Help a girlfriend thats trying to help

[B&K]

My boyfriend is withdrawling from oxycotin on his own at his parents house. He is so up and down with me and no matter what I try to do for him Its not enough. Its all about hims. I dont know the side effects of this drug. He is on his 7th day off being clean. What should I expect? All i I am doing is trying to help and no matter what I do its an aurgument. Help...

[FLaddict]

He is gonna be VERY moody.... just try to be supportive.. maybe he needs a few days to figure out everything he is going through... Opiates affect alot of the brain function... especially emotions... after we stop our emotions are all over the place...
7 days is good... he is getting past most of the physical stuff now the mental stuff starts and that is the hardest part...

[B&K]

Thank you for ur support. I am not a needy person at all and going through hell in all aspects of my life. When I ask him to be here for me, he doesnt understand someone else is wanting him to help. Its all about him and what his need are. If you have any other supportive ideas, please let me know.

[FLaddict]

Check into Naranon meetings in your area... they are for loved ones of addicted persons.. you could benefit from it greatly..
He is probably not gonna be super supportive for a little bit.. He is probably a emotional wreck and can't really control it..His brain is literally trying to go back to normal.. Maybe suggest a addiction counselor or NA meetings for him..
Coming here was good too... you are gonna need support through this too..

[beachtowel]

Welcome to the forum.......
Unfortunatly his brain will never forget the euphoric feelings of Oxycotin.......
When things are good or bad, when problems come up or stress hits really hard or the bills get to heavy, relationships become difficult etc...........the brain will want relief.....to run to the safe place where pain and hurt no longer exist............
A very good drug counselor once a week to talk to would be a great start.....are you ready for the long haul......

[lonote]

[ohsnap]

I recommend, if you really care/love him, to stick by him.  He is going to be very up and down for a while, but it DOES get better.  And he will appreciate the love and support you gave him through this tough time.  I agree with all the things beachtowel/FLaddict say...they are quite experienced with all this.  I would have never made it when I got off the vicoprofen without my fiance, he was a saint.  I wish you luck, and don't take anything too personally.  I know that's easy to say, but it is the truth.