HUSBAND BACK ON TRAMADOL

[summerloven]

My husband just confessed to being back on Tramadol ,,, this is the last straw he needs to go to rehab whether he wants to or NOT! Anyone know of any rehab programs that I can take him to in Chicago? He has no insurance and I don't have that much cash! PLEASE HELP!

[summerloven]

Dear thank you so much for the input. I am willing to fly him out there and its to the point where if he has to file bankruptcy because of this **** then I am fine by that. I wish you the best of luck my dear. please keep me posted. I know you can do this. I am here for you!

[scarlett34]

Dear Summer, I came off Tramadol 6 months ago. I relapsed last month on oxycodone when my husband had kidney stones. It was bad enough I had to go to a detoxing hospital in California and I live in Oregon. It's called Brotman. They did get me off and I didn't go back to them but the withdrawls continue long after. It's called post acute withdrawl or PAWS. Im still waiting to see if they will write my bill off due to financial hardship, they do that and more so for people who don't have insurence. Of coarse no guarantees. It is a rough place but I met the most amazing people that I came to love there.  In my opinion rehab is your best bet. Good luck, so sorry.

[summerloven]

Looking for rehab ASAP especially after last night. worst night of my life.

[Pat1956100]

Oh no, what are you going to do?

[summerloven]

haha and i gave him too much time, he didn't even last two days and already started with his BS ughhhhhh

[summerloven]

will do, well see how he acts a week from now.

[Pat1956100]

Good for you summer.  Enough is enough.
Hopefully it's a huge wake up call for him and he know's that he is going to lose you if he keeps using.
I wish you the best and definitely keep us updated.

[summerloven]

You are soooo right. Today I had a very LONG talk with him, telling him this is basically his last chance. He has until december 31st to get clean. If not it is the perfect timing to pack up my things and go back to my parents home because I will be on winter break from school and will have plenty of time to move. I think he has finally hit "rock bottom" which in a sense is good, it means he is finally ready to change. We'll see how it goes from here on out. I will most definitely keep you all posted. Thanks SO MUCH for the continued support. Without all of you I don't know where I would be right now.

[Pat1956100]

Great news Summer.  I hope you get the help you need.  It's time to take care of you.
xoxo

[summerloven]

Thanks so much for all the kind words and advice Robert. I did find an online Al ANON chat room and Nar ANON so that I can go to those virtual meetings then when I am on break I am planning to go to a real meeting. Hopefully he will wake up soon too.

[OpenMind24hours]

Hi summer, I've been going to al-anon for 14 years my daughter has been clean for 9. I thank God for the 5 years in-between, where the ppl in al-anon helped me keep my sanity. Meanwhile, I was also a recovering addict throughout the entire nightmare with her. In al-anon We help each other. Some endings are happy some endings haven't yet happened for some members, and some are sad endings. But we go there for us, not our loved ones. We go to al-anon to learn how get our own lives back. We love them so much, but sometimes too much. In al-anon we realize "we didn't cause it, we can't control it, and we absolutely can't cure it."

I wish you the best and I hope your husband quickly gets sick and tired of being sick and tired and gets help. Being a recovering addict, sick and tired is what it took for me to make the decision that I'm indeed powerless over drugs and alcohol and and it's made my life unmanageable. I then got help on my own. It was my own idea.

One of the many great things I read on this site: "In the end everything will be all right, if everything isn't all right, it simply isn't the end yet". Be patient summer, and take care of yourself. -Robert

[summerloven]

Id like to go with him to any meeting! But hes like i dont want to give my name

[Pat1956100]

No it's for the family of addicts, not for the addicts.  
I don't know if it would do him any harm though for him to hear how addiction is a family disease and how it can rip apart and destroy families.
He should go to NA or AA though.  Maybe you can go with him.

[summerloven]

thanks sooo much. I am praying for something to make a change

[summerloven]

i live in chicago il and i cant find any

[summerloven]

thanks love

[summerloven]

well he says he is open to it, but i doubt it, i might take him to Al ANON and see what they say but I am starting to think only I should go to Al ANON is it for the addict or just the family? or both?

[summerloven]

I did call Al Anon and was going to go to a meeting but I have exams at the moment and am barely going to pass them enough as IT IS! After these exams hopefully I am going to go, I found one in my area just couldn't get to it because of my school schedule :( Thanks for the support. Things are getting pretty bad here, the abuse is really taking a toll on me.

[nursegirl6572]

Sorry to hear this, but I think you sort of already knew, judging by the other thread.  I hope you have taken steps to start working on YOU too, honey.  That's SO important.

The intake depts at the rehab centers will be able to help you with sorting through what kind of help you would qualify for.  Most times, it's income based.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

[Abbey50]

What state are you in ? A lot of states have county funding to cover rehab for those uninsured . I am in nj and worked at a rehab and people's stay was totally covered.  Try checking your local resources and I'm sure there is some help out there . Good luck

[dominosarah]

Thinking of you summer~

[Pat1956100]

Are you able to go to a meeting? Maybe someone there would know what treatment is available for your husband.  
I am so glad he is finally open to it.  I know you have done everything you can.
Keep searching and talking to people.  Even if you can get him into counseling.
My heart goes out to you girl.
Let us know how you make out or if you are at your wits end.

[clean_in_ks]

Did you check out the online sites for both Al-Anon and Nar-Anon?  And then both the .org and .com sites?  I tested it for you last week when I wrote you and passed on that they have meetings in the Chicago area.

I recently checked out detox and trmt for one of my loved ones who has no insurance.  They are out there.....fed/state/locally funded.  It's a tedious process, but I found out some very helpful info.  

The literature, the online meetings, the chat rooms, etc. are filled with people just like you that love an addict.  May be that one of them can help you even further about a trmt/rehab.

Sounds like there has been a lot of progress if your hubby is "open" to trmt.
You can equip him.......the rest will be up to him.  We can never get a loved one "clean" no matter how bad we desire it for them and no matter how much we love them.  Take care of YOU while you're doing this.  It will make you stronger and wiser and "well-er" ha!  I know that isn't a word, but I like it.....kinda like "funner".  Hang in there summer~

[summerloven]

I am torn to pieces I called Al ANON finally but they weren't really open to speaking over the phone, they just told me a little thing or two about the meetings and that was all.