Have you ever done therapy or tried any antidepressants for your bipolar? It seems like you have a lot on your plate my dear and it can't hurt to talk to someone. I'm all hears as well if u need me. This is not an easy road we are all on but, I still believe there is a light at the end... :)
I should know because I have bipolar and i always tried to self med.
Hey kris...this could be a number of things. Often drug abuse and mental illness overlap. Suffering the kind of loss he has will def play a part on him emotionally but, it is not your responsibility to "fix him"! I know it is sad to watch a friend fall to pieces but, it is your job to step in and tell your friend they need help (whether mental help or drug rehab) and than it is your job to take care of yourself and ur children. You did to protect yourself trust me...my sister is a heroin addict and I let her addiction over take me so bad that it has now become my problem. I started using to cope with all the pain and now I'm working on a life for myself. Trust me you need to watch out for yourself there is nothing you can do unless your friend WANTS help and wants to change! All you can do is show him the way and hope he takes the fight path!
Best of luck to you...always here if ya need me :)
Love: Ali!
also some people flip out, and if they are abusers of drugs or people it can get real bad, and if u have kids to care for, you should get em away from this guy.
and dont think ur kids wont notice if they see this guy using any drugs ( even when they are young) i still remember seeing my parents do cocaine and other drugs when i was a toddler and telling me it was a secret.
i still remember.
and have become an addict myself.
im not saying that would def. happen but thats just a slippery slope of slop that it sounds like u should get away from.
i dunno, no one knew what was wrong w/ me cuz i would lie and say i was having a cold or the flu ( i have an immune disorder so it was an easy lie)
i'd vomit and stay home for days once everymonth when the pills ran out -
also another huge indicator is TINY PUPILS all the time,
liek pin-points
i dunno anyone who's wife passed away like that could be having a lot of emotional truama still, that would have to be very difficult to deal with!
I was the friend that told you to ask him, but Kris, this is so much more than drugs with this man. You tell me he hates you, he tells you to stay away from him and puts you down. He has told you he is weird himself and not to date him. He drinks, he puts down his own child in your belly and tell you not to mess with him. He told you he will run from this kid and you. Ummmmmm, do what is right for you and your kids, this man is dangerous and it has so much more to do then drugs.I truly believe you and your kids are in danger. Since i know this whole story, ill tell ya again this man is evil and it's only a matter of time before he hurts ya. I read your post on the relationship forum and everyone told ya the same on there. Please have some self respect. Sorry if this was harsh, but wake up. You know i care, but this is crazy. Drugs are no excuse for this!
Oh, I know he bought them for her. He told me he had to buy them because she would be in a bad mood and she got to the point where she had to have them or she was sick. She didnt' work so he did help her buy them. I am not sure what happened at the end of her life. All I know is she got into to hard street drugs. He said he didn't do pills with her. I don't know.
I know when I was hiding my addiction, I was in bad moods every time I couldn't get my pills. And when you are addicted for so long, you aren't even happy when you have pills. You are constantly irritable. At least I was and I know most others are as well. Everyone is different. Me and my husband were addicted to Oxy's together and I lost him over 3 years ago to an overdose. If they were married, chances are he knew of her addiction and maybe was taking part in it. But you never know. I could be wrong. To me, it sounds like something is up. But I don't know. It could be any number of things.
oh yes, i do understand that it could be bipolar as well because I have bipolar. He does have back problems. He changes so much that it is like he is a different person. I am talking about percts. I know for a fact he took two last week. I just know remembered that.
mood swings can mean ALOT of things not all relating to drugs....
Trust me, if your friend is withdrawing from pain meds you will know. There are plenty and I mean plenty of physical symptoms. Just to name a few, he will have excessive sweating, feel hot and cold at the same time, he'll have body and bone aches, depressed, the shakes/chills, and fevers. If he has any of these in addition to his mood swings, then yes, he could be withdrawing. But it also depends on what kind of pain pills you are talking about. I'm referring to opiate withdrawal.