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HELP!!! Methadone and Sex Drive

My bf has been on methadone for his heroin addiction for a little over a year, but for the last 4 months we have not had sex (and rarely the months before that). I have heard that methadone lowers sex drive, and he has also gained some weight, which  makes him feel insecure (but he knows that I think he's sexy regardless of weight). This is obviously hard for me to handle (considering we had great sex before this) but the parts which completely baffle me are 1) that he occasionally still has sex dreams (he is a sleeptalker :X), which I would assume wouldn't happen if he has no sex drive and 2) the fact that the other day I saw that he had been looking at porn online. Why would he be looking at porn if he doesn't have any sex drive?! This is hitting me pretty hard and I really don't understand it. I used to consider myself a pretty attractive person but it's really eating at my slef-esteem because I feel like his sex drive has only decreased to the point where he is only turned on by that slutty, porn star look. Does he really not have a sex drive or is it that his normal looking gf can't do it for him anymore?! If any guys can help explain what this all means or if any girls have been through this... HELP!
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im female and on methadone i got on pain pills legal and couldnt get off them Drs just gave and gave,methadone has saved my life but i have lost my drive too. i had a great sex life and i miss it alot but i have to weight the pros and cons and i would reather live than have sex and our partners need to understand thats its us not them. we love you and feel sooo bad about not wanting you like before .so plz give him a break and see a dr. i fineliy did and had blood work got testtosteroin raised and i feel so much better but i felt imbbarresed about talking to anyone just try to incurage him to go and know your a good partner trying to figures out things insted of just leaving
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Were you able to have an orgasm after the testosterone increase?
No joke! My poor hubby had had to go without for almost 2 yrs now. Was on 185 mgs but now I'm down to 50mgs. Still without a sex drive!! I'm willing to do anything to help please my husband.  Poor guy!!!
I been on methadone 6 years I tried it all i have a sex addict then went to a nun im a man lol.You know what I found I tired it 2nd week i was working and thought about this chick alot while working then boom boner. Im like huh wtf it wouldn't go away I got home like hmmmm have a wank yes finally its back in full force I should charge ppl for this info lol no im not a **** trust someone on methadone not some phd know it all from books ok il tell you what to buy luckily its cheap lol for under 20 bucks ok 100mg of DHEA. I got mine right here I would upload a pic.I found a site called piping rock where i get it cheap first time ppl get like 5 or 10 off so i keep making a new email they are gonna catch on soon but o h well they have the cheapest 100mg for 90 pills 1 a day it was like 9 bucks I think anyways ya a week or 2 into them i was like holy **** it worked it F****** worked finally I was about to go get on testosterone i read tons of stuff tons not a page here or there on reddit i read legit medical ****.Ok it lowers mens testosterone so low we turn into 80 yr old men i told my buddy this he went to his dr.ok his dr told him no that is not doing anything you dont need a test for that but i will do it LOL ,He was tested he sent me his results his F***** level was like 20 normal range is 300-1000 10 they said omg you need to fix this asap so the dr didnt even know but i did a methadone user who educated myself because im on it and i wanted a fix.well i was gonna go for the testosterone but this Dhea stuff fixed it,it is for raising hormone levels it works 100% , i tried 4  things nothing worked. im 39 years old so if he is older he may need a bot more maybe 2 pills per day i dont know but id like to hear how well it worked you can email me bengals18724 at gmail ******* i dunno if u can post links your welcome sorry for the crappy typing   i had to make an account just to send this but i wish someone told me this i had to suffer lose a gf then find it on my own
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I've been on methadone and clean from heroin for over a year but was still using for 3 years while on meth so a total of 4 years....days I'd use and not take my meth take home or I'd save it because I had heroin and would save a take home to save me a cab trip there on a normal dose day anyway my gf  at the Time was also in the same boat 4 years on and  on n off again with heroin ( my ex ) now and have not used dope since time break up and planning to taper off... ( why up ended up on this site at 650 am ) anyway we did not have sex alot after the meth started treatment...but I would when I dident take it literally like at the 24 hour point id be super horny and usually wake her up to mess around..always when we dident take our dose....so the sex drive comes back quick at least for me...it's crazy even today when I forget a dose I will start the earlier w.d symptoms but also start having those thoughts  and also become how do you say it... hard without even realizing it...like all those chemicals or activities come out of being dormant..so it really is the meth it's not even sometimes. .literally everytime ..because she would get upset as well I guess with girls it does not affect them as much but it still did make her less into it also....and id be like " see hun it's not you it's the meth" after hooking up....so anyway it's not you I'm sure and the porn thing..he's a guy just cause he looks at it don't mean he's taking or using it like that....might of been a impulse or something..or right before his next dose when the old dose was wearing off and maybe it just came to him and he subconsciously got on porn ... who knows but I will say I'm pretty sure it's the meth..not you.... now if he gets off of it and it's still the same then either he's still messing up behind closed doors or hes just going thru changes ...maybe ask to see a doctor at that point... hope I atlwast helped a lil in your worries....
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Try to order a vitamin called Vitadone .it helps with my sex drive,I am not tired all the time,it helps with my teeth ( since taking methdone started breaking off a few of my back teeth) , it helps with ALLOT!!! ITS MY SAVING GRACE HONESTLY. ME AND MY HUSBAND BOTH USE IT . IT IS CALLED VITADONE,IT IS MADE FOR PEOPLE THAT TAKE METHADONE!
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I'm on methadone and I enjoy a pretty regular sex life I think it just depends on the individual.
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In been on Methadone 150mg in morning and 130 at night and it lowers your testosterone I didn't want sex or could I even perform if I did want it I went to dr cuz if I had to stop taking it so my wife could have pleasure again I would stop taking it in an instant any one that says they need Methadone is wrong we take it so we don't get hi on other drugs and you don't think about sex but if you don't love your other half enough to fix the problem then they should find some one else well anyway my dr gave me a 2 mill shot of test  supinate every week which is 400 mg and now I want to have sex all the time but it is hard to find a dr to give you that much test so you might have to get it off the internet
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I am struggling with the same issue. My fiance has been on Methadone for a little over three months. Before he was drinking all of the time and occasionally using illegal drugs. I had to put a stop to the drinking and illegal drugs, so he found a clinic and starting taking Methadone. Now we have sex very rarely, maybe once a month. He sleeps whenever we have time off of work, but he does try to give me attention whenever he can. I love him more than I have ever loved another person, so I am trying to be understanding. I hate to admit, but the low sex drive is literally killing me. And the more I read about how it gets worse only makes me worry about the future. How do I cope with him never wanting to have sex? It's so hard going from having sex every day to barely having sex at all, but I feel awful for even saying that sex matters so much to me. I don't want our relationship to crumble because of my selfishness. What do I do? It wouldn't be so bad if he didn't sleep all of the time. I want to enjoy our lives tohether, be he doesn't seem to understand how I feel. We have talked about it a lot in recent months. I feel so alone sometimes and I hate it. But if he doesn't take Methadone, he will use something worse that isn't legal. I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle here. I want to understand him. I want him healthy and happy. Is it possible to not care about sex anymore? Or will this be something that ruins us later?
Please hang in there chica. My poor hubby has had to go without for almost 2 years ( and counting) and has had trouble dealing with it too. If you really love him ,work with him. You said he still gives you attention....suggest oral sex . All I can suggest is to either go work out when you feel the urge or buy a really good detachable shower head.
Try to order a vitamin called Vitadone .it helps with my sex drive,I am not tired all the time,it helps with my teeth ( since taking methdone started breaking off a few of my back teeth) , it helps with ALLOT!!! ITS MY SAVING GRACE HONESTLY. ME AND MY HUSBAND BOTH USE IT . IT IS CALLED VITADONE,IT IS MADE FOR PEOPLE THAT TAKE METHADONE!
I been on it 6 years lost one chick to it and i was the best b4 methadone 120 mg so I went on the hunt I bought dhea from puipingrock its cheap 5 bucks off 1st time customer so i use new emails each order 100 mg everyday in 2 weeks my sex drive was thru the roof also get testosterone shots or gel he will be a sex machine if not it will get worse and worse and no it doesnt come back methaodne lowers it so he is basically a 90 year old man if u want him young and F**** you again get that stuff if not well u better take off cuz it wont ever happen but if u wanna be with him get the dhea in  less than 22 weeks i was at work with a boner all day like wtf lol 5 years on done 2 weeks on dhea it fixed it right up
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Hi.....well after spending 7 yrs on the c rap I to lost not only my drive  but the inability to even have sex  it is a real ego killer for guys  we even tried viagra and it barley did anything the only way to get your sex life back is to get off the stuff  the longer your on it the worst it gets  just know there is life after methadone when your ready to get off it we can walk you threw the whole process  keep posting for support
..............................................Gnarly..............................
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dhea 100 mg once a day methadone user 6 months it lowers our t levels i told a buddy he wnet to his dr the dr acted all smart like mrmrmmrmr u dont need this ur 39 mmrmrmrm ok il do it anyways test came back holy **** this is very very low 24 normal is 300-1000 i was gonna get on t but tried dhea then all the sudden biners hell ya a wank finally works 100& been on 120 mg 6 years boner city ur welcome
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im 31 male and went to methadone after quitting roxy's and what you described in your husband I went through. I went from having sex all day everyday that used to be always a top 3 priority for me lol but i started the methadone clinic a year ago and i think ive had sex 6 or 7 times this year and i have a beautiful wife and its not hard for me to get girls im not ugly i live in a small town thats predominantly poor and im not and my confidence is high as you can see i could literally go on for ever lol i started like everyone else at 30mg went up too 200mg and i just finished (quit) the clinic 4 days ago as today is saturday and wednesday was my last day of 4mg. i found this post because i just finished an orgasm and thought to my self i cant believe i forgot what this felt like! and immediately googled to see if i wasnt alone. its not to say i ever stopped liking girls (i would still look) but i really didnt care if i had sex with them anymore i used to think it was great it was like women no longer had power over me and i could treat a women like a man and believe me none of them could understand it either. I used to avoid actually having to have sex like the plague i just didnt want to do it i felt the work wasnt worth it (crazy) Once i forced myself to have sex with someone to get something i wanted and I faked the orgasm i can say that was a first for me but i had too i felt like i couldnt stop unless i faked it and i really didnt want to do it in the first place but she was nice to me and i wanted something (i know some of this sounds bad but i want to be truthful so people can know what goes on in someones head on methadone i dont speak for others just myself) and i dont want anyone to feel like the lady writting the post and the way i envision my wife feeling the same was which i hope she doesnt she one of the most beautiful women i know. i can say i had sex when i felt i had to please my wife as she doesnt understand, or if i ran into someone (only happened once) that in my mind met all the qualifications of what i knew i should want and did it. sex still made me orgasm (sometimes when it was really really really good) but its weird to explain its like the methadone changed my decision making in a small weird way it had nothing to with energy as i worked 18 hour days and now that im coming off methadone i can say the withdrawals arent that bad i only used a 3 day patch once im on day four of that and i just feel my age (i think) (creaky body aches) and the rapid temperature changes from sweating to going under a blanket but not as bad as what i was expecting but i will say i get this weird feeling in my head like when you go too far underwater the only way i can really explain it is when i was given a prescription for anger issues it made my head feel like it was in a bubble its like that and i feel like i might get dizzy but i dont and i see the change in the way i process info its crazy im back to the old me is all i have to say without the roxy (thank god) well almost i think i have a lot more to go because this seems to be more mental than anything i wasnt forced to quit i did it for my kids so i want too, i think thats why the withdrawal wasnt so bad nothing hurts when you do it for your children and after reading your post i want to go give my wife a hug and tell her im sorry i put her through that but methadone saved my life then i feel it almost killed me as im watching people that have been going to the clinic for 20-30 years just falling apart and showing back up in line day after day and i cant fault them if it wasnt for my kids i think personally i would of stayed on methadone for the rest of my life i couldnt see the problem when i was in it i knew there was something but i couldnt put my finger on it and it was weird the new power i had over women who couldnt understand why i was always winning with them because secretly i didnt want any sex from anyone and they couldn't understand how to handle me and the flirtiness just aggravated me (i know weird again) because i could see right through it but im glad to be back in the real world my wife should be the puppet master i do believe in women propping up kings the most powerful person in the world isnt the king its the person who can make kings.
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I am 24 and my boyfriend is now on methadone treatment. We have been together almost 3 years. He developed his addiction to roxy's during our relationship. The methadone helps, but he has no sex drive anymore. Even though i know its not me, my self esteem is being destroyed. He wont go to the doctor because he is embarrassed. I worry that this will be my life now. I did not expect to deal with this kind of thing in my twenties. I don't do any drugs, but i was raised in a home where everyone did. I dont want to spend my adulthood this way. :(
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hi me ad my boyfriend are both on methadone we both go to the clinic andhe has started to lose his sex drive he wlll get hard when I give him oral sex but when its time for him to g down on me he goes limp and sometimes right before he goes in he goes limp hes blaming it on the methadne which is hard for me to believe bc he has been on it since we met and when we first got tgether we had sex at least 3 times a day he was always all over me even in public hell I thought that was all he wanted! we still kiss a lot everyday he still tells me im beautiful all the time but the sex has died down to like twice a month and even then hecan barely stay hard I feel so hurt and confused bc he says that its not me its the methadone but come he has been on it for years I mean yes he is on a higher dose now 'but 10 years of taki opiates and 5 years of taken the methadone he has no problem with his other gfs and honestly not to sound stuck up but im better lookin then most of them I just don't know what to do anymore im so sexually frustrated and tired of telling him to either see a doctor or quit the clinic ifhe loved me hed try to fix the problem and the fact I get hit on like crazy doesn't help! any advice I don't know if i can spend the rest of my life with someone that cant have sex with me like I need
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Well, its six (6) months later and as I was told ,our sex life returned to normal. He was embarrased to discuss it. It hurts a mans pride. It WAS the methadone. It removed the sex drive but not his desire to have sex or his love for me. As we developed a tolerance to the methadone and leveled out at a low dose our sex life resumed to normalcy. I encourage other women to be patient and sensitive with this issue with your partner.They dont understand this change any more than we do! A once virile man who loses his drive for sex for unknown reasons even to himself, can be extremely uncomfortable with how the subject is approached.It gets better. It goes back to normal. Be patient and loving and try to be understanding. After all, when we women have the loss of sex drive we dont show it like men. We have the same feeling but we dont have the obvious disadvantage of losing or not being able to obtain an erection! For men, its out there for you to see. So, just relax and give him some time ladies. Its NOT you!
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BUT, I should add....at least he is trying to straighten out his life. No more chasing pills and opiates. It is so true that no one mentioned the change in sex drive.   :(
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Im glad I read this...I have been completely devastated with the change in my man since we both started methadone.. I have never loved, wanted or missed intimacy so much in my life. I adore him and his change in sex drive and lack of concern towards acknowledging it also hurts. I was thinking everything from is he having an affair, to, should I look for just sex elsewhere, ( but I dont want to betray him.). Now I know I have to either learn to just accept it and live with it or encourage him to get off the methadone eventually. Until then, Im not too sure what Im going to do. It seems that now that I feel rejected and unattractive to him all the time, other men are making it difficult for me not to think about ending our relationship. Sex, or at least intimacy, is THAT important to me. He used to not be able to get enough of me. He also smokes tpot and that makes everything ten times worse., Its like he just wants to zone completely out evry chance he gets and has lost interest in everything except sleeping. Sad.
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That WALK is the best solution is Bull. You have to remember that most( if not all) addicts have underlying reasons for the addiction to start with- Most people just dont realise that !
2nd- If you do love the person you have to stand by them, no matter what !! Specialy if its family !! Of course theres limits for everything, when it comes to a marriage, but theres other ways that can be used to make up for the the decay in sex ( as they say, theres a lot of ways to kill a fly, not just one).
3rd- If they are already o methadone that means they want the change and recognise that something was wrong; That they took the first step cause they care... Mind you , its not easy to tell the ones you love that you have problems with drugs...So if they said so, it is a big start !!
I had an addiction for 20 years, destroyed several relationships, missed out on the best times of my kids, and after all that time i can say that people can change !!
So i think the 1st question one should ask is- Do you really love Him/Her ?!? If so, theres alternative solutions, ways and remedies...Remember that things will get better !!
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Methadone is not good. Ive seen people drop. If you cant help your man. WALK! I have done a lot of drugs. I have been to meetings I have been to jail. I am successful now, I still do drugs, My lady takes 100 mgs a day. I don't take them, I don't take pills period! I have had friends die, go to jail, withdraw, lie, cheat, steal, forget who they are. This is a no brainier. WALK! Best thing you can do. It will resonate, he will feel it, you aren't doing any good staying around. You must WALK!
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HI .......sorry to here your in this bind but the clinics dont mention this to anyone and it is devastating to a marriage.....it not you or him its the dam methadone it ruins both men and wemens sex drive and until he is off of it you got a sexless marrage or b/f to live with I was on it for 6 1/2 yrs and I dont even think I could get it up after 4 or 5yr on the stuff so your not alone in this ....best bet is to start to taper off and get free of this suff ....its a grind to do but it is doable ive been clean for a little more then 2ys from the stuff and everything is back to normal there are a lot more side effect then that but this one is major .....I even tryed Viagra and had no luck the only way to get it back is  to quit using good luck and God bless.......Gnarly    
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i am having the same problem with my man.. he is also in methadone treatment for addiction to opiates.. he also has no sex drive and has weight gain, and i feel the same way u do i feel he is no longer attracted to me and it hurts. we use to have GREAT sex too.. now since he has been in methadone treartment it went sour.. And i too dont understand why this is happening.. i just wish it would go back to normal.. for my self esteem, it has went down drastically, because of this. so you are not the only one that is having that problem. im having that problem too..
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i am 25 years old and have been going to a methadone clinic for 2 years and it has not had a single effect on my sex drive on bit. But that does not mean  your loved ones dont have the opposite happening to them. Because my girlfriend of 2 years began using oxys and also went to the clinic and her libido and sex drive fell like a ton of bricks and she was always a very sexual person before that and we had a great sex life.  she tells me to leave if i want to because she cant satisfy me and she feels guilty because she knows im  unhappy sexually.  But i tell her time and time again that i love her and i will stick with her through this.  So methadone will effect everyone different but it does not discriminate, male or female satistics show it can have a great effect on libido and sex drive and testosterone levels in men.
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well  here is a little different take, I am the one (female) that has 0 sex drive, I have really bad nerve damage from lower back and legs, I am on Lyrica ( for nerves) and then was on opiates 25 days clean and I would love to have my  sex drive back. 5 years ago when I meant T we had great sex and we are older than most of you but after the nerve damage and my opiates I don't want it. So is there hope for me, after I have been clean for awhile or is it the Lyrica and nerve damage??????
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thanks gnarly your lucky your marriage is secure im really going to think hard to what im going to do next as i just found out hes still taking heroine while taking methadone which has devastated me as i thought we were on our way to beating this but cleary not
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HI welcome to the forum...sorry to be the berror of bad news but methadone kills your sex drive completely I lived in a sexless marriage for 6yr....thank God the rest of our marriage was in a good place or we wouldn't have made it ....once you of it it does come back but even the stuff like viagra wont help................Gnarly  
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Finally someone that makes some dam sense....
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my boyfriend is currenly on methadone after been on heroine for 6 years he had no sex drive when he was on heroine will things stay the same or get any better with methadone
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Bumbles69 is right, I am currently on 200 mg of methadone a day and I have basically no sex drive, no matter how hard I try it just doesnt seem to want to happen.I think the only way to fix that problem would be to lower the dose. My girlfriend worried that it was her too but it truly isnt, methadone affects alot of aspects of your life(im not saying it isnt worth it though).I am sure your boyfriens feels pretty insecure about it and im sure the porn was just to try to help him get excited. It isnt easy to be a guy and have those issues especially if u r young, im 25. Basically i wouldnt blame yourself sweetheart it is cuz of the meth and let your bf know that u understand and try not to put too much pressure on him to perform cuz that makes it alot tougher too
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ok a lot of you woman on here sound really navie. My husband and i have both had our fair share of drug problems. His problems were worse than mine and he ended up joining the methadone clinic. And his sex drive did drop drastically. We  were use to having sex everyday and well it dropped to just a couple times a month. And at first ill admit i thought somthing was wrong. Even perhaps that he was cheating on me. And it caused me to withdraw from him and im ashamed to say it caused my drug use to spiral out of control. He was still very loving to me and tried to explain everything but i was to pig headed to hear him out. And from past experiences when a man stopped having sex with me he was getting it eleswhere. But he really wasnt. But my herion use became so heavy i almost od everyday. He begged and pleaded with me to join the methadone clinic with him so i wouldnt end up dying. Well i finally gave in and joined. And guess what it did help me fight the herion cravings but it really does decrease ur sex desire drastically!! So its not just a guy thing, it happens to girls too. So yea now we both have lower sex drives and that is an issue we work on. But we love each other and our lives our so much better without being on the herion. And for someone to leave someone for being on methadone( if there really on it to help themselves) is ridiculous and selfish. Now i understand all this. And relationships arent all about sex anyway at least they arent suppose to be. True love can work through any issues. i hope this helps someone understand what their man may be going  through and perhaps save some relationships.
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Hi my partner has been taken heroin for I would say 4 years (injecting from Jan till April this year) and crack.  He also took Spice.  I have known him since teenagers and I wanted to help him and now are in a relationship. I have never ever dealt with anyone on drugs so I have no idea about it all but we haven't had sex.  We have come close to it but he cant seem to stay hard for long he says.He is now on Mathadone since April 65mls.  He literally dont have any sex drive.  What I wanted to know is when he comes to start reducing will his sex drive come back.  He wants to maybe try reducing by 10mls in a few weeks time.  
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Me and my man have a real good relationship. The only thing is methadone. He drinks it everyday @ the clinic, and he wants to stop, but I am affraid he'll go back to his old habit. He had a lot of sex with a lot of women and I am 16 yrs younger than him, and I have a long sex drive, we would have outstanding sex till he increased his dosage, now he lowered it to 70, and the sex got worse. He would take 100 before, now I feel it's me, not to mention he threw me off him and ran to the shower, and not even try to explain why? I love him, and I know he wants to quit. But I also know he was a player. I don't want to loose him, but I will not be played a fool again by any man. He knows I'm slick, and a woman knows if her man is cheating. I am 100% devoted to him and I hear these old broads flirting with my man, and if he quits and wants sex? He better get it from me, I am 43 and know how to make love real good. And for these broads flirting with my man, back off! We have a good thing, and I am sexually fustrated walking time bomb ready to go off and I can do damage!!
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