.....God bless all...

[dominosarah]

What do you consider too much for a developing fetus?

[vicki595]

I think I can speak for all of us when I say:"We're not sure either".

V.

[justme2262]

I went through WD a few years back. the only thing i have now is I have a hard time sleeping and a bit of restless leg, thats all....My thinking is as long as I am clean and he shows no wd even if they do find something it is eaier to explaine if i test clean...And although i know i should have not been taking anything i dont think i have taken enough to do harm Im just not sure.

[dominosarah]

Good point vicki.....

[vicki595]

I just don't know for sure.I wish I did...I wish I could reassure you and promise you'll be fine. But I just can't.  I CAN tell you that by being off ALL the drugs is a very good thing...and the fact that your OB knows you've taken "a little extra" along the way is good,too.  Your ofc. chart will be at the hosp. when you go in and they'll have this info.

Try not to worry~
V.

[dominosarah]

None of us know that answer.  Do you feel withdrawals when you start and stop these meds?

[avisg]

Did you read the article I posted even if its out of your system it take far longer to get out of your baby ,Pot will not be out of your system in ten days .

[justme2262]

Im off of the t3 now and have no intention of taking anymore. it will be out of my blood in 2 daysalso my OB knows I was taking " a few" more not the true amount but she knows i was going throught them faster then i should so i told her i would slow down.....So my question is if i dont take anything ANYMORE and he is born in a week or 2 we should... be ok right??

[vicki595]

They test everyone as a "standard of treatment/care".  It doesn't matter who or what you are...they don't discriminate,they just do it.  AND,whether the T3 is Dr. prescibed or not it doesn't matter. The lab has standards/references to go by and they'll know if you took more than the recommended dose;it'll all be there in your blood.

You're risking a bad outcome for now and in the future if you don't get honest with your OB ASAP.   I'm sorry...but you need the truth.  You need to taper off that crap really fast...not just 4 days before the baby is born.  How can you know when the 4 days are so you can stop(as you said)?   We never know when our babies are coming EXACTLY...that's the wondrous miracle of it all...

I do wish you well~~

Vicki

[justme2262]

36 weeks. i understand that they are different drugs and I am not trying to be difficult but there are alot of reasons that my family cant find out. I was told that if i stop now even if i deliver in a week he shouldnt have any wd. the vic would be out of our systems in 2 days and the pot in 10 (ish) as far as the codine it shouls also be out in 2 but the dr knows about it.

[dominosarah]

and what if this baby does show wd?

[avisg]

As I said codeine is one drug, pot is another ,vicodin is hyrodocodone its not codeine so thats another how many weeks are you ...

[justme2262]

im not understanding. If the Dr prescribed the tyl#3 how can i get introuble for that. If there is no vic in my system how can i get introuble and if the baby shows no wd?

[dominosarah]

I guess if you dont come clean with the doctors then you will have to suffer the consequences for your actions.  New York state is very tough on drug abuse with a newborn.  I hope and pray that the baby will be born healthy and you get the help that you need....sara

[justme2262]

If he doesnt show any wd why would they test, and if i test clean wont it be ok? my dr knows about the tyl#3

[avisg]

Danny yes they are required if she does not come clean

[Danny111]

I have to echo what dominosarah and avisg said about coming clean with your doctor.  You have to come clean before they test you because they're gonna find out either way.  

Much better for you and your baby that they hear it from you than they find out in the delivery room.  I'm just about positive that they are required to notify social services about that kind of thing.

It will be a hard conversation but then you'll be able to go through your delivery with worrying so much about what's going to happen when they do the blood tests or whatever.

[justme2262]

I am trying to do the right thing by protecting my baby. At this point my hope is if i stop by the time I deliver he wont have any withdrawl. my doctor documented the tyl#3 so that is expainable. the pot as far as i understand should be out of my system pretty quick because i am not a regular smoker. I think if he shows no signs of wd they wont look to far....I hope that makes sence.