How do I confront my husband?

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I am new to this forum and have been clean for approx 120 days.  My drug of choice was norco, Roxonal and Dilaudid.  My husband is aware that I was abusing those drugs but what he does not know is that I was shooting up the dilaudid in my feet and leg.   I have a pretty bad scar on my inner calf and have been treating it with silicone based scar treatments to try and minimize visability.  I am tired of always hiding my leg from him and this summer I will not want to wear shorts for fear of the questions.  

I am in a recover program and go to NA , My husband is very supportive of my recovery and my addiction but I am afraid this will hurt him too much.  

[Teetime4u]

I don't see it erasing anything. Just sit down and talk to him about how proud you are of your success and of his support during it. Tell him you are not proud of the things you did during your addiction and will be scared for life as a reminder, to never go back. Then just go from there. You overcome the worst now its time to let go of the rest. If you have to write it down then do so but I think you just need to just tell him.

[gnarly_1]

again my wife was more hurt that I was living like that and she dident know she accepted that I had abused narcotics for 16 1/2 yrs ....we sometimes fear the unknown ...im a Christian and one thing I have learned is once sin has light shined on it it takes all the power it has over you away......I have also learned Gods principals apply to both believers and nonbelievers as well you will be fine and a big weight will be lifted off your chest when you come clean with him about this.....trust me on this one    

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I will try and tell him this week but it has to be the right time, meaning not right when he walks in from work or is exhausted.  I have this funny feeling he might know and just never wanted to confront me about it.  I  need to learn to be honest with myself and other important people in my life. He knows the worst part=me being an addict. But he also knows I quit on my own and put myself into recovery. He tells me how proud he is of me for getting help and stopping the use of opiates.  I feel like I will disappoint  him and this news will erase all the good that has happened in the last 4 months.

[gnarly_1]

HI   and no theres nothing wrong with a letter my wife has writen me several over the years
its just more intimate if you sit him down on the couch tell him we need to talk is this a good time?? if not when can we?? then you tell him and show him im sure if he has accepted your addiction he will accept this also...remember you have stoped  marriage is all about communication do whats best for you.....pray about it first..........Gnarly  

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I don't know if I have the guts to say it to his face?  would a letter be wrong?

[gnarly_1]

HI welcome to the forum.......well theirs a saying around here.....''are secrets keep us sick''
I have been married for 28 yrs with the same women for 31yrs part of our success has been our honesty with one another ....even if it was going to hurt...we would do it together my wife new I took pain pills for a bad back but it wasn't till I started my journey to get clean that I told her I was abusing them....she wasn't happy mostly because I kept it a secret once she new she has been one of my most supportive people in my life like she said we been there worst will get threw this......it time to tell him sweaty good luck and God bless.....Gnarly
let us know how things turn out      

[consequences]

Thanks for your advise.  Your right, I just need to put it out there and say it.  It is just hard because I waited this many months to say anything.  I don't think I thought I was strong enough to tell him during the early recovery time but your right, I need all of the skeletons out of the closet and secrets do keep you sick.  I just do not know how to start the conversation?

[Teetime4u]

I am on the other side of addiction. My daughter is addicted to opiates. She is not clean when she showed me her arms from the needle, I wanted to scream. But I also respected her honestly. I feel that with your husband knowing your addiction, the fact that he is supportive in your recovery I think you need to finish it and close that book. I would tell him and show him. He may be mad he may not but like so many on here says your secrets keep you sick.Congrats on the clean time. Now come completely clean and knock that demon off your back forever!! God Bless