HELP on roxicodone addiction.

About a year ago, I met my now boyfriend. At first, I didn't see a problem because I wasn't looking for one. Then one night, he nodded out behind the wheel of his car and ran into another car. That was when I finally started investigasting the problem. I found out that it was "roxys" or "blues". Since then, I've watched the situation get progressively worse and dealt with hopelessness because I don't know what to do. He told me a million times that he quit, but he always hangs out with this friend, who is a known drug addict and when I asked him to stop he said that neither one of them were doing them and I was being "unfair".

About two months ago, I called him at work and he just broke down on the phone saying that he "couldn't do this anymore". I knew that he had still been doing them, but after I threatened to leave, he stopped telling me the truth. So, he took a month off of school and started going to group meetings and seemed to be getting better.

Then earlier this week, I started noticed him nodding off...
Then two nights ago, I woke up at 5 am to him itching...
And then last night, I really noticed it. He started nodding out, and when he spoke to me, he made absolutely no sense, for example, we were laying in bed and he looks at me and says "are we gonna hang out tomorrow?". To me, the question is confusing, but when I raise an eyebrow he acts like I'm the crazy one. I woke up this morning to him passed out on the couch. When I woke him, he seemed surprised, like he had never been sleeping, his eyes were bloodshot red. I then asked him the question that I've asked a thousand times and of course, he denied it. I tried to explain that he was being an entirely different person and he just rolled his eyes and nodded out.

Now I know, this is going to sound like an insane question since I know he has the addiction, but...I need some help. First of all, does it sound like he's back on the pills? ( I know I've been through this before, but when he denies it, I just feel crazy, like I'm imagining it ). And second, does anyone know what I can do? I feel like him and I are falling apart over this.

[IBKleen]

Hi,

My philosophy is "If you think he is doing it, he probably is". You know what you see, your eyes are not lying to you. I am not there with you but if everything you describe is true, he is probably using. Understand that addicts are wonderful liars, thieves and manipulators. He will pee down your back and tell you it's raining if it gets him his doc.

The bad news is there is not much you can do for him until he admits that he has a problem and asks for help. Your threats are a short term solution to a long term problem.

You have to decide here what is best for you. If you stay, know that you yourself will not change him so either you accept that he is a drug addict who will only get worse with time...Or, you can cut your loses and move on. You are young and you have a lot ahead of you.

I know I am making this sound easy. It is not and will be a very hard thing to do but you have to worry about YOU. If he continues down this path it will only be a matter of time before he begins stealing or worse.

Have you considered moving on with your life? Do you have any children with him?

[p0rtraysincerity]

Luckily, no. We were supposed to move in together in July, but I caught him on this stuff and of course, didn't.

And I know the signs, I know what it looks like, it just ***** so much after he had such a good run. I asked him to take a drug test and he agreed, I just don't think he knew I meant tonight, so I'll have to see where it goes from there.

The sad part is, his parents are his enablers and they don't even know that they're doing it. As you said though, I know it's time to let go, it's just so hard because I genuinely care and do want to help him, but what this is doing to me isn't right.

[Cissy373]

Hon IBKleen is so right you can't help him till he realizes he has a problem and truly wants help.

My concern is for you, I know you care for this guy but is it truly worth ruining your life over, be careful you don't get pregnant cause then you will have a bigger problem with this guy.

Cissy

[brittmartin]

You know that sounds exactly like my ex bf? I've asked him time and time again to stop cause it was killing him slowly and I didn't even want to see him like that. There were times I would wake up in the middle of the night and he would be outside smoking a cigarette passed out on the porch burning holes in his clothes (his mom didn't let us smoke inside, she was one of those clean freaks which I loved about her) anyways, he was prescribed to them cause he had a bad back and it was always hurting him, which was fine with me and I had no problem with that at all. His problem was he abused them and when he would run out he would go to his momma, she had problems with her back as well. He always told me he was going to quit but never did, instead he would lie about it. When his mom was at work, he would go through her room for hours searching for them pills. I got to the point where I couldn't take it anymore cause everytime he would run out he acted like a totally different person who didn't want to be around me and I was with him for 4 yrs and it was sooo hard letting him go. So yeah take it from someone who been there and done that. I know it's not easy seeing him do that. My best advice is just let him go before yall both get hurt. Good luck

[darkstarz2012]

Yes he is still doing them. I have the same thing exactly going on in my house with my boyfriend. They will defend those pills and lie to the end until they have had enough. His eyes were red and bloodshot because they crush and snort the pills and it can cause a sinus infection that spreads to the eyes. If they try to stop and not ween themselves off (cold turkey) or without medical attention there is a chance of death so be careful. Weening is the way to get off of these things, but usually end up doing the same amount for a long time, then increasing again and it can turn into a vicious cycle. Good luck to you and your boyfriend, I hope it all works out.